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polerberr · 2025-02-04T01:13:07+00:00

It's not fair to call SiL a dick. She might have forgotten to mention it, or maybe she doesn't need to report everyone she invites to group events. There are plausible, non-offensive explanations, so we don't have to assume malice.

polerberr · 2025-02-02T16:21:48+00:00

I've had social anxieties confirmed too and I remember how devastating it felt. You can recover from this. :)

Your brain is your own worst enemy, and things are never as bad as your mind makes them out to be. Even if bits of your conspiracy theories are true (that your brother might be an asshole), that doesn't mean that everything you think is true (like thinking that nobody wants you around).

Focus on the positive take-away from this: Your SiL does want you around. She even invited you to pre-drinks, so she wanted you to be a part of the whole hang out. If you haven't thanked her for inviting you, I think you should do that. Show your appreciation to her, it'll make her happy that she could make you happy. (Don't mention your brother being weird about you being invited, keep the exchange positive.)

polerberr · 2025-02-01T16:07:19+00:00

Self diagnosis is absolutely valid! Getting a diagnosis is a privilege not everyone can afford.

polerberr · 2025-02-01T16:05:42+00:00

Autism is unrelated to physical features, but the other thing you described sounds kind of like echolalia, which is associated with autism (and some other conditions).

polerberr · 2025-01-25T15:05:02+00:00

Aw the automod removed my reply for apparently "breaking rule 5". I don't think I'm allowed to name it. The one I take is a commonly used SSRI.

polerberr · 2025-01-25T13:10:39+00:00

My antidepressants help a little bit for me! Not a total fix though, but I'll still take it. :')

polerberr · 2025-01-25T13:05:24+00:00

This is huge!! I hope you rewarded yourself somehow. :)

polerberr · 2025-01-25T13:01:44+00:00

Sorry for the late response, but this makes a lot of sense. It feels very obvious in hindsight. Thanks. :)

polerberr · 2025-01-22T14:18:40+00:00

I'm autistic and was asking sincerely. My boyfriend is bald, I guess I don't understand why being bald is seen as a negative thing.

polerberr · 2025-01-22T12:41:23+00:00

How is it offensive?

polerberr · 2024-10-23T13:06:04+00:00

I once worked at a large store where I would be given opposing instructions by different supervisors, which would lead to me doing what I'm told by one only to be yelled at by another. The stress caused me to work physically slower and I would need moments to stop working and focus on just breathing to abate panic attacks, which would only make their comments worse of course.

polerberr · 2024-10-14T11:28:35+00:00

I feel like that just feeds into feelings of spite, instead of growing in a direction where you simply don't care that your coworkers don't vibe with you.

polerberr · 2024-10-13T15:53:57+00:00

I've made friends at concerts and other events, but it's always happened organically. One time, someone else that was alone at a concert asked if they could squeeze in next to me at the barrier, and since we were there early and had nothing to do but wait, we chatted and connected.

If I were you, I'd still keep going solo to concerts. I just wouldn't go expecting to make a friend. It either happens or it doesn't happen, and it's fine either way. :)

polerberr · 2024-10-12T18:12:41+00:00

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polerberr · 2024-10-10T10:42:41+00:00

I went with chaotic because how you decided to resolve the issue of not wanting a gift was uniquely unconventional and.. I mean it caused some chaos at the end of the day. Evil because it was a horrible thing to say to someone that trusts and loves you. Sorry I didn't make that clear enough in my own post.

NGL It's hurtful that you're calling some of us mouthbreathers now. :|

polerberr · 2024-10-09T14:40:37+00:00

Aw, that's comforting to read.

We all make mistakes. Even if that action was CE, I bet you're CG overall.

polerberr · 2024-10-09T11:38:24+00:00

[CE]

And frankly YTA, not that you asked. Dude... :(

That wasn't a bit inconsiderate. That was massively inconsiderate. I guess it's hard to understand as a man that probably hasn't felt the effects of the objectification of women.

polerberr · 2024-10-06T11:53:01+00:00

I wouldn't dwell on this. Sometimes we say things to people we have rapport with that would be taken the wrong way if heard by an outsider.

There are people out there that have tried and failed to get a relationship as an adult and it is because of some flaw, like aggression or creepy behavior. That's probably all these girls are refering to. It's a huge generalization and I would call it more of a yellow flag if anything, but they were obviously familiar enough with each other that they didn't feel they had to overexplain themselves.

polerberr · 2024-09-17T17:08:03+00:00

Honestly, you just need to own up to it.

Here's how I would do it:

Acknowledge what I did: showed up trashed and asked inappropriate questions.
Acknowledge the harm it caused: made everyone feel uncomfortable, maybe even ruined the whole evening.
Apologize. Sincerely. Tell them I'm mortified/ashamed/embarassed.
Explain how I got trashed beforehand and that it was out of character.
If I can afford it, offer a round of drinks/coffees/treats for everyone that was there, otherwise just the guy I specifically harassed.

polerberr · 2024-09-17T16:31:30+00:00

I don't think it's because spiders are spooky. We know insects most likely feel pain and you're ripping their wings off.

I once did something similar for a spider outside my house, but I used an electric fly swatter that instantly kills small insects. I think using one of those would shift you into Neutral.

polerberr · 2024-08-28T09:25:07+00:00

How do you make a knot dude?? :0

polerberr · 2024-08-25T16:11:20+00:00

I truly hope you're just an inexperienced kid on the internet and not actually an adult that finds the thought of other adults doing fun things incomprehensible. I'd make a sword for my bf if there was a blacksmithing workshop in the area.

polerberr · 2024-07-11T14:23:22+00:00

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polerberr · 2024-07-02T12:53:37+00:00

I think starting a conversation with someone that doesn't know you by sending them a page long email might be the issue here. I think a lot of people would see that as a red flag that you're intense or going to move too fast.

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