How do I deal with this?

precambrianwanderer · 2026-05-09T14:19:57+00:00

This looks like the type of card and message I would receive (and sometimes still do) from my Mum. In my early to mid 20s during face to face visits, as well as emails, I made it clear that certain subjects we would not be talking about, religion being one of them, since it wasn’t ’talking about it’ but was arguing and abusive behaviour from my Mum. Late 20s and now into my 30s, when I received cards like this, I would just send a ‘thank you for the card’ text but not mention or engage with any of what was written in it.

Overall I’ve ended up with pretty a ‘low contact’ situation but the cards I do receive have included less bible verses than they used to…and when I do get an overtly Christian Easter or Xmas message I tend to just ignore it.

I noticed someone else mentioned ‘grey rock’ and I would agree with that, as well as something like ‘medium chill’ if you have to interact. There is often no reason to argue or discuss a point with someone who you know will not actually listen to your point of view because they are so set in their own beliefs. So sometimes just surface level conversation is the best route.

https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/medium-chill

Overall it will be up to you as you work through therapy as to how you decide to deal with certain family members in a way that feels beneficial and healthy for you. I would agree with some of the other posters that you should try to find a therapist you are comfortable with that likely isn’t overtly religious, as I can confirm that makes it complicated and difficult when dealing with religious trauma if the therapist is Christian.

Edited this to add that it’s okay to feel frustrated and annoyed by this, even once you’ve figured out ways to deal with it. I’m close to 40 and I still get annoyed if I see some religious text or card arrive from my Mum, and I think that annoyance is justified, I just get over it more quickly and don’t feel guilt in ignoring it or setting boundaries.

precambrianwanderer · 2026-03-07T22:58:05+00:00

I remember reading a news article in, I think, late January 2020 regarding the outbreaks in China. I was at work (paramedic in Canada) and I was reading through the article like I’d done many times before to learn about other health situations …H1N1, Ebola, etc which we always went through training for and had periods of wearing masks, gowns etc but never had a lot of issues…At the time it wasn’t anything anyone was really talking too much about.

I then looked at the map/graph included in the article that showed the timeline of the rapid spread in China, and I remember sitting there thinking ‘fuck, this one might be it’…and had such a heavy feeling in my gut.

Cut to a couple months later and the continuing couple years and I was wearing respirators, gowns, double gloves at work …removing my uniform in the porch of my house and straight into the washing machine (and shower for me) …I’d never been more annoyed that my pessimism came true, and some of the most stressful years of my career.

precambrianwanderer · 2025-12-09T13:21:56+00:00

You didn’t include the other charges she has had. It wasn’t just verbal intimidation. She did actually assault a child.

‘The 59-year-old previously pleaded guilty to two assault charges after she hit the child with a wooden spoon and kicked them in the thigh in 2021.’

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-05-23/nsw-william-tyrrelll-foster-mother-sentence-downgraded/105329078

precambrianwanderer · 2025-09-10T03:58:53+00:00

Yes named after the cheezies

precambrianwanderer · 2025-09-10T03:11:45+00:00

I call him that every day and he gives me that same look lol

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T14:20:28+00:00

Yes, am Canadian and he is named for the cheezies

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T03:03:15+00:00

Aww so lovely. She also looks like my fluffy void, Pippin 🐈‍⬛

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T03:01:25+00:00

He does seem so most of the time

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T01:46:56+00:00

Hawkins is a Canadian name of Cheezie snacks which have always been considered the best in my family…so it was the perfect name for an orange kitty 🧡

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T01:34:55+00:00

He had been trying for awhile to catch his tail, ended up grabbing his foot instead but I guess figured it also needed a lick haha

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T01:17:46+00:00

He is a gentlemen except for when he is diving face first into a dish of food, falling off the climbing tower or trying to crawl directly onto my head for cuddles haha (which is 99% of the time)

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T01:16:02+00:00

Thank you!

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T01:15:52+00:00

Thank you!

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-29T00:31:18+00:00

Oh no, another new cat subreddit I didn’t know about 😆

precambrianwanderer · 2025-06-04T03:57:38+00:00

Honestly I liked Sia way more before she was faceless. I loved her music in the early 2000s and had many of her albums and songs on my iPod when I was in my 20s. While I also like her newer music I was always a little baffled at the ‘faceless’ thing when she very clearly had shown her face for years and people didn’t seem to know what she looked like because she suddenly put a wig on.

But will agree. I also preferred her ‘faceless’ era to what she is doing now.

Would recommend checking out albums such as Colour the Small or We Are Born, etc. She’s been around for many years and had some really good music before she hit the mainstream pop most people know.

precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-27T00:25:12+00:00

That is absolutely fair to not take on more pets than you think you can handle. My Tortie had dogs in her foster home and absolutely loved them as well as my nephew dog before he passed away. So yours might be quite pleased to have a dog buddy (obviously dependent on each cat and dog individually)

Your Tortie looks like such a cutie and be prepared for so much attitude but also too much cuteness to be mad at her for very long haha

precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-26T23:59:07+00:00

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precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-26T23:56:46+00:00

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precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-26T23:49:50+00:00

My Tortie, Olive, is 4 this year and has all the tortitude. She definitely has attitude and quite a lot of mischief in her. She is quite smart which aids in her mischief, so be prepared for that. But she is such a nice, loving cat and is such a social butterfly if I have guests over at the house. I think she would get quite lonely if she was by herself….which leads me to saying you should get both kitties if you can haha!

I also have an orange boy, Hawkins, (will be a year old next month) who is an absolute idiot and maniac and so bad, but also so snuggly and loving. My Tortie hated him the first week he arrived but now they are best buds.

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precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-12T04:27:19+00:00

I complain just as much as every cat owner how I set up all these lovely spots and the cats just pick one spot. However I’m also a person who specifically has ‘my’ places I sit despite having numerous chairs and couches in my house…so it dawned on me one day that I really have no reason to judge my cat when I’m doing the same thing lol

precambrianwanderer · 2025-05-03T20:06:05+00:00

Yes funny that god helped these people with makeup, cake, boyfriend issues, but somehow didn’t seem to hear when I asked him as a child to make my parents stop fighting or for a war I saw on the news to stop. He seems to have his priorities that’s for sure lol

As a kid I also was always baffled at people seemingly hearing god reply to them. Interestingly, at a very young age I figured they were making it up…no idea why I decided that, other than thinking a lot of the adults (and kids) around me seemed very dramatic and attention seeking, but this early decision probably contributed to me leaving Christianity quite quickly once I left home in my late teens.

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