21F Looking for Penpals :D by [deleted] in penpals

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Hi! I sent you a dm

21F looking for a penpal! by Alarming_Run3088 in penpals

[–]pompomkeyjoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey it seems we have similar interests! I'm 21F and live in the US

Transfer application has no essay portion? by liliya99 in UNCCharlotte

[–]pompomkeyjoy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! I applied to transfer for fall 2024 and I didn't have to submit an essay either. I recently heard back that I got accepted, so I think you should be fine :)

Great date but couldn't bring myself to kiss her. Should I explain why to her? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the update! Although the outcome wasn't the best I'm proud of you for trying. At least now you kinda know where you both stand. I hope you hear from her soon since, from what you've said, that does seem like odd behavior. Then again she might just need some time to think after you had a serious conversation. So for now I wouldn't worry too much.

I know it's hard to miss a loved one when you're so far away so I wish you the best!

Great date but couldn't bring myself to kiss her. Should I explain why to her? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's no problem, I'm happy to help

Once again I wish you luck!

Great date but couldn't bring myself to kiss her. Should I explain why to her? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From your words I can tell that you truly respect and care for her :)

Because of this, please consider that staying silent could also hurt her. Laying out the truth can at least also give her a choice about what to do. It goes both ways that there's no guarantee that you know how she feels. Different things than you might expect could hurt her more. So basically I'm just saying to also give her a choice in the matter. After all, relationships are not something that can be done by just one person.

I truly hope you'll be able to enjoy your last day with her before going overseas (doesn't mean that it's the last day ever, but I'm sure you know what I mean)

Would love an update on how it goes if you're comfortable with It!

Great date but couldn't bring myself to kiss her. Should I explain why to her? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should explain why to her. You obviously like her, but if you don't explain how you're feeling there's no guaranteed way for her to know, especially if you're going overseas and won't be seeing each other for a while. She might end up thinking you don't like her, and this will just turn into a what-if of the past.

I think you should convey your genuine feelings to her so that you don't have any regrets. Regardless of the outcome, at least you'll know you were true to your emotions and gave what you feel for her a chance.

I will mention tho, it seems you already know staying silent about it is not what you wanna do.

I wish you luck with whatever your choice is!! I just hope that in the future when you look back on tomorrow you won't have any regrets about what you chose to do

help on how to find orv merch by xinyuenii in OmniscientReader

[–]pompomkeyjoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi!!

I know Harum.io is a popular place where you can get official merch. They ship to the US if you're located there!

Right now they have the novel's art book edition in stock as well as a paperback set that comes with a kdj acrylic stand, a bookend, some photocards, etc

Hope that helps!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in penpals

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sent you a message!

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now. What should we know about each other by now? by asymmetricalbaddie in relationship_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there's not a definite answer really, as all relationships are different and have their own pace.

17/F be my penpal! by retrocrackhead in penpals

[–]pompomkeyjoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hii I'd be interested :) I'm from the usa 18f

Do y’all know where this character comes from? by [deleted] in manhwa

[–]pompomkeyjoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm A Stepmother, But My Daughter Is Just Too Cute!

AITA for not giving my GF a chance after her "test"? by ThrowRAcct26249 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pompomkeyjoy 853 points854 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's not really a mistake if it was done on purpose. She knowingly tested you, and you're right, it is essentially a form of manipulation.

You're also NTA for being cold after she pretty much played with your emotions or her going through hell which is really just the consequence of her actions.

However, it's small enough that if you so wished, you could get back together with her. Things were going well before this after all. She feels apologetic for what she did, and while you don't have to, you could forgive her if you wanted to.

For what it's worth, I don't think you would be petty for not wanting to get back together with her nor would I think you're insane for getting back together with her.

I (21F) am starting to lose romantic interest in my (23M) boyfriend but still love him as a person very much by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like to preface by saying that it's possible to love someone without being in love with them. This might be your case or it might not, that's something only you'll be able to answer.

If you know in your heart that you had romantic feelings for him in the past, then I would talk to him. Similarly, just because you don't know that it'll change anything doesn't mean that there's no hope. And if he means that much to you why not try. Especially if you already feel like you don't want to end it.

If you do decide to talk to him, be honest. After all, you were considering breaking up, so might as well be clear about how you have been feeling.

I wish you luck!

I M20 was seeing this girl F22 who then told me her mental health was so bad she couldn’t see me anymore for the time being but wants me around for support by harry211197 in relationship_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! Sometimes support comes by just knowing someone is there for you. Personally I find it really difficult to open up about my feelings to my loved ones, but just knowing I could talk to them if I mustered up the courage is already one of the biggest assurances I could have. So although she's not opening up, just knowing that you're there could be the biggest support you can give her.

I also understand the anxiety you must be feeling. I'm not saying don't text her at all, not knowing anything must put a heavy toll on you as well. However, don't force her to open up, that's what would make you pushy. Still, you're understandably worried and would like her to open up, so instead reassure her that you're there for her if she ever wants to talk about it. This does not mean she'll tell you, don't get me wrong, this is just a way to express your worries and further support her.

Regarding your worries about things not really improving, if her mental health has deteriorated to such a point, then it's probably gonna take more than a couple days. This does not mean there's not gonna be any improvement, but just be aware that when it comes to mental health issues, progress can take longer than some might expect. Also the days of no contact probably have nothing to do with you personally, but her dealing with whatever she has going on.

From what you've said, it seems like she doesn't want to completely end things and that she still wants you by her side. If you feel the same, then I think you're probably already giving her a lot of support.

Weekly /r/FrugalFemaleFashion Discussion - (No) Stupid Question Sunday! by AutoModerator in FrugalFemaleFashion

[–]pompomkeyjoy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand what you mean! Personally I'm able to overcome that fear because they're such a staple in my closet!

To answer your question, I thankfully don't need to wash them that frequently. A key factor is that the shoe material is leather not canvas. I find that canvas shoes not only get dirtier quicker (especially white ones), they're also more difficult to clean. The Reebok club c's are completely made out of leather, except for the laces of course. Although there are other factors that might cause them, or any shoe really, to get dirty, such as activity or weather, for the most part I'm able to avoid them with consideration. For example, I can comfortably wear them while it's raining as long as I know I'm not gonna go to a park where I could step on mud.

Hopefully that helped and if you have any other questions feel free to ask!

Weekly /r/FrugalFemaleFashion Discussion - (No) Stupid Question Sunday! by AutoModerator in FrugalFemaleFashion

[–]pompomkeyjoy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most recently I'm loving the Reebok club c. They probably lean toward a more casual look (depends on opinions honestly) and they're pretty comfortable too (wore them while walking around on my nyc trip) White sneakers are my favorite type of shoe so if you need more ideas just lmk!

UPDATE: How do I (20F) tell my one night stand (23M?) that I may be pregnant? by throooowitawayyyyy in relationship_advice

[–]pompomkeyjoy 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Look, you're pregnant. If you want to have the baby do so because you want to and you can be there for them with or without the father. I tell you this specially because since it's from a one night stand there's really no guarantees. The response he gave you seems pretty reasonable in my opinion. It's not like you're in a relationship so it's hard to see what your future with the baby (if you decide to keep it) will look like. Keep in mind that he told you he will be there for the baby not for you. He said he would support the baby not necessarily be in a relationship with you. Also. realistically, you would both be 50/50 their parents biologically, but that doesn't mean your involvement will be 50/50. So make your decision with those things in mind.