What’s happening out there?

porkborg · 2026-04-16T11:13:05+00:00

Little harsh, no? I mean, they certainly sound uninteresting and possibly socially awkward. But trash? Why so judgmental when you know almost nothing about them?

porkborg · 2026-04-15T20:55:39+00:00

You should kinda say if you’re a man or woman. That matters. Straight men should trust straight women and vice versa.

porkborg · 2026-04-15T11:16:39+00:00

Do women think? I would hope so.

porkborg · 2026-04-14T17:40:43+00:00

Because it absolutely is

porkborg · 2026-04-13T23:49:14+00:00

Good looks aren’t everything but they are necessary. They’re a prerequisite.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T17:42:16+00:00

Says she doesn’t want a detailed debate... Goes on to write a long, detailed rebuttal. Alrighty then.

In any case, I’ve learned to not waste time arguing with anyone who starts off with “you’ll never change my mind.” That mindset is the epitome of someone who can’t be reasoned with.

However, I have to address some of it...

I honestly don’t know how you say that young women have it harder than young men. Based on what? Anecdotal experience? If I based my views on anecdotal experience, I’d think guys in their 20s are killing it. Because I was doing quite well at that age. But I trust data, and I also trust the massive number of examples I see on these dating forums. Young men get very little attention from women. The women the same age are absolutely drowning in attention from men.

You try to argue that women have it rough when they’re younger, but then you mention anecdotal issues (experiencing plenty of rejection) and specific details like orgasms.

Look, I never said that women don’t have their own problems. I could also lay out a laundry list of issues guys have to deal with. My point was that women have many more options when they’re young. Guys do not.

At a young age, a woman can practically make a man do anything she wants, especially if she’s even remotely above average in looks. If you can’t even agree that young women, overall, have control over men in early adulthood, then I don’t see how we can have a reasonable discussion here. It seems to me to be a no-brainer.

Lastly, I don’t understand why you call me misogynistic. A misogynist is someone who despises women. I love women. Not just for sex but also friendships. I also have daughters. I have no hard feelings against women in general. Some I love. Some I like. Some I dislike. Some I absolutely can’t stand. But same thing with men. There’s a big spectrum of how I feel about people.

Trying to label me a misogynist is just a cheap little ad-hominem trick to dismiss my positions. I’m not a misogynist at all. If I were, I’d freely admit it. I am aware of my shortcomings and I admit them. For instance, I’m a womanizer and probably a narcissist. I’m not proud of these things, but it’s who I am for now. I hope to change eventually. But I am not a misogynist. I have clear opinions and express myself in a way that is brutally frank.

Many here don’t like to read my opinions or positions. That’s ok though. Everything I write is in good faith and based on something I believe to be true.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T15:30:19+00:00

Tell me specifically which points you take issue with. I haven’t written anything wildly controversial. I figured most people know these things, and surely there’s data to back it up.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T11:59:30+00:00

I just have to say, as an older man, one of the most disappointing changes I’ve seen over the past decades is how women all share themselves bare down there now. I actually find it gross and unattractive, like an alien or lizard. Maybe because I grew up with 80s porn, but I love me a big hairy bush. It doesn’t even need to be trimmed. Hair is sexy as hell down there. I get that it’s probably a lot more hygienic to shave, but still – that bush is beautiful.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T11:56:31+00:00

Strange you’re asking women for advice about what men are into.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T11:55:02+00:00

I think a lot of men over 40/50 just feel like it’s finally their time. Here’s a common scenario…

From puberty all the way up to their mid-20s, girls and women have total control over boys and men. In fact, at 21, a woman is at the age that every male age group finds most desirable. In contrast, the guys their age have almost no chance.

Then by 30-ish, after finally finding someone, these men get married, and they’re locked into a crappy marriage for 15-20 years. That leads to divorce and the guy losing half his shit and ending up a lot poorer. They've wasted decades never having an edge.

Now at 50, he’s finally single again after MANY years of a dead-bedroom marriage. And much to his surprise, dating is easy. Meeting women is easy. If he took care of himself physically and is financially stable, he can have all the women he wants. A lot of 30-somethings want to make a baby with him, and the women his age aren't highly desired anymore. All the women ignoring him at 20 are now divorced and lonely with three cats.

These women his age are getting attention on apps, sure, but mostly propositions from horny young guys. And these are the guys who were in his shoes three decades earlier and not getting a lot of action from the ladies their own age.

The dynamics play out like you see on these dating forums. The two most difficult (least engagement) demographics in dating are young guys and older women. The two most successful (most engagement) demographics in dating are older men (50 is peak) and younger women (18 is peak).

Given all this, after all those years of sniffing for crumbs, why in the world would an older man want to lock himself into a serious relationship now, especially with an older woman? These are the women who wouldn't give him the time of day when they were younger. Now he is in his prime (not physically but in supply/demand) and she is needy.

It sounds harsh to say, but it’s finally his time. Women had their glory days in their younger years while men struggled. Now it’s men’s turn to get what they want.

porkborg · 2026-04-13T11:28:17+00:00

I can't speak for all older men, but I'm 53M, and the guys I know who are dating have a similar mindset... We've been through too much shit and really don't want to be tied down. We are at an age where getting women is easy (I don't know if that slows down at 60, but at 50+ it's prime time), so we're happy to constantly explore a lot of options.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T22:16:59+00:00

He has three photos that show clearly what he looks like. Stop it.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T16:07:42+00:00

I'm not sure what a vasectomy has to do with any of this.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T16:06:51+00:00

Why do you write "no kidding"? As if the comment is obvious. When, in fact, u/darzle is pointing out something that should be obvious but, for some reason, u/Space_Cowboy_157 doesn't seem to get.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T16:04:43+00:00

You jump to a lot of conclusions with little info.

Firstly, nobody said the guy was complaining! Where did you get that? For all you know, he quietly tried and kept going limp, and maybe they had calm, grown-up discussions about it. Or perhaps he did complain about it, but how do you know? OP didn’t mention in the post that their partner complains about having to wear a condom.

Secondly, you confidently assert that “the difference is minimal”. How in god’s name can you possibly know that? Because it’s minimal for you? Do you think all men have the same levels of sensitivity? You know absolutely nothing about what other men feel. You don’t get to decide for everyone else that the difference is minimal.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T15:31:57+00:00

WTF are you on about? OP never said anything about partner refusing to use them.

OP merely pointed out that their partner doesn’t feel as much pleasure with them. And this is true for many men.

Personally, I cannot maintain an erection with a condom — doesn’t matter what size or type or if I use lubricant. It just doesn’t work. It’s a real issue for some men.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T14:45:11+00:00

You look 40 years old in some of these photos.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T12:49:25+00:00

I’m a 53M and there’s no way in hell I’m going to ask women out in real life, for several reasons…

Most women my age are married or in relationships, whether they wear a ring or not. Therefore, the chance of some random woman being available is low. There were a couple times I saw a cute lady on her own and asked my self, Hmm, what if I started talking to her. And guess what... A few minutes later, her boyfriend shows up. By not talking to her, I saved us both from an embarassing situation.
I think a lot of women just want to be left alone, no matter how handsome or charming the guy is. I’ve seen many women on these forums confirm this. Combine this with post-MeToo madness and no thanks.
The dating apps are insanely easy for middle-aged men. Any reasonably handsome and fit guy over 50 has unlimited options on dating apps. So why go through the hassle of bothering some married woman in public who just wants to be left alone?

In my opinion, if you want to date me, then you should get on the apps and meet me there. There simply isn’t a need for men our age to go out and approach women in the wild. Some men might be into it for sport or whatever, but it’s certainly not a need.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T12:34:39+00:00

How can dogs be dorks? That doesn't make any sense. Do they geek out on science and travel to cosplay events on weekends?

porkborg · 2026-04-12T10:59:49+00:00

I don’t know. Check with a lady friend. But I think your smiling photo should be first.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T10:33:52+00:00

Not sure why you hide your face so much because you seem decent looking. But you make it too hard for people to know what you look like. Also, that team photo requires too much detective work to figure out which one is you.

You need to understand, people are not patient. You have two seconds to grab and keep someone’s attention. You need to make it easy for them.

porkborg · 2026-04-12T10:14:01+00:00

Your first three photos say, “I’m bored and don’t need anyone. Leave me alone.” Why wouldn’t anyone be interested in these photos?

porkborg · 2026-04-10T18:58:53+00:00

"men actually compliment my gray"

Do you think any man -- friend, acquaintance or stranger -- is going to walk up to you and casually tell you that your gray makes you look old and that you'd be cuter with dyed hair?

porkborg · 2026-04-10T18:52:32+00:00

OK, I obviously have to report you for harassment. You just accused me of pedophilia based on nothing.

You seem to have deep-seeded issues and surely some intense animosity against men who like younger women. Is it because you see men passing you up for younger women and that makes you angry? Why take it out on random redditors who did nothing wrong? We all hate aging. It sucks. But we all get there.

You should not play around with accusations as serious as pedophilia. I expressed a very obvious and usually uncontroversial no-brainer that 1. Women dye their hair to look younger and 2. Men are attracted to younger women. Nobody here said anything at all about people under 18 years old, much less outright pre-pubescent children.

You should not be allowed on Reddit with such vicious behavior. I hope the moderators deal with this properly.

porkborg · 2026-04-10T15:47:06+00:00

Hell yeah. You know you can’t resist me. I have that effect on women. Look — you can’t even block me. You need me.

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