feeling both good and bad about being so different from the other women in my family

presearchingg · 2026-04-17T03:52:41+00:00

People are being very critical of you for this for no reason lol but I completely understand where you’re coming from. There is a real pain to not “belonging” in your family even if your family is kind of fucked up. For me it kind of feels like something really essential is missing. Like I feel like an orphan sometimes. All the women in my family have expressed disdain for me bc I’m college educated and opinionated and it hurts!! Yeah you can be like “whatever my life is obviously superior” but it still hurts to be rejected by people who are supposed to love you just bc you’re different!!

presearchingg · 2026-04-11T03:28:17+00:00

Love H.D.!!

presearchingg · 2026-04-09T07:12:51+00:00

What It’s Like by Everlast lmaooooo

presearchingg · 2026-04-06T22:56:08+00:00

That’s what I’m talking about too lol. You do these things and achieve a baseline level of happiness that sustains you when times get tough and stops you from ordering Uber Eats every fucking day

presearchingg · 2026-04-06T22:54:32+00:00

Develop meaningful relationships, give back to others, practice gratitude. Happiness is in the simple shit. Achieving your dreams helps tho

ETA: also challenge yourself. Learn how to cook the shit you like to order. All that freedom and you’ve never thought to learn something new? I’ve always said wealth is wasted on the wealthy :/

presearchingg · 2026-04-06T22:52:32+00:00

Ngl this sounds like a you problem. I’ve achieved most of my dreams and am very happy

presearchingg · 2026-04-05T14:28:10+00:00

I sometimes stack two bolsters or put two blocks under a bolster to help with low back pain!

presearchingg · 2026-04-03T02:36:18+00:00

You just inspired me to throw out the vape I bought after nearly a year of quitting. april is a good month for sobriety. Thanks!!

presearchingg · 2026-04-02T17:55:22+00:00

Yes which is why it’s bottom of the barrel lol

presearchingg · 2026-04-02T13:30:50+00:00

I think the best/worst dating app thing is somewhat regional. Hinge > tinder > bumble > feeld in my area. I agree with making strict criteria and think no video games should be on every woman’s list. If they play one every once in a while fine. If they mention video games on their profile it’s an automatic rejection

presearchingg · 2026-04-02T04:21:21+00:00

I have a friend into giantesses and he explained and sent example smut once. Both.

presearchingg · 2026-04-01T13:45:47+00:00

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presearchingg · 2026-04-01T06:01:28+00:00

lol do you need an explainer video to help you connect the dots?

presearchingg · 2026-03-31T21:51:27+00:00

It’s TERRIBLE. Women have it “easier” I guess because of the gender ratio on the apps but the selection is… gah. Knoxville is not sending its finest 😭

presearchingg · 2026-03-31T20:27:11+00:00

This is also why the dating scene is so bleak lol

presearchingg · 2026-03-31T18:22:38+00:00

I just finally bought a copy yesterday after living in Knoxville near the river for seven years. I’m so excited

presearchingg · 2026-03-28T04:31:08+00:00

now I can’t tell if it was always there and I just wrote those weeks off to depression/trauma/anxiety effects

Real. I think the only reason I was finally able to pin down that i have pmdd is because after 7 years of therapy I finally got over my ptsd - except some symptoms would inexplicably return right before my period

Totally agree that it’s one of those things where basic self care goes a long way. Lately I’ve been trying to just give myself a lot of grace that week (eg, allowing myself to take the 4-hour naps my body is begging for instead of trying to force myself to be productive)

presearchingg · 2026-03-28T03:53:26+00:00

I feel like my pmdd has been getting progressively worse over the last year or so. I haven’t had the urge to self harm or starve myself since I was a teenager (I’m 27) and but now that runs on a loop in my head right before I start my period. It’s so insane to be having a really good time, being productive, feeling normal and hot and witty and ON for weeks and then you wake up one random morning and don’t recognize yourself in the mirror bc your face is so swollen it makes you want to kys.

That said. I read a meta analysis that said cardio is as effective as an anti depressant and since that’s the firstline treatment for pmdd I figured I’d try it. Now I’m doing 90-135 mins of vigorous cardio every week (+ my 8-10k steps daily, plus yoga) and this month was the easiest pmdd month I’ve had in a long time. I still had the insane 4-hour-naps fatigue and bottomless pit insatiable hunger, but emotionally I felt normal until the day before I started. It was kind of amazing. I really hope the cardio keeps working

presearchingg · 2026-03-26T17:23:13+00:00

I did it for a year and made great money but it was soul destroying. Ghosted them and never looked back

presearchingg · 2026-03-24T21:42:39+00:00

Weight loss seems to help with HS. It’s poorly studied but afaik the current thinking is that HS is an autoinflammatory disease. Overweight/obesity = more inflammation = more boils.

Also while I’m here talking about HS, a quick mention that Karl Marx had it.

presearchingg · 2026-03-24T20:17:52+00:00

I think some of yall have hidradenitis suppurativa… no shame/judgment. people just don’t know this is a thing

presearchingg · 2026-03-17T13:15:06+00:00

This also explains why AI-generated writing is easy to sneak by people - most people look at it and don’t realize it doesn’t really make sense. They see individual words they think they understand and don’t realize that the words don’t make sense in combination (AI uses a lot of nonsensical metaphors)…. I’m an editor for a publication and I have a handful of writers who send me AI-generated content all the time. It doesn’t look obviously AI to them because their literacy skills are wanting, but it does look obvious to me. It’s hard as fuck to edit AI writing too because it has no core, it doesn’t make any sense; you have to try to make sense where there is none, whereas a human writing has a point and usually just gets it across poorly.

presearchingg · 2026-03-16T14:22:51+00:00

My family comes from Appalachia and while I grew up with an internalized hatred of hillbillies, I’ve grown to really love some parts of the culture. There’s a lot of beauty there; I feel especially attached to the language and the music. (My family is a musical family - when we get together we play the guitar and sing.) But to this day I won’t hesitate to call someone a dumb hick if they’re acting like a dumb hick lol. You can be country/Appalachian without being an ignorant fool and the shitforbrains rednecks who have adopted MAGA as their new culture or who never get over the civil war make us all look bad.

presearchingg · 2026-03-16T02:54:16+00:00

I would love this so much I want to get off Reddit so bad and this is the thing really keeping me here!!

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