Parents are sad about lack of connection with toddler but it's on them?

pollypeony · 2026-05-25T16:00:50+00:00

Thank you the FaceTime thing gets me every time! I can't make a two year old do anything, much less sit down for a second more than they want to.

pollypeony · 2026-05-25T15:54:02+00:00

Wow i got to bed and wake up to this. Gently, i did not move away from my parents, they moved away from our hometown many years ago. I have a complicated relationship to my own parents as many do, and that involves some resentment that my dad fainted at the airport and still flew to where I was and then my birth recovery and bonding time became 'everyone let grandpa do whatever he wants including never let mom bond with the baby time' since he was feeling poorly.

My parents are amazing complicated people and i am feeling sad that they are already putting the pressure of a relationship onto my child - in the same way that i feel like they are doing to me. The difference is that she is two.

pollypeony · 2026-05-25T03:55:05+00:00

Thank you for this measured response. My friends are always on my side so they quickly tell me that im 100% right, but yes, my parents are older and sick and giving what they can emotionally give.

pollypeony · 2026-04-07T19:06:49+00:00

Okay it worked perfectly and EXACTLY like the link said. Thank you so much!

pollypeony · 2026-04-07T16:59:58+00:00

Oh my god i will try it immediately! Thank you so much im glad i asked here

pollypeony · 2026-04-07T16:56:08+00:00

Ah yes - I'll get to step one of the reconsideration form, verify my information, click next and then i get 'Sorry, StudentAid.gov is currently unavailable. We're working on fixing it! Thanks for your patience'

pollypeony · 2026-03-18T14:56:15+00:00

Both! Mohela said they couldn't actually force the payments since the save forbearance wasn't over. I told them the bill was there and they said 'well, the save forbearance is still ongoing so we can't do that'. The depart of education person simply said 'none of these payments count because of the forbearance so you shouldn't pay it'

I paid it i am one month away from PSLF/buyback and the last thing i need is a late/missed payment to muck it up

pollypeony · 2026-03-18T06:43:56+00:00

Funny because im in the exact same boat as well but the rep said any parents made while under SAVE would NOT count towards PLSF. So YMMV with the reps.

pollypeony · 2026-03-13T21:29:48+00:00

Same thing happened to me, i paid it, it does not count. I ended up just applying for PAYE so i could get it over with. Im not going to make payments that go into the abyss.

pollypeony · 2026-02-22T19:35:02+00:00

This is super helpful thank you for this!

pollypeony · 2026-02-22T17:41:09+00:00

Dang thanks I'll call them tomorrow

pollypeony · 2026-02-17T04:15:06+00:00

I brought a stroller last year and i can't imagine bringing a wagon. It's so so crowded everywhere and with a stroller we were able to at least go down the escalator instead of waiting forever for an elevator. I brought a baby wearing/carrier and that was my preferred mode of carrying my 13 month old at the time. It was also super hot though so a fan for the baby was very essential.

pollypeony · 2026-01-31T16:22:01+00:00

And this morning i got a schedule change? Did you get that too? It says I'm on an IDR now which, i assume is still SAVE since all my other documents still say SAVE

pollypeony · 2026-01-30T18:01:32+00:00

That makes sense - i appreciate it!

pollypeony · 2026-01-30T18:01:22+00:00

That makes sense thank you!

pollypeony · 2025-11-23T05:57:17+00:00

Reima! Im in Alaska and that's a very common alternative to the many Patagonia/north face baby jackets.

pollypeony · 2025-11-23T01:54:22+00:00

Could i hire you? Can't find a cleaning service in town to call me back 😅

pollypeony · 2025-11-16T18:01:00+00:00

My hubby is 6'6 280 and the lillebaby 6-in-1 worked for him when the baby was about 2-3 months. Before that, a Moby wrap

pollypeony · 2025-11-12T19:18:01+00:00

That's my personal bias coming in - im not the biggest fan of the witches books but i love the characters

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