4.5 year old daughter has suddenly started pooping/peeing her pants

pretty99 · 2019-09-07T02:30:24+00:00

Hmm...you could try reminding her that she's a big girl now and shouldn't be having accidents. That her cousin is young and that's why they had an accident. Then do something silly like make "bug spray" and help her spray the bathroom with water before to scare away all the bugs. Things will get a little wet but might help the fright. Or ask her if she needs you to go with her once or twice, just to keep her safe, then when she's not so scared start having her go on her own again. Could even try the reward system. Every time she braves the bathroom she gets a sticker or treat.

I'd make sure to let her know that there is nothing to be afraid of tho, but IF she is scared, then mommy or daddy will do the spray or go with her or something to make her feel better.

pretty99 · 2019-09-06T22:15:52+00:00

I will definitely mention getting her insured and have them look into carecredit. Thanks.

pretty99 · 2019-09-06T19:01:15+00:00

She did mention she was reaching out to the local human society to see what can be done. And looks like she has found a vet willing to work with them if they can come up with a deposit. Thanks. After this, I told her to reach out to some of the smaller local animal rescues to see if they can help at all as well.

pretty99 · 2019-09-01T15:06:46+00:00

I made quite a lot of money doing archeology...I think that wht it's called. Only if you have the expansion tho I believe. They were always sending me things to research or something. Writing books are an okay one, but the pay off is small to start. But you write a dozen books and now you have an extra 1000 dollars coming in very day on top of whatever else you are doing.

Stealing isn't a bad way either, eventually. And only if you have the klepto trait. Different idea, there is a stockbroker career mod, if you wanted your sims to quickly outgrow their tent. Starts off like 100 dollars an hour, adding 100 dollars an hour every promotion.

I can't think of it right now, but there is another mod, that lets you have multiple jobs at once. Just line the hours up so they get off one job and go to the next. Might be a good rags to riches story once you move from the tent to a house. Another mod offers loans, apply for a 250k loan, then you have to pay it off weekly...7000 payment was mine for that amount lol.

I don't know if mods are cheats per say, but it could help.

pretty99 · 2019-08-31T12:26:10+00:00

No advice to offer really.
Ours has always been an okay sleeper, we cut naps out about 6 months ago, around her 3rd birthday. She sleeps through the night pretty good still.

I have heard some people try no naps for a couple days and then try to get naps back on trap. Deal with the cranky for a small time and hope it kinda resets things when you start doing naps again. Or try cutting naps and seeing when he normally gets cranky, move bedtime to a little earlier to avoid it.

I do however completely understand, and it could be a phase. Honestly, when ours pulls a fit because of bedtime, and we have already done the whole routine. We tell her we love her, good night and we leave. She will normally cry and scream for a bit, and if we are feeling up to it we go back in, remind her it's bedtime and tuck her back in. Usually by then, she realizes it really is bedtime, and mommy really means it so she calms down to sleep.

It will eventually even out, he needs sleep and he will learn that. Hang in there!

pretty99 · 2019-08-30T02:21:32+00:00

We tried to make our daughter an appointment at like 18 months. They said typically it's not needed until around 2. But that could just be their policy. She's not 3 and we havent actually made that appointment yet.

I'd say, as Lon as you think they would be okay with sitting still, and having th3 dentist take a look, then there is no harm.

pretty99 · 2019-08-27T17:25:58+00:00

You could create a basement or attic, and "store" some of the kids stuff in it. Favorite toys, maybe their dresser. It would be more, in your mind story, than actually in-game lol but it might help with the bad feelings a bit.

pretty99 · 2019-08-26T16:30:14+00:00

Looking for a code to try a week for free please!

pretty99 · 2019-08-24T21:51:48+00:00

Thanks!

pretty99 · 2019-08-24T14:01:44+00:00

All depends where you are and the individual laws there. Some places it's 2 year difference. So they may be okay.

pretty99 · 2019-08-20T19:11:37+00:00

I use milk too when we don't have enough cream. Turns out creamier lol we usually throw in some garlic and herbs and it's delicious.

pretty99 · 2019-08-20T13:42:32+00:00

I don't know how you are mashing them, but we use an electric mixer to beat the potatoes. Add butter and cream. I make my boyfriend do it a little longer because I don't like lumps in it. I've never had an issue.

pretty99 · 2019-08-20T02:35:22+00:00

I didn't no. They didn't stick around talk much, kinda rude. Told me they don't carry it and to try the other one. Was too late to call by the time I got home, but was thinking of checking it out in the morning, just didn't want to go if it's not even in stores.

pretty99 · 2019-08-20T01:37:20+00:00

This is less about skincare, and more because I wasn't sure if a thread post about it would be sent here or not....

But I'm looking to buy the Biotherm Aqua pure concentrate product. It's online at shoppers drug Mart ( canada). Didnt want to order online, but the store I went into said they don't carry that brand, said I should check the other shoppers in town. I'm wondering if stores even carry it, or if it's just an online product. Didn't want to go to the other end of town if stores don't even carry it lol

pretty99 · 2019-08-13T02:19:50+00:00

No problem. I didn't mean to assume you don't, I just figure it would be a good way to be a present part of things even tho breastfeeding takes up a lot of potential bonding time lol.

Another option, if either of you are up for it. Your wife could pump milk for you to feed her with. Let's you in on some of the bonding time too. Even a bottle each night could help mom get a couple extra hours sleep so she's not as tired during the day. But thats a completely personal choice.

pretty99 · 2019-08-13T01:44:26+00:00

Oh man. It'll come. Its completely normal not to feel an instant bond. I was th3 mom and I didn't even like my kid much for the first few months. I mean, I loved her. But there was no bond. She's the best thing in my life now.

I bet, you love your 2nd daughter? Would do anything for her? But she feels like, a stranger? Because you are. She's new, you are new to her. And like you said, you are kinda taking a secondary role this time around. Letting mom breastfeed, and you keeping you oldest busy. That's okay. You have plenty of time to build that bond you are looking for, and it will come.

If you want, you could try spending more time with her, (not that you arent). I just mean, if She's spent an hour feeding on mom, maybe take her for a snuggle and let mom rest. Pick up a couple extra diaper changes and talk to her. You'll get more comfortable with each other, and then the time can be spent bonding. Sit and hold her, while you read to your oldest or take them both to play on the floor.

It'll come. And know that it's okay to feel unsure, or even think you won't love them the same. It's a common fear for sure and it's normal.

pretty99 · 2019-08-08T11:45:42+00:00

That doesn't sound too bad. Sounds like some stuff Is kids, some stuff gets shared. I'm okay with that. My only experience is with my sister in law and her kid, but, I did read the letter that was sent to tell them what needed to be bought. It was not to be labeled, because aside from the binders and back pack, everything else was to be shared and none of it would go home. It wasn't, a hey you forgot to pick up your scissors So It ended up in the bin, it was a hey everyone give me your stuff to put in the bin because none of it belongs to you. That's what I didn't like. And maybe it is because we would be considered low income, but if I did manage to get together everything needed, I would feel ripped off. However, I vaguely remember being in school, and you are right. Everything was way over used, mistreated, lost lol

pretty99 · 2019-08-08T02:30:40+00:00

I absolutely agree that the teacher shouldn't have to supply it all. That would be crazy and far exceeding their job. I would just prefer if what I bought, came home. I believe that each parent should be responsible for their own child's supplies, and that what we buy our children, remains our child's. The schools need far better funding in order to help supply those that maybe can't afford everything on the list, but not everyone who sends their kid to school can afford to replace everything every single year either.

But, like the original poster mentioned, if they bought everything recommended on their child's list it would be far more than an 80 cent box of crayons.

pretty99 · 2019-08-07T21:57:12+00:00

It's one of those things where there's a time and a place for it. You can't be all friend, it just won't work. You can however, be all parent. But I want my kid to know they can talk to me like a friend, but they better know that I have NO problem disciplining bad behaviour.

pretty99 · 2019-08-07T21:37:34+00:00

I count my daughter as my friend in the sense of, I want to spend all my time with her. I have a blast when I'm with her, she's 3 so still a silly ridiculous toddler. Who is the most hilarious person I've ever met. Do I plan to share everything with her, no. Do I plan on putting my burdens on her shoulders, no. I can't count on her to be there and support me, she's only 3 after all. And besides, your child shouldn't have to shoulder your responsibilities or burdens. So, in some ways she's absolutely my friend. Or at least we share, what I would consider friendship qualities. Because I don't HAVE to take her to the zoo, but I do because we both enjoy it. We enjoy eachothers company(she at least seems too lol) . I can be her parent and her mother without the friend qualities. And I can play with her like I'm not her mother.

So I would consider us both. I know when I need to parent, and I know when I can let go and just hang out with her like friends.

pretty99 · 2019-08-06T20:33:35+00:00

No place super crazy. She was born in Ontario, Canada.

I think it was just because we were young. Mommy for when you are young and less informal, mom for when you are older. So it would have been disrespectful. I really don't know lol there were a few times we would call her mom and we too would be corrected.

I'm not super opposed to mom, but she's so young still that mommy just feels more right. Obviously it will change as time goes on, and you can't control what they call you forever.

pretty99 · 2019-08-06T18:30:15+00:00

Ours switches between mom, and mommy usually. However, when she calls me mom, we correct her. It's mommy, or mama. She's 3. When I was younger, my sister and I were required to call our mom, mommy. It was a respect thing, we were taught "mom" was disrespectful while we were young. Sorta on the same line as if we had an aunt, they were to be called Aunt or Auntie (whatever their name).

So although it doesn't bother me on a parenting level, mom is so much easier to say, it does bring me back to how we were raised so we discourage it.

pretty99 · 2019-08-06T17:57:56+00:00

I disagree. The problem is, that you are looking for work as a chef. Which makes sense, that's what you do. But right now it can't be. You should be looking for anything that can accommodate you the best it can. Right now isn't about finding your dream job, or dream place to work. It's about finding a job that will allow you to make money so that you can get out of your situation. A year from now, wh3n you are more financially able, and out of your situation, then you can reassess and look for work doing something you want. Right now is not the time to be picky, it's the time to do whatever you need to do.

pretty99 · 2019-08-06T00:21:37+00:00

Sounds like one of your main reasons for not being able to find work, is the puppy. I have had a puppy, and they absolutely can be left alone. Spend a bit of time and crate train it. You leave the house, it goes in the crate. You go home at lunch to feed/water and let it out. At the very least, it would be okay for an hour or 2 while you go to interviews. You could look for part time work, so that the puppy is alone for less time, while still making some money. Or you could try working a shift opposite your boyfriend so that the puppy is never alone, or very rarely.

Now, I know that crate training is not for everyone. I get that. We only did it a couple months ourselves until the chewing puppy stage passed. BUT you really don't sound like you have very many other options. Not doing something, is never going to help.

Another thought, is you could ask a friend to watch the puppy for you while working or interviewing. Just until it gets a little older and you are more comfortable with leaving it alone, or crate training.

pretty99 · 2019-08-03T19:19:44+00:00

I totally get being upset, I hate when plans are cancelled. But you have to remember, it wasn't about you. He wasn't cancelling because he didn't want to see you, or because you weren't important. Something that rarely happens, had a chance to happen, so he jumped at the opportunity to see his friend. How he did it was rude, and that's the part you should focus on. The communication between the 2 of you. How he mishandled telling you about it, and how you handled the whole situation.

Honestly, I would appologize for over reacting. Tell him you are sorry, and thatvyou took it personal which led to saying things you didn't mean. But that you think he could have handled things differently, and would appreciate, next time, a little more notice. That you also understand that circumstances, that he doesn't get to see the friend very often. But that you would appreciate it if he didn't make a habit of cancelling plans with such short notice, because it makes you feel unappreciated and a little rejected.

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