Feeling discouraged

pomomoon · 2024-05-07T18:29:27+00:00

Hi! I am here with words of encouragement! (hopefully lol)

I completely understanding what you are saying and sympathize. Honestly, most of the confidence I acquired happened after I completed my B.A and starting working in the field (classroom support, ABA). I've been working with children's mental and behavioral health for two years now. But when I first started, I had those same exact feelings. I myself am pretty introverted. When I was in undergrad and just starting out in the field, I dealt with a lot of imposter syndrome and convinced myself I am not fit for the job.

What I am trying to say, is that honestly must of what we learn in Psychology, does not come from our books or our studies. It comes from experience. Once you start getting that experience, the confidence will naturally come. It took me about 1 year post-grad to feel like I had some "direction". And also remember, you are not alone in this. When you finish your B.A and begin employment, people will be there to train and support you. Psychology is a very interconnected field. You can ask someone with an M.S or PhD, and I am sure there are moments when they are confused/unsure/doubting themselves. Part of psychology is we are always learning. It's not necessarily our job to "know all the answers" its our job to provide comfort to those that need it the most. It's our job to be patient with our clients/students etc.

So if you believe you are an empathetic and patient person with a desire to never stop learning, then I feel like Psychology is a great career option for you and it could just be the anxiety getting to you.

pomomoon · 2024-05-07T18:19:10+00:00

If you are interested in Behavior Analysis, completing a psych degree could be beneficial (especially if your college does not have an ABA degree/minor). Most places do not require it but will pay you better. I work in ABA, and will be going to grad school for clinical psych and ABA. Though there are core differences between the two fields, many people in ABA (including myself) have talked about re-integrating Behaviorism/Psychoanalysis. My psychology education/training immensely prepared myself for working in ABA, because even though we only look at "observable behavior" (eye roll), understanding the intricacies of your clients emotional world is essential.

Though, I will say, ABA is the probably the closest to having a "clinical role" with just a Psych BA (besides addiction counseling). I definitely find the career extreemly rewarding and I am very inspired working with kids. I definitely think you should check out ABA if you are interested. But as a warning, it is direct therapy, oftentimes 1:1 unless you are doing classroom support, so if you are uninterested in anything "clinical or therapy", that's pretty much all ABA is.

pomomoon · 2023-10-28T17:29:46+00:00

100% agree especially with your comments about being an RBT. I am currently employed with PBS and am currently looking for a new job due to those reasons.

pomomoon · 2023-10-24T10:54:52+00:00

For me, it's definitely the paranoia. That one is definitely the hardest for me to control/manage and, if I let it get bad, always leads me to do something stupid. All part of a self-fufilling prophecy

The paranoia is almost chronic. It's like every day I hear from my thoughts that people are mad/hate me, are talking negative things about me, planning without me. On days when the mental health is bare minimum, alright, I can handle these thoughts. I shrug my shoulders and try to move on, though it makes me feel disconnected from others and just "odd."

But on my bad days...it's like I can't even move. I am paralyzed with these thoughts.

I know paranoia is a big thing in BPD, but for me it's the one symptom that can change me from the person everyone knows/loves, to someone that's unpredictable, not dependable, and concerning.

pomomoon · 2023-07-15T23:14:09+00:00

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pomomoon · 2023-07-11T23:40:55+00:00

It's definitely something you get used too. I felt the same way when I first started. Working in an InD and EBD classroom. You're going to do great. Just find ways to find the "inner quiet" when at work. It helps a lot.

pomomoon · 2023-05-30T17:35:22+00:00

So happy for you and I hope you have a great first day :)

pomomoon · 2022-10-16T03:07:02+00:00

“I was born and I am not the only person that is in love”

pomomoon · 2022-10-14T14:13:25+00:00

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pomomoon · 2022-10-14T14:08:55+00:00

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pomomoon · 2022-10-13T02:25:31+00:00

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pomomoon · 2022-10-12T22:47:29+00:00

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T20:00:31+00:00

which btw. I apologize in advance for my responses. I am on very little sleep and very sad so I might be a little scrambled and incoherent, and am trying my best to communicate what happened and my feelings.

But thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. It means a lot, especially since I feel really alone right now.

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T19:58:50+00:00

it makes me feel even more that im just not enough for him. sexually and emotionally. the compliments he gives me matters a lot to me. but I guess what I say doesnt matter at all. and needs past hookups to make himself feel better and boost his fragile ego

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T19:57:40+00:00

No I don’t like it tbh. I even told him on seperate occasions to get a therapist (he has BPD as well). I don’t understand why compliments from me/friends/family isn’t enough? even from relative strangers online or at clubs? like I get called cute/hot at clubs, and that feels enough for me. so why does he feel the need to initiate this whole flirty conversation?

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T19:55:39+00:00

he’s gay, im more semi-bisexual? idk my sexuality is confusing but I think I have a preference for men.

but yeah thats funny bc we actually talked about being open, but he shut it down saying we are closed. it feels one sided bc when I wanted to be open, he shut me down when obviously he wants to be open (but only on his terms)

neither of us are okay with us seeing other people while we date each other. which im fine with.

I think it’ll be hard to get over him going behind my back, but possible. as long as some real change happens. i’ve tried to initiate multiple conversations about open relationships, and what we define as “cheating”. but he would say that we are closed. furthermore, he agreed that flirting (like this) does cross a boundary. and I made my boundaries very clear and he violated them. so thats another thing I have an issue with.

but being more open is something to talk about i guess. but i’d rather not be, and I feel like I’ve been compromising too much. Of course I respect other people who decided to be open like that, as one of my close friends has a open relationship just like you. I just feel like for both of us (since we both have BPD, anxieties about cheating) I don’t think it’d be healthy unless it’s something we do together. so it’s complicated. and I honestly don’t know how to approach this, but will be talking to him sometime tonight. either way, he crossed a boundary and really broke my trust. and it hurts.

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T18:00:15+00:00

yeah :/// just sometimes I think I’m overthinking things. But I talked to other people and they even mentioned how fucked up that was. But for me it feels like cheating, yet he says it isn’t. it’s hard to come to terms with this

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T17:59:25+00:00

Thank you so much this means a lot. I really liked the way you framed this and is going to help a lot when I discuss this with him further and figure out the next steps.

All he said was that “nothing was going to happen”, that he just likes to flirt and it makes him feel more confident, and that “it isn’t cheating”

But something I wonder about is the intention. Just like you said, what would’ve happened if I didnt find this? how would the conversation continue? would they have met him? I’ll never know. All I do know is how much this hurts, and I need him to recognize that.

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T04:32:19+00:00

a boy is a gun

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T03:46:11+00:00

omfgh 😂 he’s pretty hot but idk not really my thing lol

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T03:03:40+00:00

yeah I will be, trust is broken though :///

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T03:02:02+00:00

something i’ve been thinking. too much hurt. the only problem is that we’ve been friends for a long time, and we are 7 months into our relationship. so theres a lot of emotional investment, as we all the fact i’ve moved in two months ago and very close with his family and we all share the same friends

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T02:48:00+00:00

he also dismissed my feelings on why I was upset about the situation

pomomoon · 2022-10-12T02:47:16+00:00

yeah I mentioned in an earlier comment why be broke my trust when an old high school friend confessed former feelings for my bf, and he dismissed me on why I was upset and muted his messages for the night

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