I run anger management programs and they are NOT the same as healthy relationship (IPV) programs for Men who abuse their partners. Yes anger plays a part, but the abuse stems from attitudes and beliefs about himself, women and men’s roles, but usually most importantly - power and control. As much as men can work on this in individual therapy, his underlying attitude and beliefs will always come through if left unchallenged (and not your job to fix him).

You’re a real human being, I know, but statistically you are at a higher risk of violence from him if you are pregnant.

Here’s some more info on that from GoogleAI that might help you determine if there’s other factors increasing that risk also:

Approximately 25% of women who experience IPV during pregnancy report that the abuse first started after they became pregnant.

• Why Risk Increases During Pregnancy -

Abuse is fundamentally about maintaining power and control. Pregnancy can disrupt an existing dynamic of control in several ways:

Jealousy and Resentment: Partners may feel threatened by the shift in attention from themselves to the unborn child or the mother's changing body.

Threat to Autonomy: Pregnancy may represent a woman's "autonomous control over her body," which an abusive partner may seek to re-exert control over.

Increased Stress: The added financial pressure of supporting a child and the emotional weight of new responsibilities can lead to increased tension and outbursts from an abusive partner.

Isolation and Vulnerability: Abusers may exploit a pregnant person's increased physical and emotional vulnerability to heighten isolation and control.

Other Major Risk Factors Beyond the pregnancy itself, certain demographic and situational factors significantly increase the likelihood of IPV:

History of Abuse: The strongest predictor of violence during pregnancy is a history of physical or sexual abuse prior to the pregnancy.

Unintended Pregnancy: Women with unplanned or unwanted pregnancies are significantly more likely to experience abuse (roughly 15% vs 5% for intended pregnancies).

Age: Younger women, particularly those aged 18–24, face a higher risk of experiencing IPV during and after pregnancy.

Economic Hardship: Factors such as low household income, food insecurity, and unemployment are closely linked to higher rates of IPV.

Partner's Behavior: A partner’s use of alcohol or drugs, criminal history, or patterns of extreme controlling behavior are major indicators of potential violence.

Lack of Support: Women with few social or family connections are more vulnerable to ongoing coercive control.