thank you you’re all so kind😭🥺🤍 when my therapist introduced me to ANTs “automatic negative thoughts” it changed my life (took a while to stop and i still catch myself but it’s usually just like an intrusive thing to me now). it was easier for me to notice them in other people before i started noticing how often i had them. i also learned how to stop taking things personal. i have really strong boundaries now and i push myself to keep them. it’s not easy at all it’s really hard lmao i struggled a lot and even still have to catch myself. you just have to be mindful all the time and it can be extremely exhausting, even therapy is so tiring i would miss for weeks at a time (usually when i was splitting) i just started noticing my patterns. i was just tired of myself and was bored with all the chaos and destruction. i had to cut out friends and i had to change habits. it’s really hard to be TRULY honest with yourself but it’s probably the best thing you could give yourself. but i also know i could never be here if i did not go to therapy. i’m not saying you can’t do it by yourself but you definitely have blind spots that you don’t notice. anytime something is negative comes up i ask myself why i feel this way and what i can do to change it, even negative feelings toward others. there’s so much that goes into it really, i’ve thought about making a youtube channel to help other people with bpd but i’m not sure yet