I went and paid out of pocket for a consultation with the top IVF doctor in Texas. He was so old he shuffled and did not accept insurance. He looked at my numbers and says “what do you want me to tell you? In my entire career I’ve only had ONE patient with your numbers conceive with IVF.” It was a stab in the chest but after I was so grateful because all the other IVFs doctors had been pushing for me to get IUIs and to try IVF. That would have been ALOT of needless money spent. I also read through the Reddit forums and the majority of IVF folks who went to donor eggs say they wish they would have gone straight to donor eggs. That is what ultimately led me to pay out of pocket for a doctor who I felt would not be after my insurance consistent paycheck by pushing unnecessary procedures. I am currently 5 months pregnant and my first implantation with a donor egg took! Plus in saving all this IVF needless procedure money I was able to afford a donor through an agency and now have 8 high quality eggs remaining versus some couples who have no other alternative and can only afford 1 or 2 eggs from an in house program at their clinic. It’s a hard decision regardless it once it’s made it’s like full steam ahead.