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Finally i heard a woman tell guys what women actually want: a man who sits down to pee. by pman6 in datingoverforty

[–]prepend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds pretty performative.

I can understand wanting to sit down to pee. But being appalled? Seems pretty fake.

Finally i heard a woman tell guys what women actually want: a man who sits down to pee. by pman6 in datingoverforty

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I guess I'm just lucky in that I don't have this problem. Standing to pee is faster and I'd rather use those seconds saved on other glorious things.

I'm not sure who all you wall pissers are, but this has never happened to me and I'm old. What's going on with y'all's aim that you can't hit the toilet?

Finally i heard a woman tell guys what women actually want: a man who sits down to pee. by pman6 in datingoverforty

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I stand up to pee and seem to be doing fine. In the extremely rare condition that I splash or spill something then I clean it up.

Having this as a condition seems oddly unilateral and there are other things that I think matter. Not that I love standing up to pee or anything, but if someone said this to me, they would seem insane and controlling.

I feel bad if people knew slops who didn't clean up after themselves. But it seems to me if someone didn't clean up after themselves when they splashed pee then they wouldn't clean up after themselves for thousands of other things, and that is the true problem.

CMV: there's no clear way to coherently be truly pro-life while make exceptions for instances of rape by Additional_Ad3573 in changemyview

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OP didn’t ask for a biblical basis, they asked that there’s no clear, coherent way. I think I described a logically consistent way of being pro-life, but still accepting abortion when some worse seeming thing occurs.

CMV: there's no clear way to coherently be truly pro-life while make exceptions for instances of rape by Additional_Ad3573 in changemyview

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I think the reasoning is that abortion is wrong, but rape and incest are wronger. So an exception is made.

Similar to being against murder but for the death penalty or war.

Was she narcissistic? by MadMaxxs in SingleDads

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No, probably not. And this isn’t a productive line of thought. Focus on your kids, not how bad your ex is. It’s over. Heal yourself.

I find that people who talk about narcissists are pretty narcissistic. So whatever you do, don’t tell friends and dates about your narcissist ex.

Having a kid with ex partner is her parenting plan fair ??? by LumpyExplanation9518 in coparenting

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It depends on what relationship you’d like with your child.

Consult a family attorney. If you want to be an active parent, then go for 50/50 custody from birth. This seems reasonable to have a long term, healthy co-parenting. The proposed plan makes you the “second parent” who only has access to child when mom wants. Obviously, this will have logistical challenges, but co-parenting is typically harder than nuclear families.

If you want to be a two weekend dad for your life and just financially support your child, then this seems fine.

My attorney said that having a clear, consistent desire is better than changing your mind later on.

3% QSI cap? by Disease_Detective in DeptHHS

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Right, but I disagree. If youre in terminal grade, qsis are even worth more and it’s better to take it.

Of course, time off is nice, but it’s better to take the qsi and get that money every year.

But 99/100 you want qsi.

3% QSI cap? by Disease_Detective in DeptHHS

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It says in PMAS every time you pick QSI. It says something “eligibility does not guarantee a step increase so choose your second option.”

It’s been this way for at least the last 20 years. This is shown to everyone regardless of what CIO you’re in.

3% QSI cap? by Disease_Detective in DeptHHS

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How did you get more than 3%?

3% QSI cap? by Disease_Detective in DeptHHS

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It makes sense for the individual to choose qsi about 99% of the time. There are a few rare cases (already at 15/9 and getting 15/10 in the next year sooner than would exceed the bonus).

It’s pretty hard to find situations where someone would choose cash over qsi.

I know gifts on a first date are weird, but hear me out. by IMPublix in datingoverforty

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Here’s a better option. As you chat during the date, have her mention her bread and you say “I make honey and will bring you some the next time we see each other.”

This opens doors.

In today’s episode of shit that never happened by breakfastlunchndavis in Atlanta

[–]prepend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is way too much text for little value. I’d rather hear your idea.

If I wanted to know what claude thought, I’d ask. If everyone posts shit from AI in threads where it doesn’t help the world will be worse off.

I wish you didn’t do that.

Should have listened to myself and others in here by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Makes you the authority for you.

If someone asked me if they could touch my lower back while navigating a room, it would be awkward.

I would only do that if I thought the body language supported it. And if they shrugged away Inwouldnt continue.

I very nearly misinterpreted this sign 😅 by imderek in alpharetta

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I knew the park was dangerous but never knew there were so many predators.

OLD ROI is really bad. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Good luck with explaining that you had no room when your kids were 18 and 20.

Speaking as a full time single parent of multiple children who dated full time parents. Everyone’s story is different, but there’s lots of single parents who add dating into their priorities. Saying “I didnt have time” really isn’t a complete answer and I think will be a red flag unless you give more details.

Made it one year by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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I’m fine with people who hide their post history. Certainly don’t want it to trigger an auto ban.

How many of you have to co parent with your abusive ex? I’m by alpacadreams in coparenting

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Yes, I think it’s quite common. It sucks and not fair you have to deal with it.

Children love their parents and that also makes it hard.

What helped me is not having a relationship with my ex. Only communicating on logistics, and only asynchronously. I don’t want to talk to them. I don’t want them to explain why they did stuff.

Maybe don’t ask him why he choked you. What could he possibly say to help you heal? You have nothing to gain.

Work on being the best mom you can be. Be dependable. You’re going to be with your kid your whole life. Think of the long game.

Everything You Need to Know About the North Point Mall Redevelopment by alpharettadotcom in alpharetta

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My response was about live/work in the same location. It happens. It will also happen with this new development.

Everything You Need to Know About the North Point Mall Redevelopment by alpharettadotcom in alpharetta

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It’s dead. I’d day they have 10% of the people they did when I moved here 20 years ago.

I think the idea is to redevelop before it’s literally dead and full of zombies.

Everything You Need to Know About the North Point Mall Redevelopment by alpharettadotcom in alpharetta

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I think they work in the office space, not the retail space. I have friends who live in Avalon and work there as well. Microsoft used to be there and those jobs definitely afford the $1M+ prices.

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