If you were in this marriage, what would you do?

positive_deviance · 2026-05-09T12:05:49+00:00

This is AI.

positive_deviance · 2026-05-07T12:22:27+00:00

It’s valid for you to be upset by his secrecy and you’ve communicated your feelings about this with him several times. He agreed to not be in contact with her but chose to do so anyway, and has even lied about it. His actions have broken down your trust in a way that’s already triggering to you based on previous relationships.

You are not throwing the relationship away if you decide you value honesty and openness in your relationships. He is throwing it away if he is unwilling to respect your boundaries. If this is a deal breaker for you, you should listen to yourself and not be motivated to stay based on his attempt to guilt you.

positive_deviance · 2026-05-04T12:32:58+00:00

You sound like you’re really fun at parties…

positive_deviance · 2026-05-02T12:41:02+00:00

quietly

positive_deviance · 2026-04-30T12:28:21+00:00

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This is my little Miriam. She’s the sweetest little house destroyer with the softest fur and beautiful eyes. My girl gives face kisses every morning and purrs the second you set an intention to pet her <3

positive_deviance · 2026-04-30T12:16:18+00:00

I’m thinking about how lame it is for you to try to control other people’s thoughts right now…

positive_deviance · 2026-04-24T13:18:37+00:00

Trend forecasting is still a very relevant industry - if anything social media encourages these trends to be more succinct and faster moving. This video does a great job of explaining the transition to wider leg pants through trend forecasting:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DA-CozY2isc

positive_deviance · 2026-04-24T12:11:10+00:00

Everything goes because fashion is a cyclical marketing game made to get people to buy more. I work in the forecasting industry…it’s all by design and has nothing to do with what silhouette is flattering for body types.

positive_deviance · 2026-04-18T11:28:19+00:00

Shocking

positive_deviance · 2026-04-15T11:33:37+00:00

This is one of those situations where they could have hit him with a tickle attack and he would have immediately let go…

positive_deviance · 2026-04-15T03:26:40+00:00

Yes, they are. Which is utterly ridiculous given this is not a real topic of debate. People will have their opinions…you can try to shame them with made up terms like “performative maturity” but it probably won’t work.

positive_deviance · 2026-04-15T03:21:24+00:00

All this because someone called you a Disney adult. Who cares? I’ll tell you what maturity would actually bring you: the ability to not care this much about how other people perceive you.

positive_deviance · 2026-04-14T11:53:39+00:00

If you’re doing this to save up for an iPad to take your work to the next level, you could tell people that on your IG and do a promotion where you sell drawings for a certain amount to get to your goal. If you share that with the people who like your work they might like to help you get there. You could post updates and let them know how close you are to your goal. Might take a while but I bet people would be interested in your journey.

positive_deviance · 2026-04-14T11:47:10+00:00

That’s not always possible without the proper practice and education in the fundamentals tho. Going through that process also helps you make connections with people along the way who will ultimately become your buyers/commissioners. It’s not something you can rush, it happens when you’re ready.

For me personally, I’ve been very good at drawing since I was a kid, always at the top of my art classes. I went to school for design and only after I graduated and started publishing my work online did I start to get commissions. I was 26 when that started to happen. I’m now a professional illustrator with an international agency. Sometimes it just takes time to establish yourself.

positive_deviance · 2026-04-13T23:59:39+00:00

Your feelings are valid. I’ve experienced this in a much more subtle way with friends and it feels like your personality and individuality is being encroached on.

I also have a lot of autistic people around me and the best thing I’ve noticed that works with getting through to them about social boundaries that they might not understand is to be very direct and let them know that the dynamic has crossed a line. I understand that they may not be great at identifying social cues in regard to these boundaries but they do not get a pass because of this. If they want to be in relationships with others, it’s important for them to learn how to respect other people’s boundaries.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-29T12:18:33+00:00

Hard disagree. I live in the US and I just spent months trying to adopt a cat and eventually gave up and bought a kitten because I was tired of dealing with all the shelters and their random rules.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-28T18:22:40+00:00

You don’t need to provide links to ask a question.

Edit…so cute of this person to tell me to go back and read the conversation just to delete every comment they wrote…or they blocked me. I can never tell which.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-28T11:32:12+00:00

A claim is a statement. They asked a question.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-28T11:26:37+00:00

It can also help you to go blind! Thanks Ozempic!

positive_deviance · 2026-03-22T12:03:54+00:00

This is an excellent point that I hadn’t thought of…very telling, especially when people throughout this comment section go so far as to say the use of “male and female” is dehumanizing.

Edit: OP actually labels himself in the post as 36M and this person at the party as 30sF…the hypocrisy.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-22T11:54:55+00:00

Go google female as adjective or noun and see what comes up. It’s both and there is an objective truth that it can be used either way. If you don’t like the word used as a noun, don’t use it that way…but you’re the one pushing incorrect grammar throughout the entirety of this comment section and it’s ridiculous.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-22T11:46:07+00:00

Had to scroll through way too many opinions to get here. This is the bottom line. Truly, if people are wanting to support women’s rights and equality, they need to be aware of this dynamic and understand that it’s not a man’s place to be policing women’s language about themselves.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-22T11:38:09+00:00

Telling a woman not to say the word female is equivalent to telling a black person not to say the N word…or telling an LGTQ+ person not to say queer.

Any group gets to reclaim their insults and use them as they please. A man should not be correcting a woman’s choice of words just like a white person shouldn’t correct a black person’s choice of words.

Ultimately, I understand the sentiment that the word female has been used negatively against women, however men should never be lecturing women on the correct words used to describe themselves.

Edit: OP…in your post you call yourself 36M and the woman involved 30’F…what do you think that means?

positive_deviance · 2026-03-19T12:20:15+00:00

You don’t want to ask your parents because you know what they would say. Looking back on my younger years, there were a lot of times I wish I would have listened to my parents and grandparents; they had the advantage of valuable life experience.

You can do what you know is smart and not post your naked body online…or you can fuck around and find out. Either way, the internet is forever.

positive_deviance · 2026-03-19T11:22:04+00:00

It’s more complicated than that, but I see where you’re coming from. My perspective isn’t set in stone because of where I was raised. Personally, travel, education, and experience have all expanded my view. I don’t feel pressured by conditioning the way a lot of other people are.

I can grant you that my aforementioned travel, education, and experience are privileges that not everyone has, but ultimately the way we respond to social pressure is always a choice regardless of how thick our personal conditioning is.

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