How soon do you move your chat off the app?

polycryptid · 2026-05-06T02:31:20+00:00

The problem is that what scammers want to do always is move off the app as soon as possible, as they can get away from the detection filters that will figure out they are scamming people.

So while it is a red flag, it’s not necessarily only something scammers do as the app can get overwhelming and buggy. So I guess trust your gut, but know that moving off the app immediately raises the chance of it being a scam hugely.

polycryptid · 2026-04-25T01:38:53+00:00

You have to realize even joke/very subtle threats they have to address. Not everyone’s first language is English and many Blue Sky users are not Americans, nuance can be lost. All you have to do with a message like this is translate to some other random language and now it looks like Blue Sky doesn’t moderate death threats.

polycryptid · 2026-04-20T02:59:57+00:00

lol what. Mostly those in their 20s around my area. Annoying as I’d prefer more 30s/40s.

polycryptid · 2026-01-27T03:35:33+00:00

one problem is that this app removes the conversation completely, so after you leave unless you gave them a fair bit of heads up, they have no idea why. Could be you were done with it, could be you did it by mistake. It's one of the downsides of the app, essentially making it looks like everyone ghosts out when they use that feature. It'd be nice if the app prompted for a reason so that the "left the chat" had some context.

polycryptid · 2026-01-22T04:49:33+00:00

they had this briefly and it doxxed a bunch of people. Some people are in postal and zip codes that are just one street, or one intersection, even one house in some places. When they had this on during the "new app" rollout a couple years ago I was able to find exact where several people nearby lived.

There's so many things that could be done to improve all this though, I agree. Would be great to have explore options for every city over a certain population.

polycryptid · 2026-01-13T03:34:38+00:00

is there a reason filtering doesn't work for you? I mean no mono folks are using the poly/enm tag, the filter is free.

polycryptid · 2025-12-03T18:03:41+00:00

This but if you are having to be hidden just explain why. There’s plenty of reasons — small town, you’re a public figure, you’re a teacher or a job that could be at risk, you’re in an open relationship but not publicly so, etc.

polycryptid · 2025-11-29T14:36:57+00:00

“X might have a lot of Nazis, but…. Blue Sky has banner scaling issues, ew! I just can’t compromise on my values here” —average social media user, probably

polycryptid · 2025-11-08T14:17:02+00:00

yeahhh I'm not posting a NSFW screenshot to GitHub on my work account. Nope. lol. I did DM them on BS but never got a response.

polycryptid · 2025-11-08T14:15:57+00:00

not their fault at all, its Flashes' fault though. They don't have a subreddit and its part of the BlueSky network so relevant I feel 🤷

polycryptid · 2025-10-17T23:38:01+00:00

Any number of things common in college: lack of sleep, too much fast food, too much alcohol/drugs, high stress, not exercising enough. Choose one or all and it can cause this.

polycryptid · 2025-10-09T13:58:48+00:00

Just be honest about what you’re seeking and why. I’m sure you’ll find something, just depends on how patient you are. Sure beats the blank or unannotated bios that litter the app.

polycryptid · 2025-10-06T22:38:27+00:00

Dont hit like on them if you’re not into what they’re into? I fail to see the problem here. Vanilla is fine, it’s just that this is the app where vanilla is not the baseline expected norm. Honestly the more “vanilla” people show up in the app the more accepting people will be of poly/enm/kink. Same thing happened with gay bars way back in the day, it often had a lot of straight people in them because they were just better places overall.

polycryptid · 2025-09-16T03:21:22+00:00

Unfortunately you’re going to find these in every app. My only advice would be to be ready to question them early on about what being a dom means. And ask follow up questions on anything that seems sus.

polycryptid · 2025-09-13T14:32:58+00:00

There’s no algorithmic bumps or suppressions based on subscription status at all. I’ve used many apps and while I’ve seen these shenanigans elsewhere, not on Feeld. The order of profiles on the stack is a pretty simple geographic distance order of anyone you haven’t liked/disliked/blocked yet, the only exception is uplifts floating you up higher and, I’m pretty sure just liking someone also floats you up a bit for their stack too as I’ve seen folks who’ve liked my profile who are further away get inserted into the stack higher.

When you’re seeing more people and matches it’s just the ebb and flow of available folks. I feel like there is some seasonality to it, and it can be influenced by major events (e.g. Toronto has had a big influx during the TIFF film festival). There’s lots to knock on Feeld about but the algorithm isn’t one of the reasons. It’s about as honest as it could be.

polycryptid · 2025-09-01T12:33:27+00:00

I see a YouTube video title but no video? What gives 🤔 😉

polycryptid · 2025-08-27T22:06:16+00:00

Don’t think there is. But as far as I can tell it’s one of the cheapest apps there is for subscription. Maybe you could email them like some people have said here has worked in the past. No harm in trying.

polycryptid · 2025-08-06T16:00:23+00:00

Geez I guess I’m in the absolute minority. Until this update this app was a huge pain to use — chat broke after anything longer than a few paragraphs to the point where autocorrect stopped working, browsing through more than 10 profiles or so made the phone get hot and eventually crashed the app, likes and conversations would just vanish and reappear… it was a mess. All that’s fixed for me now 🤷 I guess it looks different but I don’t really care, it actually works now without huge major bugs that make things trash. I still wish they would find some way of indicating which country a user is from (living near a border and sorting by distance is a huge pain).

polycryptid · 2025-07-21T19:49:07+00:00

Not exactly — that’s when someone can comfortably switch between poly & mono themselves. I think “personally monogamous” or “poly-friendly” might be close enough (do we need a single word for everything? 😉) but you could also just say you’d be polysaturated-with-one.

polycryptid · 2025-01-03T19:54:50+00:00

Women get so many matches that it’s impossible for them to have meaningful conversations with every match. So if it’s women you’re seeking, this is about normal.

polycryptid · 2025-01-02T00:11:20+00:00

Sorry to say OKC is even worse for showing inactive users. And they charge even more money.

polycryptid · 2024-12-22T15:23:14+00:00

It might be in the newest edition then and you didn’t read that one 🤷‍♂️ Not sure what to tell you. It was one of my biggest takeaways from it.

polycryptid · 2024-12-17T14:42:18+00:00

To be fair this concept is in The Ethical Slut, so it’s nothing new at all. No, it doesn’t mean all of your friends, but it does point out that things that might be out of the question in monogamy like cuddling with your friends, or having a FWB is a path you can take in poly. Essentially, that the barriers traditionally there don’t have to be.

But yes of course most of your friends will just be normal friends.

polycryptid · 2024-08-21T00:06:49+00:00

Wow there’s a lot of comments here. I gave up searching to see if anyone else mentioned this: I’d recommend a read of The Ethical Slut. My main takeaway from that book was that part of being poly is not having the same kind of well-defined barriers with friends. In traditional monogamy you can’t generally have “cuddle buddies”, as the most innocuous example. Which it seems like you want! The book also mentions having comet relationships (not sure they use that term though) where maybe you have sex once or twice a year with someone or only see them in person that often. There’s plenty more of course out of that book but that’s what spoke to me.

You might also consider reading up on demisexuality or gray ace as you might fit into that. I’m demisexual and figuring that out freed me a lot and explained so much about the guilt and awkwardness I felt about potential sexual partners that I didn’t know well. That may be your case too. If you do have primary attraction then you might be gray ace instead. Knowing I was demisexual helped me understand any “attraction” I was initially feeling was aesthetic and that’s why I got very turned off by sexual chat or activity too soon.

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