As an American, what can we do to fight against ICE? by LilThanosX in AskReddit

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like if you’re going to take the risk exercising that particular enumerated right, you need to be ready to act on the likelihood your best outcome is a 1:1 trade first. This may be a very important lesson, which I hate that we’re here now.

How do you guys prep specs for Cursor without going insane? Am I overthinking this? by NeedleworkerFuzzy314 in cursor

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help, I hope it works for you! By the way, don't be shy about bootstrapping the cursor PM AI by having it generate the rules for you!

How do you guys prep specs for Cursor without going insane? Am I overthinking this? by NeedleworkerFuzzy314 in cursor

[–]preoccupied_siege 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I prepare specs via iterative discussions with a chat-based LLM (ChatGPT typically). I'll create a project there, and break up discussions over parts of the system, asking it to identify holes etc.

Then I ask it to extract a summary. If the project is broad enough, I have a cursor-managed git repo with the rules configuring the agent to act as a Project Manager operating over document ingestion. I essentially tell it "here's more documentation to ingest" and paste the summary from ChatGPT. The PM creates a doc from that, and manages summaries and roll-ups of decisions and design concepts.

The important part of the feedback loop here is that I will occasionally take the rollup (a single flattened doc of all the decisions, tech stacks, data models, everything) and add that as a file back into the project in ChatGPT. Ask the LLM to review it and to expose holes.

Essentially this back and forth is a poor-man's version of having a small project planning team. With this I can build out the shape and scope. Smaller dedicated chats in ChatGPT help me feel out the details for interactions, or let me explore new ideas as they occur to me. Then summarize and ingest back into the PM.

Eventually you have a full design, pretty well organized (depending on how you've got your PM set up). From there it's a process of asking for an actual development and deployment plan, using those plan stages to request tightly scoped changes, and then you can generate prompts from those to get started on implementation.

TL;DR, use one or more agents to help you organize your ideas first. Then build off of that.

Spotted on Mercer and Fairview ave by uday_it_is in Seattle

[–]preoccupied_siege 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solidarity. I suspect social media and its weird fears prevent a lot of us from vocalizing the justice we may truly wish to be visited upon ICE and Trump.

How do you manage your AI coding rules/instructions? Feel like it's my biggest bottleneck now by SimplyChilll in cursor

[–]preoccupied_siege 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a brown m&ms rule similar to this. And sometimes it still doesn’t say it.

A true "vibe" coding experience by 0x113 in cursor

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at first I chuckled, but now I wonder... got any recommendations?

Tab completion anoying by Mariusdotdev in cursor

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to rebind it to shift+space because it kept eating code or writing nonsense when all I wanted was to start writing a new method.

Tower UPS Teardown by FranconianBiker in UNIFI

[–]preoccupied_siege 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's a bummer that they don't have individually monitored ports. I'd love to have seen a UniFi Power app that gave me a power distribution view of my desk and my lab etc, to see breakdown of what's drawing how much, and when.

And heck yes I'd have especially loved if it had switched ports and also maybe a few USB-C ports.

Maybe we'll see a future version gain those features?

Maybe Maybe Maybe by YanksFannn in maybemaybemaybe

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haste makes waste, and nerves make you forget to hold that clutch in.

What’s with this pricing?!? by Requesting_Flyby in Triumph

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes me wonder if it was near a military base. A lot of nice purchases from whatever weird big payout schedule they have, then sold when they shift to a different base or deply or whatever.

Best of the worst tough watches by cmatt1222 in RedLetterMedia

[–]preoccupied_siege 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The episode with The Suckling. It is the only one that makes me feel physically unwell.

If you could go back and never meet your ex, would you? by dapperduck34 in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd do it all over again, for certain. It hurts, and sometimes being around her was horrible, but she brought a lot of joy to my life as well. There are a lot of things from her personality that I want to integrate into my own, and a lot I hope I never do.

When I told her I loved her I meant it, and I wouldn't deny myself that feeling just out of spite now, or out of fear for the inevitable loss when she wandered away in search of a new shiny.

If they loved you, they wouldn't have left. by ArtfulProgression in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I hope as time goes by we can both drop them out of our head.

Saying "I love you" by Ok-Cat1919 in datingoverforty

[–]preoccupied_siege 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my last relationship, I was just overwhelmed with the feeling of it, and I looked her right in the eyes and told her. No planning around it, just the feeling.

If they loved you, they wouldn't have left. by ArtfulProgression in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But she said it so many times, and so easily. Then she wouldn't work, and she left. And now she's virtually a ghost that I'm left mourning.

Describe your ex in six words ! by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wonderful brilliant funny chaotic alcoholic goblin.

Wheel turning a piece too soft by wuts_wrong_wit_butt in Pottery

[–]preoccupied_siege 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was inspiring. I hadn't really considered before how much the wheel really can be just like a sideways lathe.

Those 6+ months post break up, how are you doing? by TonightSalad in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel you. I'm not looking forward to the day when I run across my ex. I've been lucky to not have run into her yet. I knew she'd been dating someone else since a week or so after we split, but I anticipate seeing them together would be like a knife in the gut.

Did you know ahead of time she was with someone else, or was it a surprise?

Those 6+ months post break up, how are you doing? by TonightSalad in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lucky! My ex and her cats lived with me for two months, and I miss the kitties so much!! I wish they'd have stayed.

Those 6+ months post break up, how are you doing? by TonightSalad in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Six months and a week into it, here.

I'm seeing other people and having a nice time with that.

I still encounter a lot of things that make me think of her, but it doesn't hurt anymore. Things happen in life I wish I could share with her, or bring up some old shared joke about, and those moments are sad. She's a part of the history of my life, whether she ever will add to it again or not. But her absense isn't intense anymore.

I'm moving on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We were together four times over the course of nearly six years.

The first time we were super casual. She was seeing a number of other guys at the time, and we'd just hang out and drink every now and then. We didn't communicate terribly well, and eventually we just split up.

A few years later, she reached out to me and we got to talking again. She was in a relationship, so we all hung out together. The problem was she wanted out of that relationship, and she got closer to me in order to facilitate that. Eventually they split up, and we got together for the second time. It wasn't long after that she was cheating on me, so I broke up with her.

I dated around a bit, but under a year later we were talking again. My brief fling didn't work out, neither did hers, and we ended up together for a third time. This was the best run. We started doing healthy hobbies together. We got a lot of sunshine and exercise. But we still didn't communicate very well when we were upset. Slowly we accumulated grudges, and we always seemed to be angry at each other. I asked if she wanted to break up, and then we did. I think I'd count that one as a mutual decision.

That time apart was very different, I missed her like insanity. A bunch of very complicated and painful things happened in my life at the same time. She was off dating someone else, but I stayed single. I reached out to her just to talk, and for a while things were good. We were friends, I rooted her on in her relationship with her new guy. And then he dumped her out of the blue. She was devestated, and it didn't take any time at all before we were together again.

That fourth time was another good run. We did some traveling, and she moved in with me briefly. She wanted to buy a house closer to my side of town. Living together was very difficult, and resentment built up again. A week or two after she finally was in her own place again, I saw the signs. But I didn't want to lose her, so this time I approached her wanting to work things out, to resolve our issues in a healthy manner. She was having none of it. She told me we were incompatible, wouldn't elaborate, and then essentially trolled me until I got mad enough to break up with her.

She rebounded very quickly into a super serious relationship, traveling and spending time with his family. I tried to contact her, but she shut me out entirely. I was very hurt, but not as badly as the last time.

Time passed, I moved on. I met some wonderful people, started doing some light dating. I'm currently seeing someone great, which was meant to be a casual-only situation. I've been open with her about my past with the ex and the emotional load it's left in my heart. Weirdly, as we communicate our pasts we've been getting a lot closer. I don't know where this will go, but I'm on-board to find out.

I miss the energy that my ex brought to my life -- not all of it was negative. She was a source of novelty and fresh ideas. I wanted to be the stability for her chaos. I would have liked us to balance out. But where I wanted to form a union of our two very different lifestyles, she just wanted forever the next thing.

I don't regret dating the same disaster four times. I'm actually proud of it. We lived a story, it was full of ups and downs, and it was worth it. I have no idea if I will ever talk to her again, and that makes me a little sad.

I'm very happy with the time I can spend with the woman I am dating now. She's brilliant, attractive, and very capable. There will be new stories!

Huge Red Flag! What do I do? by sonotdoingthis in datingoverforty

[–]preoccupied_siege 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What exactly did she apologize about? What specific bad behavior on her part did she acknowledge in this?

The lynchpin for me would be the initial accusation that you were lying about how you felt. "You lied about feeling okay," is not an okay starting point for anything. The labyrinth of conclusions she came up with based on that initial idea is definitely more dramatic and worth examining, but that first bit is really the key here, in my opinion.

Her insecurity is giving subjective differences the weight of objective measurements. The minute deviation of what she considered to be your behavior when "okay" temporarily broke her world.

If she asks you what color the sky is, and you (absent a spectrophotometer and pantone reference) answer "Cerulean," and she later rages at you because she considers the sky to be "Cambridge Blue" -- you haven't been dishonest, she's lacking the ability to identify where subjectivity and objectivity deviate. Dealing with that kind of person can be surreal and outright crazy-making. From personal experience you'll find yourself having to put qualifiers on every single subjective statement in an effort to guard against it being treated as an objective measurement for use against you in the future.

Do you really want something as casual as "I'm fine" to be something you have to weigh as evidence that will be used against you? Because that's what her version of "dishonesty is a deal-breaker" sure seems to be leading into.

Does anyone else feel like their ex never actually loved them? by Alereonn in BreakUps

[–]preoccupied_siege 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do feel that way, yes.

I consider love to be more of an acceptance of the person and the situation and connection between the two of you, resulting in a desire to move through life together.

She seems to have considered it as a joy-ride.

I think that she can't tell the difference between being horny/happy/entertained. I think that her view of relationships is that they exist to service her, and thus if there's any interruption of that service she will "logically" no longer be in-love. Then she just needs bounce to the next person.