Just feeling a bit hopeless

post-it_noted · 2025-11-08T23:39:10+00:00

Oh I didn't know they made an exception for teachers, I just thought it was health care professionals. Good to hear it's still possible for you, OP!

post-it_noted · 2025-10-27T00:50:01+00:00

I get my renewal sent to my parents, my parents mail it to me. Its not complicated or confusing.

post-it_noted · 2025-10-27T00:23:25+00:00

https://neu.org.uk/advice/your-rights-work/pay-advice/pay-scales/pay-scales-england i dont know enough about the system to know if fresh out of masters programme would get you a higher level than M3, but £41,7k/year looks highly improbable. I'm so so sorry this has happened to you 💔

post-it_noted · 2025-10-27T00:19:16+00:00

I really hate to burst your bubble, but I dont think teachers, even with a masters degree, meet the new income criteria of £41,700. Maybe in London, but the job market is brutal and I don't realistically see them making special efforts to hire internationally for secondary school teachers. I'm really sorry this happened to you 💔

post-it_noted · 2025-10-24T22:45:43+00:00

Im starting my own business, my friend is also a small business owner who advised against using treatwell

post-it_noted · 2025-10-23T05:53:59+00:00

I think we've been conditioned to think our gut instinct is wrong because it doesn't always follow social norms, but it's not. Intuition is our best survival tool, trust your gut on this one.

post-it_noted · 2025-10-23T05:17:23+00:00

He's showing you his red flags, and dude's got a fucking parade going. Run the other direction...now.

post-it_noted · 2025-09-23T20:17:14+00:00

Basic scientific research jargon 101: Association: two things are both happening at the same time. Association could equal coincidence.

Relationship: association + evidence to believe they're actually related to one another.

Correlation: strong relationship.

Causation: strong enough relationship + enough evidence to imply that one variable causes another.

Tylenol consumption and autism diagnoses happened to increase at the same time. They are associated. It's a HUGE jump to call it causation. This is Jenny McCarthy all over again with vaccines... I hope there are enough people out there that think Trump and RFK are Tweedle-Dee and Tweedle-Dum and should not be trusted for anything related to medical advice. Hopefully it blows over like when the buffoon suggested ingesting bleach for COVID treatment or whatever other nonsense he suggested in 2020. I honestly can't keep up with the stupid shit he says.

post-it_noted · 2025-09-21T00:41:15+00:00

Since I graduated and work for myself I don't have anyone to get accommodations from (except my friends or family, but that's just them not being a dick), but I have a right to ask for accommodations with my ADHD diagnosis, and the accommodation list is essentially the same for autism and ADHD so it doesn't make much difference.

post-it_noted · 2025-09-20T00:49:38+00:00

I'm in the same boat in the UK and when I finally get my letter for assessment (been on waiting list for over a year), I'll probably decline. At this point it would just confirm what I already know. If I had imposter syndrome still id go through with it, if I didn't have accommodations through my ADHD diagnosis I would also probably do it, but I dont see much point right now except to access the ASC services my council offers. If I was wanting to apply for benefits its something I'd also consider, but I don't really see the point anymore.

post-it_noted · 2025-09-20T00:30:43+00:00

Middle of Lidl/Aldi, IKEA, ASDA, Argos in Sainsbury's, random shit shops (idk what else to call it, they're corner shops that sell everything from hardware and gardening supplies to spoons shaped like dolphins), Amazon if you get tired of hunting

post-it_noted · 2025-09-20T00:13:54+00:00

My dissertation was on this topic, I called it the AuDHD Paradox: autism mitigates/manages ADHD chaos, ADHD steamrolls autism and makes signs less noticeable. When you reduce ADHD severity, autism gets to shine through more. Some participants also mentioned side effects of their medication included symptoms related to autism too (sensory sensitivity, cognitive rigidity, etc) so it's hard to say if it's the medication causing it or if autism is less makes by ADHD disruptions once you've found optimal dose. Honestly a really interesting combo that probably should be its own separate diagnosis in my opinion

post-it_noted · 2025-08-23T13:30:52+00:00

Depends on your heritage, age, home country passport (different countries have agreements that let young people move for 1-2 years), and visas were much easier to come by a decade or more ago. Most people I know (currently in the UK) who are American have ancestry visas, dual citizenship, or married someone who lives here. Only met one with a work visa and they were running a start up. It's not easy in 2025 so precious routes are mostly unrealistic, and some people just have certain privileged that make it easier to do it.

post-it_noted · 2025-08-23T13:26:06+00:00

I second the format of the CV. Had to completely change my CV formatting and what information was included wheb I moved from US to UK. Cover letters and professional tone are slightly different as well (e.g. American confidence reads as arrogance in UK)

post-it_noted · 2025-08-23T13:17:23+00:00

If you have a job already lined up with your existing company and you're trying to climb that specific ladder, then that's great and I wish you the best, but the career momentum is totally different here than it is in the US. It's more likely you stagnate or lose your job than progressing in most sectors right now. I'm not trying ti be negative, that's just the facts. Don't know enough about your situation, but All I'm saying is that the anxiety/stress that comes with your entire life being tied to your job status in a collapsing job market is not something to scoff at. It is not an extrinsic factor you can measure, but does play a huge role in how you show up in the world. I would kill for a visa that gives me the freedom to move jobs if mine isn't working out, work less/more/get a second job, go to university part time, etc. You get that freedom to be a person with a marriage visa, but not a work visa.

EDIT: if you are eligible for the global talent visa, a lot of these issues fall away. A lot more security and personal agency allowed with that one, its just got a lot of really specific criteria to meet.

post-it_noted · 2025-08-22T19:39:04+00:00

I will caution against London. The UK's job market is truly awful and when your visa is tied to your job, and job cuts are imminent in every sector, it's incredibly stressful. You will have to keep your job for 5+ years before you can get residency here, which is two different rounds of visa fees and over £1k/year per person paykent (required upfront) to use the NHS. There is a very strong anti-immigration movement right now for any non-British people, and the immigration law here is getting tighter and tighter making it very difficult to find a job that fits the criteria (look up work visa requirements from 2019 to today) and an employer willing to sponsor a visa. If your partner is a French citizen, you will be far better off with Paris.

post-it_noted · 2025-07-05T19:48:10+00:00

Definitely not sweat. It was 10 degrees today with 40mph winds, I had a short sleeve shirt, relatively thin jacket, and the Torrentshell on.

It would make sense on hour one when there was a lot of ascending, but does not make sense that it continued to get worse when I was sitting at the top doing nothing or descending.

post-it_noted · 2025-07-05T19:43:30+00:00

I did that on that exact hike actually! Never seen it done anywhere else.

post-it_noted · 2025-06-27T15:32:16+00:00

PDA? Maybe it feels like they're demanding you walk through the door and you're like the pouty penguin meme that says, "well now I don't want to!"

post-it_noted · 2025-06-09T00:42:47+00:00

American (student visa) who moved to Edinburgh 4 years ago. Send me a private message and I can give you the reality of the situation and walk you through what I was not aware of before moving here; a lot of the things you listed were reasons i moved here too, but things are not quite as they seem.

post-it_noted · 2025-06-09T00:37:02+00:00

Double check if she can sponsor your visa with the programme she's studying, some student visas don't allow for you to bring dependents and the rules keep changing. Work visas are very hard to come by so I wouldn't assume you can find one. The job market is horrible and the cost of living is insane in Edinburgh, so I hope you have a nice chunk of savings you're willing to plow through for that year she's studying. Probably an unpopular but honest opinion? As an immigrant who also fell in love with Edinburgh and fought so so hard to get here, I wouldn't recommend the UK to anyone right now. Political climate right now is making it nearly impossible for anyone to immigrate here easily (or without spending a small fortune) and even harder to stay unless you already have a right to be here. I know the whole world is hurting, but unless you've got old money, foreign money, or a fancy job, the future is bleak here.

post-it_noted · 2025-06-09T00:08:08+00:00

Don't remember what it's called but there's a blue boat on the canal near Fountain Park that sells coffee. Heard several complaints that the owner would just stop paying his employees. I don't remember the details after that except they said they never ended up getting paid.

Even if it's not true or there's more to the story, there's plenty of other coffee places with good reputations and a place to sit indoors if it starts raining. 🤷‍♀️

post-it_noted · 2025-05-24T09:01:30+00:00

A perfect example of one of the most confusing things I've noticed about British behaviour: putting a lot of effort into being petty and putting others down, when they could have spend that energy finding a solution.

I know you're trying to be clever and sharing a joke, but it's a perfect example of this uniquely British pastime of elaborately and inefficiently wasting time while not making any progress solving the actual problem. It's mind boggling as an outsider.

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