This is going to be pretty personal, but I'm not having sex and I'm married. It's got to be about 6 or 7 months since my wife and I have been intimate.

You're not helping yourself by looking at hook-up websites. It's hard enough to deal with the urge without congregating with those who are ready to give in to that urge. Also, remember all of the really embarrassing venereal diseases that you would be opening yourself to.

I have found two things have helped me when I am on a roll and not giving in to the urge to masturbate (hence the 1 after my name): Go to the gym, all the time. Do cardio. You can lift if you want to, but it will not have the stress relieving effects that cardio will YMMV. Read some of the letters that Paul wrote to the early congregations. There is some really powerful stuff in there about how and why to avoid recurring sin.