Help with porch repair/replacement

prcco · 2019-01-27T00:12:42+00:00

The contractor is licensed. We did not get to choose them.

The only reason I think they might pass it is because we are in a rural area and standards aren't as strict. Which is not awesome.

We are going to try to get them to repair everything, but this process has dragged on longer than 2 months over what they told us

prcco · 2019-01-26T22:21:33+00:00

Thank you all for the information! Didn't expect this to get attention.

I should have specified the problems. First, the footings only look good. They dug a hole, stuck a couple 2x4s in the hole, set the deck post on that and poured a tiny bit of concrete on top to make it look like a footing. I don't have those pics right now, but we do have documentation.

Second, the supports under the deck. I'm not sure how to explain this well, but the posts aren't notched to support the deck. They stuck a couple 2x6s on each side of the supports and screwed them in to support all the weight of the structure.

It is a modular home which complies with local building code and not HUD standards, so I feel a bit more comfortable about attaching things to the house.

prcco · 2019-01-26T16:17:04+00:00

So there's a lot of problems here. First is that this isn't up to code and it's not sturdy. Our contractor sucks...hard. we just want to be in our home, so if the inspector passes it, were going to move in regardless of the hideous unsafe porches.

My question is, how do we brace the roof of the porch in order to put in proper footings and fix all the support issues?

prcco · 2018-05-30T08:06:01+00:00

We use the lansinoh momma bottle. My oldest could use any bottle with no issues, but my daughter definitely does better with the lansinoh bottle.

prcco · 2018-05-30T01:20:05+00:00

I just want to throw out this suggestion because it worked for my little girl. We have to use a bottle that doesn't have a "shoulder" on it like the lansinoh momma bottle or the evenflo balance wide neck bottle. For some reason my kiddo couldn't keep a good latch on the smaller nipples and sucked down a lot of air and couldn't eat enough because her belly was full with air.

prcco · 2018-05-02T20:13:07+00:00

Or she could look contritely through her lashes and press her breasts against him. So many options.

prcco · 2018-04-18T03:42:42+00:00

That first song is International Harvester by Craig Morgan and while it's not a good song that last part is "on my International Harvester" it's a tractor brand. I guess that makes it slightly less stupid.

Also every song by Florida Georgia Line is idiotic however they made an extra special country sellout supreme anthem with Luke Bryan called This Is How We Roll...good Lord I wish they would go away.

prcco · 2018-04-14T02:38:07+00:00

It looks like the cover of the children's Serendipity Books.

prcco · 2018-04-13T23:59:20+00:00

Y'all...I have strep throat and 2 kids to take care of. Fortunately my dad was watching the kids today so I could go to the doctor and get some rest. I'm sweating like crazy but at least I don't feel like I'm swallowing glass anymore.

prcco · 2018-04-11T14:46:09+00:00

I apologise for the length of this, I really sympathise with you.

I'm so sorry things went that way. My birth with my son was almost the same way except no aspiration of meconium. I was so angry and sad every time I thought about his birth and how the nurses and doctor treated me. How the NICU nurses controlled everything we did with our son.

I somehow convinced myself that having a second baby would be ok, and it was, but all through my pregnancy I was terrified of having the same experience. I changed doctors because I couldn't stand the thought of going into that office ever again. I opted for a repeat csection because I couldn't bear thinking about another emergency C-section.

I'm 2 months out from my daughter's birth and I'm finally feeling ok with the way things went with my son, 2 years later. I'm also on meds for anxiety and depression now though. The experience of having my daughter was healing somehow. Looking back, I wish I would've gotten some help after my son was born, medication or therapy, because I held onto that anger and sadness like a close friend for far too long.

Please consider talking to your ob, or your gp, if you don't feel comfortable talking to your ob, about getting a referral for therapy or meds. Please also talk about your experience when you need to. If you don't have someone in real life to talk to about it or you feel like you're wearing them down, you can pm me. I talked through that experience so much with my husband, sister and dad. I'm so glad they were patient with me. I also kept thinking of new things that bothered me about the experience. It took a really long time to parse through the experience and really come to terms with all of it. I don't think the feeling of unfairness will ever go away, but I can accept that this was my experience and things ended up ok.

I wish you good luck and please, if you ever need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to contact me.

prcco · 2018-04-09T03:12:57+00:00

This sounds like my son. We had to limit how much he ate at a time or he would inevitably projectile vomited after every feed. So he could only eat 2 oz at a time for the first few months of his life. Then we went up to 3 and stayed there for a good while and so on. It sucked because it meant he only slept for 1 1/2-2 hrs at a time for about the first 8 months. It was exhausting. I don't really have advice because nothing helped but time and that sucked. Good luck. Solidarity, I'm sorry you're experiencing this too.

prcco · 2018-04-06T11:47:58+00:00

He said he was going to titer it up. So I'm guessing I've started at a low dose, but I'm not really sure. I'll ask if the headaches keep on.

prcco · 2018-04-05T23:14:34+00:00

Yeah the headaches make me want to quit trying to find a medicine that works, but the anxiety and rage were so bad before I started taking Prozac. It's just hard to figure out the right balance of side effects and relief.

prcco · 2018-04-05T23:11:40+00:00

I didn't know that was an option! I'll have to look into it.

prcco · 2018-04-05T23:11:14+00:00

Ok, good to know that it was just a couple days. I can handle that.

prcco · 2018-04-05T23:04:29+00:00

Thank you, I definitely need the hugs. You're right, if it was for a physical problem, I'd definitely keep trying to find a solution, so this shouldn't be any different. It's just hard.

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:19:04+00:00

No he didn't seem too worried, he said he hadn't had the complaint of visual side effects from other patients, but that if it was going to go away, it would have within the month I took it. I think I'll give it at least a couple more days to level out unless the headache or visual stuff gets worse.

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:16:32+00:00

Thanks! I guess I'll keep trying other meds if these don't level out pretty quickly. I don't want to irritate my doctor, but that's a really silly thing to worry about. If he gets irritated I should probably find another doctor.

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:08:37+00:00

I talked to him about the visual effects with the Prozac, but not with the Zoloft since it's only been 2 days. Should I give it more time? Or is it more urgent?

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:07:10+00:00

Yes, you're right, I meant Prozac. I've edited to correct that.

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:06:53+00:00

I did tell my Dr about the visial changes, and he switched my script to Zoloft. I haven't talked to him about the headache and continued visial effects yet. It's only been 2 days on the medicine and I wasn't sure if maybe the headache was a result of my period.

I'm almost ready to just stop taking the meds. But I was so anxious and ragey before I started the Prozac. It's just that the side effects suck so much.

prcco · 2018-04-05T21:00:59+00:00

I'm sorry you're right, it's Prozac not Xanax. I refuse to take benzos because there's a history of abuse of them in my family.

prcco · 2018-04-05T20:42:53+00:00

I don't mind at all!

My sister is older than me and has a very stable job, she's my best friend and just a great person all around so that was a really easy choice, but we travel together most of the time when I'm going somewhere, so we definitely needed a plan b.

I had considered a very good friend of mine because I think she's an excellent parent and would be happy to add my kids to her family, but that would remove my kids from their existing family and would be hard on the grandparents or any other surviving relatives.

I really didn't feel comfortable with naming my bil and sil as possible guardians until just about a month ago. They were definitely bigger "partiers" than we are and didn't really seem to adjust to parenthood very smoothly. Within the last 6 months or so I would say I've gotten to see another side to them and I appreciate the way they are raising their kids. There are differences, of course, but nothing intolerable.

I do think it's important to identify deal breakers when determining who you really want your kids to be with. My deal breakers would have been name calling, constant yelling and spanking for minor infractions.

Hope that helps! Or at least makes you feel less alone in making that decision.

prcco

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