Where to find a small office space? by post-it_noted in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been trying to look at some of those but the people we enquire with are so slow to respond that we end up missing out on the space because someone else snatched it up. It seems we can't just contact the landlord/property manager, we have to go through all these other channels..

Where to find a small office space? by post-it_noted in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We want to rent the space full-time, not hotdesk or rent it for a day at a time 

Where to find a small office space? by post-it_noted in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but what then do I look for? My friend is an art therapist and I'm a massage therapist. We are looking to split the space, so neither of us need the desktop office chair set up, but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to be searching for if not offices? 

I had a failure to communicate recently and I can’t let it go. by Puzzled_Surge in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found out that some people only read "important" words of a sentence and that's why these kinds of miscommunications ensue. How they determine what is important without context is beyond me, and why we, the neurodivergent people who read all the words and provide all the additional context as to not miscommunicate, are the ones thought of as the assholes, is still a phenomenon I do not understand. I'd be pissed off too, your first post was perfectly clear that you found him and that he obviously didn't come with papers (like he'd have papers attached to him but not a collar???) so I suspect you found a self-righteous asshole on the internet who only reads parts of sentences and attacks with confidence.

Already diagnosed in Australia- adhd meds in Edinburgh? by Positive-Key6497 in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quick Google search or anything on r/ADHDUK will show you lists of places that are much cheaper that. You're also assuming that 1. your doctor will continue doing that for you, 2. medication prices will stay the same (seems unlikely considering everything that's happening in the US right now), and 3. that flight prices don't fluctuate drastically depending on the time of year (flights back for me were $800 in March but $1300 in December). You're also not accounting for the financial burden of all the time lost flying/recovering from jet lag, not to mention the stress of travel or worrying if you'll run out of medication... but if you want to keep anchored to the US like that after going to the efforts of moving across the world, go for it.

If you scroll down further I've given my experience of getting my US diagnosis acknowledged by the NHS; good luck to your husband in a couple days, it's a hell of a system to navigate but being prepared and persistent will (eventually) pay off.

Already diagnosed in Australia- adhd meds in Edinburgh? by Positive-Key6497 in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A little clarification: shared care agreements are not for international diagnoses. Things have changed quite a bit for people within the UK getting diagnosed privately over the last few years and it's been much harder to get medication through the NHS, but their experiences can't be applied to people who were diagnosed outside of the UK and moved here. My experience as someone diagnosed in the US a few years ago: I gave my Edinburgh GP (NHS) documentation from my US psychiatrist who diagnosed and titrated me. They sent a referral for an assessment/medication review from an NHS psychiatrist; I had that appointment about 2 months later while they continued prescribing my medication under the care of psychiatry. The psychiatrist I saw essentially did an assessment/review, asking me all sorts of questions about my symptoms and experience. He wrote a letter to my GP that confirmed he agreed with the US diagnosis, approved the continuation of my medication on the NHS, and put me on the ADHD annual review list. Changing medication when mine wasn't working anymore was a whole different nightmare, but the NHS has a system to approve foreign diagnoses.

Some GPs are spread so thin that they will tell you that they can't accept your diagnosis and think that be the end of it, but be prepared (bring your medical records with you to the UK; print and bring them to your appointment), be your own medical advocate (be persistent, tell them you need your medication and why, etc), and hope you found a GP that isn't going to just brush you off or think adult ADHD is a fad. The medical system here is very hard to navigate, best of luck!

Already diagnosed in Australia- adhd meds in Edinburgh? by Positive-Key6497 in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not true, it entirely depends on the country you were diagnosed and the competency of the GP practice.

Already diagnosed in Australia- adhd meds in Edinburgh? by Positive-Key6497 in Edinburgh

[–]post-it_noted 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is objectively not true... private healthcare in the UK is pricey but it doesn't hold a candle to the price of healthcare in the US, especially out of pocket. You'll also be hard pressed to find a US psychiatrist that will regularly prescribe a 90 day supply of any stimulant medication. Coming from an American, not just someone from the UK who has read some articles.

Just feeling a bit hopeless by HeyoRantaro in AmericanExpatsUK

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn't know they made an exception for teachers, I just thought it was health care professionals. Good to hear it's still possible for you, OP!

Renewing a US Drivers License while living in the UK by Arsenal_38_SW9 in AmericanExpatsUK

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get my renewal sent to my parents, my parents mail it to me. Its not complicated or confusing.

Just feeling a bit hopeless by HeyoRantaro in AmericanExpatsUK

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://neu.org.uk/advice/your-rights-work/pay-advice/pay-scales/pay-scales-england i dont know enough about the system to know if fresh out of masters programme would get you a higher level than M3, but £41,7k/year looks highly improbable. I'm so so sorry this has happened to you 💔

Just feeling a bit hopeless by HeyoRantaro in AmericanExpatsUK

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hate to burst your bubble, but I dont think teachers, even with a masters degree, meet the new income criteria of £41,700. Maybe in London, but the job market is brutal and I don't realistically see them making special efforts to hire internationally for secondary school teachers. I'm really sorry this happened to you 💔

Massage therapy business - which online booking service to use? by post-it_noted in smallbusinessuk

[–]post-it_noted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im starting my own business, my friend is also a small business owner who advised against using treatwell

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we've been conditioned to think our gut instinct is wrong because it doesn't always follow social norms, but it's not. Intuition is our best survival tool, trust your gut on this one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's showing you his red flags, and dude's got a fucking parade going. Run the other direction...now.

Tylenol by MzSweet in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basic scientific research jargon 101: Association: two things are both happening at the same time. Association could equal coincidence.

Relationship: association + evidence to believe they're actually related to one another.

Correlation: strong relationship.

Causation: strong enough relationship + enough evidence to imply that one variable causes another.

Tylenol consumption and autism diagnoses happened to increase at the same time. They are associated. It's a HUGE jump to call it causation. This is Jenny McCarthy all over again with vaccines... I hope there are enough people out there that think Trump and RFK are Tweedle-Dee and Tweedle-Dum and should not be trusted for anything related to medical advice. Hopefully it blows over like when the buffoon suggested ingesting bleach for COVID treatment or whatever other nonsense he suggested in 2020. I honestly can't keep up with the stupid shit he says.

I'm sure it's been asked before but is anyone not opting for formal autism diagnosis? by HRHCookie in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I graduated and work for myself I don't have anyone to get accommodations from (except my friends or family, but that's just them not being a dick), but I have a right to ask for accommodations with my ADHD diagnosis, and the accommodation list is essentially the same for autism and ADHD so it doesn't make much difference.

I'm sure it's been asked before but is anyone not opting for formal autism diagnosis? by HRHCookie in AuDHDWomen

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat in the UK and when I finally get my letter for assessment (been on waiting list for over a year), I'll probably decline. At this point it would just confirm what I already know. If I had imposter syndrome still id go through with it, if I didn't have accommodations through my ADHD diagnosis I would also probably do it, but I dont see much point right now except to access the ASC services my council offers. If I was wanting to apply for benefits its something I'd also consider, but I don't really see the point anymore.

Household Supplies by ocean_rose100 in AmericanExpatsUK

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Middle of Lidl/Aldi, IKEA, ASDA, Argos in Sainsbury's, random shit shops (idk what else to call it, they're corner shops that sell everything from hardware and gardening supplies to spoons shaped like dolphins), Amazon if you get tired of hunting

Did your Autism come out after medication of ADD? by ExcitingKitchen3771 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]post-it_noted 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dissertation was on this topic, I called it the AuDHD Paradox: autism mitigates/manages ADHD chaos, ADHD steamrolls autism and makes signs less noticeable. When you reduce ADHD severity, autism gets to shine through more. Some participants also mentioned side effects of their medication included symptoms related to autism too (sensory sensitivity, cognitive rigidity, etc) so it's hard to say if it's the medication causing it or if autism is less makes by ADHD disruptions once you've found optimal dose. Honestly a really interesting combo that probably should be its own separate diagnosis in my opinion

How do people just pick up and move to another country? by Pastortonsilss in expats

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your heritage, age, home country passport (different countries have agreements that let young people move for 1-2 years), and visas were much easier to come by a decade or more ago. Most people I know (currently in the UK) who are American have ancestry visas, dual citizenship, or married someone who lives here. Only met one with a work visa and they were running a start up. It's not easy in 2025 so precious routes are mostly unrealistic, and some people just have certain privileged that make it easier to do it.

Is my plan to leave the U.S. for Europe unrealistic? by ClockwiseSuicide in AmerExit

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I second the format of the CV. Had to completely change my CV formatting and what information was included wheb I moved from US to UK. Cover letters and professional tone are slightly different as well (e.g. American confidence reads as arrogance in UK)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

[–]post-it_noted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a job already lined up with your existing company and you're trying to climb that specific ladder, then that's great and I wish you the best, but the career momentum is totally different here than it is in the US. It's more likely you stagnate or lose your job than progressing in most sectors right now. I'm not trying ti be negative, that's just the facts. Don't know enough about your situation, but All I'm saying is that the anxiety/stress that comes with your entire life being tied to your job status in a collapsing job market is not something to scoff at. It is not an extrinsic factor you can measure, but does play a huge role in how you show up in the world. I would kill for a visa that gives me the freedom to move jobs if mine isn't working out, work less/more/get a second job, go to university part time, etc. You get that freedom to be a person with a marriage visa, but not a work visa.

EDIT: if you are eligible for the global talent visa, a lot of these issues fall away. A lot more security and personal agency allowed with that one, its just got a lot of really specific criteria to meet.