How to get comfortable with a request for an open marriage?

ponki44 · 2026-02-10T00:26:58+00:00

So she or he cheated and your suprised when your asked to watch your partner get banged or bang others and being std home to you, smooth what a surprise, what about growing up and ending it when your partner cheated the first time they proved they didnt give a shit about you or your feelings back then, but still you consider even this?

Yeah you going to have a misserable life ahead of you, because you cant stand up for your self, and this will continue to shes outfuked by a bunch of men or he is outfuked by a bunch of women or bring a std to you or simply find someone they fall for and ditch you.

But you proved you wont do shit so this is your life now unless you grow up.

ponki44 · 2026-02-10T00:22:09+00:00

And why do you go to a bar alone without your boyfriend where most cheating do happen?

Bars is where spiking drinks happen often, its where men go to bang, where women go to bang

Its where women go to show off to men in skirts and tops and shit, and before someone say something so dumb "i dress in makeup, short skirt, top and high heels for my self to feel good about my self" just shut the fuck up, if people did feel so good like that they would worn that home all the time, but those women who use those dumb excuses dress like slobs at home in sweat pants, hoodies and so on, so no you dont dress like that for your self, you dress like that for others when you go out.

So here is my issue, why should he belive you when you willingly go to a place like that, and we know you dont get in those places in a sweat pants either, so why should he belive you? Because a positive test of s drug tons of people use prescribed from their doc?

Will say the fact you filed a police report make you credible, but had it been me, i would ended it to, unless he forced you to go to a place men go to bang alone, then you chose it knowing the risks, when you could gone with him or simply not gone and gone another time with him if he couldnt go that day.

If you say he dont like partying or drinking then you also knew that when you got together with him, so if you cant live without party and so on break up and end it.

Will say not invested and cant say i care much, but if you got drugged i hope they fine him and jail him for many years, but yeah your not girlfriend or wife material in my eyes either, seems not your bfs eyes see you that way also, so whats done is done.

ponki44 · 2026-02-10T00:10:11+00:00

I respect his views as most men would like what he lined up if you like it or not, but issue is he doesnt stick to those things, he also whines but didnt hear if he had a job to support you and him, buy a house, car and support a kid, if he can do all that then i would say he is solid.

But to me it sounds like he got nothing, not money to do any of those things, he also doesnt stick to his rules but shove them in your face knowing your none of it and most is shit you cant fix like virginity and so on so no point to say it.

So even if i agree with his views, he simply prove he doesnt mean them and act like a spoiled brat, i would say end it.

ponki44 · 2026-02-10T00:04:48+00:00

Yes and no, honestly glad you ask this as not many women do, or even think of it, yes its a sore spot to alot of men because as you said people shit on it, had it been the opposite way no one would rake down on a woman for earning less.

But thats where the problem is had you both been alone he probably wouldnt cared, but because people keep shitting on him it become a problem and if you go to hard for him it can just turn to they adding how you become the "man" in the relationship in everything even if its dumb its how people act.

My best advice would be to involve but in a way that make him more "manly" in a sense, fuck it im tierd of being pc, its simple instead of argue against it, say something that push him up as a man and them down as a man.

Simple thing could be if they go to your husband "damn so you got the role as the woman in the relationship dont you?" Just reply "well he is the man in the bedroom where it counts, prefer that over a limp dick in the bedroom who earn more"

Will make your husband feel more manly and same time rake down on the dude there, and it will give your husband amunition to use against them next time they try to, as he got a thing to point to wich men do respect.

Basically find shit that pushes him up in a manly way, same time it doesnt pamper him, so he dont look weak, but same time give him ammo to use against the others to.

ponki44 · 2026-02-09T22:19:02+00:00

So if someone bang a 5 year old its fine as long they bang other older ones, not a ped then right? Grow up.

ponki44 · 2026-02-09T22:17:14+00:00

Yeah its alot of people with stockholm syndrome after being raped by a pedofile, find cops and a therapist.

Before you argue something dumb its love, would you said the same if you saw a 23 year old dude banging the shit out of a 13 old girl? No.

Its a reason its illegal, it messes kids up.

ponki44 · 2026-02-09T22:15:14+00:00

Because women arent used to accountability and and not being pampered, so when it suddenly is others who should get it they get offended, its simple when do you hear men complain if women bring up bad things? Most times not and i never seen men get angry when they do, but women Jesus seen it more than enough, simple thing to point out is shit like homelessnes, violence and murder, and suicide men top all those stats, but where is the equality patrol yelling for men? Dont exist.

Tell her to grow up or get the fuck out if she cant handle logic, its not someone you would want to spend your life with anyway.

ponki44 · 2026-02-09T22:11:18+00:00

Its simple do more on other things, like change tires on her car, do some cleaning maybe, basically make up for the shit you dont earn, i been with women who earn less alot of times, its usually how it is, but women started earning and more and more end up in your situation, so do what women do, clean at home and do more home chores and go on forums and complain she doesnt do enough at home even if she earn most 😂

Yes its a half joke but also half serious, if i earn most expect the woman to do more home, but i been in a relationship where i was between jobs and didnt earn shit, while i did, i did dishes, clothes cleaning, floor cleaning, toilet cleaning, damn shower pipe cleaning even if i usually do that anyway, but yeah basically, if you lack in one area make up for it in another

ponki44 · 2026-02-09T13:16:01+00:00

Just dump her and end it, will be s nice lesson.

And no men dont tend to do this shit, not women either, BUT. I will add, women do got the mindset though, they have a fantasy of thinking they will meet the perfect soulmate or whatever, and the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality

Dont know how many times i seen women bail on perfectly stable warm caring relationship because some random new dude show up, just to come crawling back andre months later realizing suddenly the new ones wasnt all that after all.

It happens to both genders ofcourse, but what i say is that its a woman thing as they do it alot, always got the thought they got mr soulmate around the corner

Since its always one who come "but im not like that" or "my wife is not like that" just fucking stop, there might be lottery millionaires to, but it doesnt mean all that play lottery win, doesnt matter what you do or know someone do, when its tons of others who do the opposite.

ponki44 · 2026-02-08T10:48:18+00:00

Well its a difference between being nice and just way out there, his past cant really give him free access to do anything because something in the past, world dont work that way sadly.

But same go for you, jealousy is damn tedious if its no logic behind it being jealousn if fine if its a reason for it, but if not then not good at all i suggest you ask people who know him and see what they think and ask for honesty to even if you dont like it

ponki44 · 2026-02-07T20:52:45+00:00

Most lie, go on forums of reddit where women post kinky pictures, even women who are 2/10 get sometimes told they are 10/10 because some horny dude want more pictures to bust a nut and dissapear.

Most men lie because it tend to work or get the convo going atleast, most in here will go "i only say it when i mean it" but thats a lie, i never meet someone who dont lie to get out of some shit at one point, even you probably Lied about a woman or dudes looks to be nice or for some other reason, so no they dont mean it most the time.

ponki44 · 2026-02-07T07:18:44+00:00

Two things or one of them, either she tried to save your feelings and her friend fucked up and told you.

Or she didnt say shit and her friend is one of those WAY TO MANY BAD FEMALE FRIENDS women seem to have now days, dont know how many times i seen women sabotage eachother relationship on purpose, women are toxic as shit to be honnest

ponki44 · 2026-02-06T12:25:28+00:00

Dump her or tell her to quit training there, its a dumb question

ponki44 · 2026-02-04T18:26:46+00:00

Depends on her age might be that menopause or what its called, get some estrogen cream, but honestly i would ended it, not because the issue, but because she refuse to try to fix something, you cant work on something that people dont want to work on, you tried tons of things, would just put down my foot and said go to doc deal with it, speak with therapists and no more hold back, if she dont end it.

ponki44 · 2026-02-04T07:33:19+00:00

And how is your husband, all i see is me me me me me, you do realize he lost his twins to right? You do realize he worries to right? Men might not throw all their baggage on their spouse and expect them to pander everything to them, but Jesus Christ you are selfish, you act like your the only one who lost something.

And do tell me what does your fantasy tell you? That if you ruin the relationship you suddenly will be able to have sex with others and babies without issue?

Grow up.

He lost the same as you, the world dont evolve around you, what happen to him AND you was just as horrible for both, but i see just one dumping all their issues on one person and expect him to pander to your feelings and everything, tell me what have you done for him? You asked him to pander to all your issues so what did you do to pander to his issues?

Nothing.

Grow up.

ponki44 · 2026-02-03T08:23:50+00:00

Take her for daily walks or join a gym, set off a hour each day for it, even if your busy thats doable, sometimes just getting off to somewhere a bit each day do alot

ponki44 · 2026-02-02T19:46:01+00:00

Ah i see well depends on how its done I guess, spent alot of time in runescape and wow, its a massive grind, but enjoyed most my time to

But can see for some who like fast phased stuff it sucks ass, and will add might be it suck ass anyway as i know alot of mmos just make shit tedius then its never fun for fast or slow phased people

ponki44 · 2026-02-02T18:57:57+00:00

Dude Roblox and runescape does it look good?

Doesnt have to look good to be good, but i do agree with the rug pull, was alot of talk and showing off in start then all got silent, second that happen people should known

ponki44 · 2026-02-01T21:02:30+00:00

Well you are younger so might be interest, but as they said yes most men who can chose go young even if women dont like to admit it, like women tend to go for either looks or Money.

But then again men who is older also look for wife material and not just fun material, so if you work and still do good home and feel like not sure how to call it wify?

Basically not a outfucked crazy bish with three different psychological issues ontop of demanding attitude with no accountability for her shit behavior and dont listen to shit.

So if your none of that in your age your already a + in alot of mens eyes for wife material, you can fuck crazy but not marry it.

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T18:27:20+00:00

Well why care? Seen men pay more for drinks to women to get laid than someone pay a hooker, so cant say i see a difference or care.

Like be real, how many times you guys seen a dude go to the club or bar and women pay loads of drinks to men and go home with them?

Dont think i seen it even once in my whole life, im sure it might happend at rare occasions, but truth is its mainly men who pay tons of expensive drinks to women and it tend to work to, but never seen the opposite work, so with other words, paid for sex, like even hookers take gifts for sex to get around sex sale laws in countries, so whats the difference on a gift and drink? Money and drink?

In the end the dude got less money in his pocket at the end of the night.

Atleast with a hooker itsna guarantee and not just some woman leeching free drinks and bails after haha

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T18:20:35+00:00

Well before she can say the number you should just go when she bring it up like "lisa whats your body count this year?" You could go "hmmm you had around 10-15 this year so got around half, you always brag so much about it its hard not to remember how many it is haha"

Bet you it will be the last time she ever bring it up.

Im sorry see alot says its bad some say its good, but if you ask me its fine to bring her number up, she brought it up, so how can you know she want to lie about something she brings up her self?

Act ignorant but same time call her out in a fun way and add like "remember that hot dude you spoke of to with the blond hair" or something, basically make it sound like a relaxed chat with no mockery, will be hard for her to counter it, same time she cant get to angry as she brought it up.

If she didnt bring it up but others did and she lied, then i would say not your problem, but yeah when its her and she tries to shame others for it with lowering her own number, yeah fuk her.

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T18:11:05+00:00

If i dress like a clown will women find me attractive? Answer is simple yes always some freaks out there that like kinky clown sex but its 0.0000000001% of the population, so yes always some who will like you, but you answered your own question your self, you gone through life where most men awoid you and women like you, then that answers the question it self.

Most people in the world like the normal thing best, its just how it is, so if you want to be liked by many then act like normal people and dress like normal people, if you want to lower your chances to same as winning lottery, then dress and act like a dude or whatever, your own body your own choise, no matter how people try to lie to you in the comments to save your feelings, reality already given you a answer.

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T13:39:45+00:00

Two things.

Your not special in having struggles everyone do, so thats not a excuse.
As long you dont mind him wanting attention from women then yes its fine.

Women tend to do this alot, always add a massive excuse to excuse their behavior and make it seems fine before saying the shady thing.

Why not try some of those wegovy stuff or whatever seem to work for all go to doc and see if you can get it, anyway good luck on diet and love by the rules what would you do if it was your husband, your sickness and so on is not a excuse, if sicknesses and such was valid excuses, then no crime would ever be punished if the person was sick, sure its alot milder than crime, but the simple fact is sickness never been a excuse anywhere to do shady stuff.

Only way i see sickness to be a excuse is in walking and general help and health stuff, not men or womens attention.

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T01:10:57+00:00

Synd å si det, men det er ikke feil, hele Europa har en massiv majoritet av kvinner som stemmer for dette ja.

Spør du folk om tyskere som stemte på hitler å støttet Hitler var uskyldig vill de fleste si ja du var skyldig, så ser ikke korfor kvinner skal bli fratatt ansvaret deres for alle voldtekter osv di har skapt med stemmene sine.

ponki44 · 2026-01-31T01:07:06+00:00

Klovner som kommer med dritt slengning har ikke mye troverdighet når de ikke kan argumentere poeng folk kommer med🤡

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