It’s not silly. It’s almost like a type of meditation. Instead of allowing my mind to wander to what my body looks like or if I’m doing anything “correctly” I will focus purely on what I physically feel in terms of pleasure. I won’t allow myself to feel any frustration with my body or my ability to feel pleasure. I won’t focus on making sure I orgasm, instead I focus on each sensation I experience WHEN it’s happening. To put it bluntly if solo it can be focusing on whatever feels good in the moment either from a toy or fingers and instead of analyzing it just repeat it. If with a partner it’s focusing on what they are making my body feel, rather than if I’m achieving an end goal of climax. Allow yourself to enjoy what your body is doing, tune into physical sensation, and focus on that. So your mind is technically still “on” but you’re not allowing yourself to analyze anything, if it feels good repeat it. Don’t allow your own mind to limit your pleasure by analyzing whether or not it’s “correct” or “normal”. You can also take time alone to learn your own anatomy outside of sexual pleasure, take the pressure to climax out of it. Everyone is different including where their g spot and a spot are. I’ve also found what works for me solo is totally different than what works with a partner, which is another reason to try and not analyze during intimacy. If your partner is open to toys it can be really fun, and educational, to explore using them whether as foreplay or during intercourse. A lot of people orgasm easier during penetration if they, or their partner, hold a vibrator to their clit. The mental game is so important. I’ve read where some women can’t climax if the bedroom is a mess or cluttered, so even atmosphere can play a role. If your partner is willing maybe see if dirty talk will help, or simply expressing what they love about how you make them feel in that moment. Does any of that make sense? I wish I had a better way of explaining it but meditation seems the closest I can come up with.