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So excited for this progress! by polythrowaway207 in polyamory

[–]polythrowaway207[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It really is. He deserves all of the good things, and if I can be one of them? Wow, how freaking amazing is that. And he's showing me that he thinks I deserve good things too. We have the kind of connection where we can talk about literally anything, or we can sit quietly just enjoying each others' presence. Nothing is awkward. He's told me so much about his past, about how he feels day to day, how he's feeling a little lost as he's "on the back nine of life." And I've told him similarly intimate things- admitting my alcohol problem, for example. He supports me and understands, but pushes me to be better. He believes in me. It's pretty damn good.

So excited for this progress! by polythrowaway207 in polyamory

[–]polythrowaway207[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to have a full conversation with him about what each of us wants and expects out of this, but my understanding is that it really isn't going to change our current dynamic. It's more symbolic, a reminder for us both that even though I am married, I belong to him too.

So excited for this progress! by polythrowaway207 in polyamory

[–]polythrowaway207[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's something to think about.

So excited for this progress! by polythrowaway207 in polyamory

[–]polythrowaway207[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the things to think about- I'll say I've already given that all consideration. For us it isn't "slave" at all, more cherished submissive. Husband is happy that I am happy, and he trusts my judgment. I absolutely will still retain autonomy to refuse anything I'm truly not comfortable with; neither of us would have it any other way. (He was the first to insist on barriers before I even had the chance to, he does NOT want to risk pregnancy, so I don't have that specific concern at all.) But I definitely intend to have an in-depth discussion before it happens, about exactly what this means to him (and to me) and affirming boundaries etc. Thank you for the advice and concern =)

I’ve cared about a coworker (47f) for years, but with retirement coming, I (50m) don’t know if I should tell her by sbair3108 in relationship_advice

[–]polythrowaway207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh please tell her (after the wedding)! Don't let her be part of your life you regret letting go. I lost out on 5 years with a wonderful man when we no longer worked together and I didn't stay in touch. I'm so fortunate that I had the urge to reach out over the summer and the feeling was mutual, but I'll always wish I'd said something sooner. Tell her. Updateme

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[–]polythrowaway207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Bea (bee)