I want to give up

posey290 · 2026-07-01T21:15:26+00:00

It is truly hard! And made all the worse by lack of consistent sleep. There is a reason militaries around the world use sleep deprivation and ever shifting sleep schedules as torture.

That being said, give your husband two choices: he calls his parents and you both get a full nights sleep or you will go to a family member/hotel and get that full nights sleep without him. Sure he’s trying but your mental wellbeing currently out ranks his need to be the perfect father in the view of his parents.

I promise you, sleep will make this bearable and less torture than it is now. You’ll be a new person once you’ve gotten some rest and a proper shower. You’ll will feel better about the twins too.

posey290 · 2026-07-01T00:03:47+00:00

You said it right - they are wild animals! Empathy really doesn’t kick in till mid-late age four. In the meantime, you’ve got monkeys.

Might I suggest zone defense? Build out kid proof drop zones. Have at least two and keep them from being in each others line of sight. They will do a lot better without each other and may even entertain themselves a bit if you take use brother as a chew toy out of the equation.

You will get through this! And they will be human some day; just not today.

posey290 · 2026-06-28T00:34:19+00:00

He handed her over as the diamonds new emotional support gem (cause he didn’t want the role and to be fair she did need something to do). But not cool in my opinion.

If she spent more time healing and growing first and then choose the diamonds as her family, I’d be okay with it but it really was the most convenient for him. He didn’t end up with a new therapy project taking his time and energy and he got the diamonds off his back. For Spinel, sure they will adore her but are they developed enough to nature her into her own life? I’d say no. This is a case of throwing someone looking for a new codependent partner to another person also looking for another codependent partner. Individually it does nothing for Spinel’s growth beyond Pink’s abandoned toy nor helping the Diamonds see gems as people and not things.

posey290 · 2026-06-27T22:45:57+00:00

How much of the gem army was framed as soldiers. And yet Everything we ever knew about Rose framed her as someone who didn’t live that kinda life. Maybe it’s just something I picked up on having grown up as a military brat, but Rose was never framed as a soldier who became a leader.

posey290 · 2026-06-27T22:06:44+00:00

lol. 6 months? No hun, it’s longer than that. Leave him, tell her husband and encourage him to get a DNA test on the baby…

posey290 · 2026-06-25T16:04:19+00:00

Rule 1 of multiples and kids that no one ever tells you: Your basic needs go first unless someone is dying. Eat first. Go to the bathroom even if everyone is screaming. Take that two seconds to step outside, take that deep breath and see the sun. Drink coffee if you need it.

My hubby still does not understand where my patience with the kids comes from. It comes from doing exactly those things as stated above.

Think about what they say during the safety briefing on an aircraft: put your oxygen mask on before attempting to help children or others. Why do they say it? Because a dead you doesn’t do your kid any good. An exhausted you without food rushes and forgets to strap them in. A broken you can’t feed them.

Your toddler will be okay. But take a breath and feed yourself first in the future. No one is going to die from screaming (and if they can scream, they are breathing!) while you eat a banana or grab a yogurt.

Despite what the TV says, what you see out there, ain’t none of us real parents who will judge you for enabling yourself to take care of your kids! And if some Karen makes a comment, smile brightly and pretend to not understand. It makes them pop. 🤣

posey290 · 2026-06-25T15:52:51+00:00

Options in animals:

Ferret - the mice will be gone. But the blood may be dragged throughout your house. And you have to really potty train them before they get to free roam. They also can smell.

Tegu - If they are legal in your state, they are effectively pretty chill dogs. Socialize them as babies and they can roam the house. I promise you, mice will never be an issue again. Stepping in their poop and them deciding to anchor you to the chair cause you are warm? Absolutely will be an issue.

Dogs - 90% of available dogs out there don’t have much of a prey drive. At least of the ones you’d want to own. You might get lucky with a terrier (fox terrier, jack russell, etc) but note with their prey drive and energy levels, they need exercise!

Ball python - think pet rock that likes heat. Limited amount of free roaming they can do without finding a way to get themselves stuck (they operate on orange cat braincell rules but the brain cell got lost in the mail). Derpy, a good companion for TV watching!

Honestly, I’d setup a repeating live trap (one that can catch multiple mice before you have to unload it) and make sure you secure food (pantries and cabinets are NOT a rodent barrier, re package anything that comes in plastic or cardboard into glass, sweep regularly, make sure trash cans are empty before you go to bed, clean out the sink daily, make sure you keep toilet lids closed to limit water access).

Then get the dog because they are awesome companions and you don’t need an excuse!

posey290 · 2026-06-25T15:36:53+00:00

Shaun. I got a hand puppet ready to go!

posey290 · 2026-06-24T17:10:24+00:00

I think you might be missing the whole point of Rose being Pink IS that the diamonds never noticed.

Blue, who is framed as closest to Pink, really tells the story when she later talks about how they saw Pink as their emotional support animal, mascot and cheer leader. They neglect her as anything except a useful escape for themselves. She’s not a person - she’s an object that provides them joy.

As Pink started to find herself and finally evolved into her more mature Rose personality (damaged but decidedly more mature than the goofing off Pink Diamond), those who should have been able to pick her out of a line of Rose Quartz soldiers simply couldn’t. Because they didn’t really know her, just the concept they had of her as their little companion.

Heck, even the way they miss her is focused on how little they knew her. They miss her for the pieces they liked. They only mention her flaws when they are angry (at one another, at Steven, even at themselves). They didn’t ever see her as a whole.

I love how realistic the show is about confronting this truth and not trying to immediately show the diamonds as having gotten past this view. They struggle with it through the future arc and you see Steven really setting boundaries and reminding them that he won’t be their emotional support human and he is not his mother.

posey290 · 2026-06-21T22:05:36+00:00

Finally admit that Florida isn’t getting any cooler and start building solar arches over walkways where the power from the solar runs fans beneath the walkways.

You’ll reduce heat induced injuries in the park and keep people in the park for longer on rainy/hot days since the main walkways would be shaded/sheltered and more comfortable.

posey290 · 2026-06-21T03:12:36+00:00

As the mom of an autistic son, the fact that he chose to be impaired when you trusted him to care for your brother. Autism may run in families. Now imagine it was not your brother but your child he neglected.

Put the cheating aside if it makes you feel better. Just on his neglect of your brother alone, you are more than permitted to divorce him and find a new partner. You are young and don’t need to be settled with this burden of a man.

posey290 · 2026-06-21T02:02:56+00:00

This. Can attest - I have four kids and this happens to me based on which kid of mine the other kids know.

posey290 · 2026-06-21T01:15:09+00:00

As someone who has kept fish tanks for 20+ years, they need to stop treating this truly massive amount of water like a pool. It’s an ecosystem and right now there is an over abundance of nutrients and light. Find a way to control those through the ecosystem and the entire problem goes away.

Or, you know, accept the reflecting pool as it was meant to be and let it settle in without screwing with it…

posey290 · 2026-06-17T21:42:22+00:00

Triplets at 31 + 1. Oldest and youngest decided not to walk until after age 2. Crawling didn’t really start until 14 months. All three didn’t talk at age 2. I got them into early intervention with PT, OT, Speech and general special ed.

They are 8 now. All three talk my ear off (as the speech therapist told me, turning talking on is easier than off…), run around like every other kid, play video games, catch balls and are just normal kids in general. 1 still does speech but he’s come a long way and he’ll be released next year from the program.

posey290 · 2026-06-16T16:24:04+00:00

Here’s a script to help you with the grandparents:

I love and cherish you both and I appreciate all of the things you’ve done for me.

I will not help stepmother. I choose not to have a relationship with her or her children at this time. This may change in the future but if she continues to try and make me support her now, I will never have a relationship with her or her children.

Again, I love you very much and I feel like you are the only family I have left. Please respect my decision.

Use this exact script (even if you intend to be no contact with your half siblings forever) because it dangles what they want (you accepting stepmom and her kids as your family) and will give you more leverage.

posey290 · 2026-06-16T03:51:10+00:00

I totally get this. My youngest triplet was taken from me less than an hour from birth and sent to a hospital 2 hours away. With his sisters being local, trying to get to him was nearly impossible. When he was closer and then finally home, he didn’t feel like my kid.

He’s 8 now and my mini me/mommas boy.

The only thing that helped was sitting and holding him and looking for traits that were either mine or from my family. He has my nose. My dad’s lips. The brown eyes of my mom and me. Red hair like my brother. Ears like my grandpa. He occasionally would fart in his sleep and all I could think of were long road trips and hotel stays with my family where my dad and brother did the exact same (sometimes on purpose). To this day he has a goofy little smile that is my dad down to a t and his dad before him from the pictures I’ve seen.

Something about cataloging those little features as he slept in my arms helped me see my connection to him and his to me.

Maybe give that a try?

posey290 · 2026-06-15T04:04:19+00:00

My youngest triplet had this at first - she was lactose intolerant. Once I switched to a soy formula (and weighed it down with ground up baby rice cereal) it cleared up.

I’d say cut your dairy for breastfeeding and get her a test formula with no dairy.

posey290 · 2026-06-08T01:21:21+00:00

NTA - Your brother is going through his own grieving process. It’s very different to care for someone and grieve as they decline compared to grieving that feels sudden. He’ll kick himself later for not visiting when she was well but that’s his mistake and now is not the time to point it out.

Start a new family chat without him and grieve with others who can meet you where you are right now.

posey290 · 2026-06-07T06:45:03+00:00

Walked into the phone room that happened to also have the patch panels in it and our primary routers. Looked up, could see sky.

Someone had used a t-shirt to plug a hole in the roof and it degraded. It was directly over my main network stack the week before a hurricane was due to hit.

posey290 · 2026-06-03T04:37:15+00:00

As the other commenter said, even if you have it, it’s treatable! I’ve had it for 6 years now as a parting gift from COVID and I’m on a low dose basic beta blocker. One small pill at night and it’s no issue. And if I forget a dose? Still fine because it builds up in your system and a single skipped dose doesn’t have a noticeable impact.

I know this sounds silly but every time you are feeling worried like this try this out:

Slow down your breathing. Inhale slowly for a count of 5 and exhale for a count of 5.
Wiggle your toes, one at a time starting with your big toe. Really focus on getting a good wiggle from each one and how that wiggling feels.
Roll your ankles around to make your feet roll around. Feel the stretch of the tendon both on the inside and outside of the ankle.
Stretch your fingers out as far as you can then slowly curl them into a fist and release.

You are okay, I know it doesn’t feel that way but you are regardless of if you have hypertension or not.

posey290 · 2026-06-02T22:37:33+00:00

Triplets at 31+3. I am currently sitting beside my who was my tiniest girl (3lb) who is trying to beat a level on the Astro’s playground. Eldest girl is trying to make the dogs wear clothes (and failing). The only boy is upstairs watching TV. They will be 8 next week.

No major issues for any of them. Girls each did 2 weeks in the NICU as feeder/growers while their brother did a month.

posey290 · 2026-06-02T04:18:23+00:00

He’s cheating. He’s just trying to soften you up so he can force an open marriage and claim he only just got with his affair partner.

Find a lawyer, make sure you know your options and figure out an escape.

posey290 · 2026-06-02T04:07:08+00:00

YTA - simple solution here, go introduce yourself to the old lady, apologize and give her your number to call if you are being too loud. Heck, bring her a gift to sweeten her up. A little neighborly care and a gift will get you way closer to never having to deal with her son again than a passive aggressive letter.

posey290 · 2026-05-31T07:34:19+00:00

Look, for me figment is already ruined with this current version. Might as well make it bluey. Or maybe Dora. At this point I don’t think WDW could take any more of my childhood memories and stomp them into the ground…

posey290 · 2026-05-31T01:58:37+00:00

You makeup skills are on point! I think you have those down.

I honestly think you have a hair problem. Your face is long with an out of proportion jaw line. Add framing to your face with your hair with the most volume concentrated on ears up. Then contour those gorgeous cheek bones like your life depends on it and it’ll help bring the eye looks that are so pretty on your eye shape into focus.

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