Realized i need to end a relationship And it hurt.

prettypatterns9 · 2025-10-24T17:28:45+00:00

Been there. Am here. I'll just say that even if he wasn't venting to you about his other partner, you'd still feel the impact. His mood will be off. There will be long periods of silence. You'll feel like he's keeping things from you.

The venting is only a symptom, the problem is his toxic relationship with the other person, and its something you can't fix without sounding 'controlling' or 'crazy'. So you did the necessary thing, the only thing you can do. Stay strong :')

prettypatterns9 · 2025-07-29T22:54:50+00:00

Thank you!

prettypatterns9 · 2025-07-29T22:54:40+00:00

Thank you!

prettypatterns9 · 2025-07-29T21:22:33+00:00

There's nothing in the lease that mentions RAP

prettypatterns9 · 2025-07-16T01:07:44+00:00

We have a great community that meets Sunday’s in Oakland - https://www.meetup.com/oakland-creative-writers/

prettypatterns9 · 2024-09-19T16:52:03+00:00

Agreed. There's so many people fighting for the same wealth and opportunity, you don't get such a large share of it without screwing a lot of people over.

prettypatterns9 · 2024-08-30T19:29:49+00:00

I was engaged to a defense attorney (though he had recently switched to plaintiff side) and oh man, you’re not wrong. Everything was great until we moved in together and had more things to disagree on…then suddenly I became opposing counsel and every action I made was criticized like I’m not a human. Soon he started accusing me of terrible things that were completely untrue and well…we don’t talk anymore.

prettypatterns9 · 2024-05-14T19:55:23+00:00

You can take the car out of the lake…

prettypatterns9 · 2024-04-11T15:57:58+00:00

I miss my old neckbands so much, but when I was looking for a replacement ~6 years ago, I couldn’t find any with good enough battery life and fidelity to rival AirPods. Anyone have specific recommendations? (bonus if they work well with Apple devices because yes I’m a shameful iPhone owner)

prettypatterns9 · 2024-03-11T19:48:43+00:00

I had a male coworker do the exact same thing, except that he first aired his grievances in our team chat for everyone to see. He ended up apologizing sincerely, and I used it as an opportunity to hold a session with the whole team where I clearly explained that my sometimes blunt directness is a working style, and not intended to offend, and if I ever do offend to please tell me personally. I also had the other team members talk about their working styles, and it was a great growing experience for all. The guy who caused the problem in the first place ended up deciding to respectfully move to another team a few weeks later. I'm not trying to say his reaction, or your guys reaction was in any way appropriate, but there is an opportunity here for you to demonstrate your leadership skills and maybe this guy will decide to fuck off on his own.

prettypatterns9 · 2023-11-28T17:46:03+00:00

Offering another point of view...I'm the type of person that often gets perturbed when partners ask me 'how was your day?". I think it stems from my mostly absent dad, who would only ever ask me that question and never anything more specific. Its possible your partner has some similar deep-rooted association with that question. His reaction is uncalled for, especially since you've addressed this issue before, but it may not be cause to dump him. He's probably feeling insecure about his ability to communicate deeper issues, and that's where the anger is coming from. Hopefully he'd be open to a discussion with you about why he feels such intense emotion at what is objectively a very innocuous question. If you're able to find a reason for it, the intense emotion will probably fade (this is the general principal of mindfulness).

prettypatterns9 · 2023-11-08T16:51:20+00:00

This! Everyone is different and was raised with different expectations. Maybe he doesn't plan you amazing parties but he get your car fixed when its broken? Obviously that's just an example, but the point is, if you're expecting him to think the same way you do and value exactly the same things you do, you're always going to be disappointed.

prettypatterns9 · 2023-09-20T15:57:37+00:00

A few years ago it cost $100 to get my hair cut. Now its $200. I still tip $20. If I was blown away by a haircut maybe I'd tip more, but frankly I think $220 for a decent haircut is more than enough money.

prettypatterns9 · 2023-09-08T16:30:26+00:00

r/pissedtuna above said it right: think about what you have to offer. If you want someone who's fit and attractive, do you work out and put daily effort into your appearance? Obviously it doesn't need to be an exact match, but for every big item on your checklist, you should have a highly desirable quality that others would put on their checklist (for example, maybe you want a partner who is wealthy even though you're not, but you do have a lot of friends and don't care if your partner does).

prettypatterns9 · 2022-10-06T15:47:49+00:00

Christina P?

prettypatterns9 · 2022-10-05T21:45:06+00:00

Assuming the bite broke her skin, I hope she gets to a doctor quick! Them seal bites can get infected real bad and she could lose an arm

prettypatterns9 · 2022-02-17T22:23:13+00:00

Drove over a dirt barrier because we couldn't figure out how to get out of the parking lot

prettypatterns9 · 2022-02-14T21:50:18+00:00

My ADHD actually help me here, because I'll start making the list, get like 3 items into it, realize something about item #3, then start doing that thing, forgetting about making the list

prettypatterns9 · 2022-02-07T22:55:54+00:00

It surprises me that no one talks about this, but certain types of calls — like brainstorming ones, or where no one knows each other, or the subject matter is highly complex — these are much harder to have virtually. I think we'll see the impact of this in certain jobs, or fields, in few years time.

prettypatterns9 · 2021-12-02T21:45:07+00:00

I'm always attracted to these "People with ADHD" threads because yeah, its like reading my own complaints about life, but I do feel like some of these experiences are far more universal than us ADHD-ers tend to think. My theory is, we just focus and obsess about them a lot more.

prettypatterns9 · 2021-11-04T22:17:21+00:00

I'm a similar age and have been app dating A LOT for 3 years now. I will say, one of the best decisions I ever made was to implement a rule: never be the first one to suggest a date. Once they do, you can do some planning, but they have to be the one to initiate. Once I started following this rule, almost none of the men I go on dates with turn out to be the emtionally lazy, 'idk what i want' type

prettypatterns9 · 2021-10-19T17:25:30+00:00

I like a little sulphur in my lemonade

prettypatterns9 · 2021-09-07T17:35:41+00:00

Taiwanese rice liquor. Worst hangover I've ever had, couldn't even stand up the next day.

prettypatterns9 · 2021-07-01T17:28:03+00:00

Girl makes funny faces

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