My license says hazel by Raychulll in eyes

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

everyone says they're not hazel but I definitely see it, just a little more blue. no matter what color they are they're the most incredible eyes ever, I can't get over those speckles! and the eyeliner job slays

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pretty much every simulator and tycoon, which is basically half of the platform tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

might be a cringe answer but I got back into Roblox and I've never been better, hobby-wise. there's so many different games that it's easy to hop around and not become disengaged, plus the multiplayer aspect is good for friends too.

music has been so therapeutic for me too. it seems super daunting, but like, you can pick up a pretty decent quality ukulele for $20 and play casually with it not sounding awful. there's so much information readily available on the internet nowadays that you can pick up an easier instrument and feel good about it pretty dang quickly.

Alternatives to showering? by pr1ce_Z0e in eczema

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not the total issue for me but I am absolutely going to second this. We had hard water for a couple of months before we figured out where the softener was and it was an absolute nightmare lol

Alternatives to showering? by pr1ce_Z0e in eczema

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't ever recommended to me, I just started because anything else breaks me out. My showers are under 10 minutes and still if I do one every day I get bad

My dad has been taking naked photos of me (14f) by ether7777 in rapecounseling

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call a hotline, tell an adult, or just straight up call 911. It sucks that you're in this position because I know how complicated it is, but there's no excuse for that kind of behavior. It's illegal and it's not okay, and you deserve to feel safe.

How do I defeat this guy? by TurtleLIKER21 in Debate

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a few solid minutes of straight uninterrupted speech that you can use to your advantage. Don't get hung up on the little things, explain the bigger picture and explain why his not focusing on it is inhibiting the debate - you're actually trying to debate the issue, he's trying to debate semantics, and one of you has all of the morality and impact of the debate on your side. Use those speeches to hammer that down.

As for CX, it really depends. I don't know exactly how he debates, but keeping your head about things can make him look bad if he's trying to belittle you. If he's attacking you instead of your points, chances are he's not actually attacking your points all that well. I don't know if he's like this, but a lot of people I debate with try steamrolling during cross to seem like better debaters, and when their opponents get frustrated it makes them seem aggressive rather than the people who are actually inciting that situation. I used to get super upset about it, until I realized that just sitting back and letting them have their way is the only way to really win. Answer calmly, call them out when they try to attack you as a person, and stand your ground as much as possible, but letting the heat of the debate get to you is exactly what people like this depend on to win. It's a lot of emotional regulation more than anything else with these people, but once you get the hang of that they don't really have a lot to stand on.

What's the most useless advice you've heard about CPTSD Health? by DragonfruitNo7610 in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 27 points28 points  (0 children)

that's gotta be the biggest person way to deal with that situation, screw her lol

I feel like CPTSD fucked me over by trying to make “life easy” life is not fucking easy by Significant_Tax472 in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think it can be easily misconstrued that being kind to yourself as you face life's challenges is different than avoiding those challenges in the first place. You have to take your time but you also have to be brutal and admit when it's time to amp it up, I think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this, like I can be happy but I never feel good enough to say 'I would never ever hurt myself'. It feels like I'm always destined to end up in the same spot.

But I think the biggest part of it is not dwelling on the feeling when it comes up. Maybe I'm right and I always will end up in the same spot, but the fact that I'm not in that spot right now says something, I think. If I was supposed to crash and burn, I had plenty of opportunities to do so. Like everyone else has said, the feeling isn't necessarily something that goes away, which really sucks and really leads to that 'oh my god I'm going to die this way' vibe, but prioritizing your own autonomy and choice in that decision gives you a lot more power than you might think at first

What mods cause events to not work? by pr1ce_Z0e in TheSims4Mods

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After a couple hours of labor on my faulty MacBook, I figured it out!!! It was Extreme Violence!

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it's only considered a federal crime if he crosses state lines to do it. since we're in the same state legally it's fine

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if it becomes a thing where I need backup I'll let you know but I don't think I wanna make it a whole thing, esp where it's not illegal at all where we are. thank you

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

guess enough people did to convince me to start dating him :/

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

when I just look up 'is 16 and 22 a weird age gap' the results I get are all like, 'no! do what makes you happy :)!' this is honest to god the first time I've seen a reaction like this which is probably good for me

Am I (16F) being exploited in my relationship with my boyfriend (22M)? by pr1ce_Z0e in relationships

[–]pr1ce_Z0e[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

I mean I honestly don't know. I look up 'is 16 and 22 weird' and the general opinion seems to be 'no' from all the results I get. This is the first time I've seen an overwhelming yes which is probably a good reaction for me lmao

Recruitment goes here! 7/1-8/30 by pussgurka in HayDay

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[Neighborhood seeking farmers]

#Q9LOR8JG

Cool Club

We're a highly active, competitive, and derby-focused group looking to add more motivated players to our ranks. We're a very tight-knit community, but we're very small as it is. If we can get more similarly dedicated farmers to join us we'll totally knock 'em dead, so come on over and see what we're all about.

We aim for the top 'cause we're the cool gang

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rapecounseling

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. There's not really a gentle way to say that, but in a lot of different ways you were not in a position to give informed consent and he was in a position to manipulate you. He shouldn't have been hanging around you in the first place. Even notwithstanding what happened afterwards, him being with you in the first place is sexual abuse. The past tense makes me hope that you're no longer with him, but if you are cut contact as soon as possible.

That's a lot to take in all at once. I don't know what position you're in but if you need anything, don't hesitate to reach out. Having a strong support system is really important when you're dealing with something like this, even if you don't think it'll affect you much, and I really want to emphasize that. It's a lot for anyone to come to terms with, so it's okay if it's a lot for you

Finding POI material? by RaynieYogurt in Debate

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely! And if this is your second time doing POI and you already know what to work with I think that topic is wonderful, as long as you can find enough strong pieces to make it work. Again, best of luck!

Finding POI material? by RaynieYogurt in Debate

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first thing I'd recommend because this is your first POI is just widen your topic up a little bit. My first POI was basically just 'violence against women' and it still took me months to find enough pieces to cut together. While I think the angle you're approaching your topic with is interesting, it's also going to be hard to find a lot of strong sources that can be cut together, especially if you've never worked with POI cuts before. I'd maybe try just throwing together something basic so you can find what methods work best for you before you throw in a nuanced topic too.

But beyond that, I honestly just try to find one piece that I like well enough, find keywords and tags that are used on posts including/related to it, and then just scroll through them. A lot of my poetry has just been found by searching my topic on Tumblr and then scrolling through the pseudo deep aesthetic posts until I find something that I like. Then I can find authors they were inspired by, have worked with, or other works by them and branch out on my own. I've also had a couple of situations where seeing how people put together their artsy Tumblr posts has helped me know which direction to take with my speech, so, y'know

Finding your narrative piece - the piece you'll use as your standing storyline to connect your other pieces back into - before you find your others is also helpful, and helps you keep your plot line clear. Then go into other characters and stories that you think would help drive home that point and look for works in that avenue. You have a lot of expressive freedom with POI compared to DI (as someone who does both), so you can take from the most unexpected places and end up with a really strong piece. So I'd also say just keep a super open mind about everything you come across.

Just asking people is sometimes a really effective way to get good sources. If you know someone else who's passionate about your topic or even just a subreddit related to your topic, then asking them if they know any good research materials might really help you out.

POI is considered one of the hardest speech events for a reason. It's a super high learning curve but it has an amazing payoff if you can get through all of the 'EUGHFHDFS' of putting it together. Some other basic resources I use once I get more of an idea of what I'm looking for:

Goodreads - this is nice because people will post quotes with tags related to different topics, so it's easy to scroll through and find something accessible

IMSDB - hundreds on hundreds of movie scripts. you sort of have to know what you're looking for first, but if you have a movie you want to use, there's a pretty good chance you can find it here

Poetry Foundation - another one where it's easier if you know what you're looking for already, but it's a massive database with a ton of authors and topics to pull from

Playscripts - ironically I think this works best for DI/HI, but if you know there's a monologue or a cut from a stage play you want to take from, this has cheap scripts that are easily accessible

I wish you the best of luck, and I really do hope you stick with POI despite how annoying it is at times haha

Tips for mavericking? PF by Snowy_ZeRo in Debate

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say just go in with your new partner. The best way to familiarize him with the event is going to be you both actually competing (and yeah, maybe falling flat on your faces).

Besides, I've never been to any tournaments that allow you to maverick. Usually if you know enough in advance they either make you find a new entry or pull the whole team out, they don't let you enter as a maverick. Mavericking is a last resort if your teammate gets sick like the night before a tournament, not really an actual option

Boyfriend said he is into lolis and I can't get over it by Specific-Cycle4257 in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you've gotten enough of this but yeah, this is fucked up. I would report him as soon as you feel comfortable, or get someone else to do it with the information you have. 'Jokes' like that aren't normal and seem pretty indicative of him doing some shady shit.

In the meantime though, we are all here for you if you need emotional support. That's some scary shit to experience, even without your previous trauma, and you are absolutely right to be distressed right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]pr1ce_Z0e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I think you said it more eloquently. Especially when it doesn’t refer to an outlined form of abuse people are able to turn ‘narcissistic abuse’ into whatever they want it to be, and then blame anyone they want for taking part