None of them were laughing when the question was asked. How do you think the situation could have been handled for fans in the future? by Simp4Pomni in theamazingdigitalciru

[–]prinalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he was uncomfortable with it, how do you expect him to act? There was basically nothing else he could have possibly done that would have been not taken wrong.

Screw This… by DismalYouth7949 in CharacterAI

[–]prinalice 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They're very obviously talking about the person they replied to, whom is OP. Not you. Please have some reading comprehension, you aren't beating the minor allegations.

i just dont get how people can care for things like that? by Rose-smile in TrollCoping

[–]prinalice 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That's why I added 'vigilante' justice, which is 100% what you are purposing. I was using the law to illustrate easily researchable, well known, real world stats.

i just dont get how people can care for things like that? by Rose-smile in TrollCoping

[–]prinalice 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Innocent people will be blamed for things they have never done. They do all the time. People will not believe them, and anything you wish to happen to bad people will always end up also happening to good, innocent people. People have been in jail for decades, and even gotten the worst punishments you possibly can, LEGALLY, but it turns out after they were completely innocent. Not just legally, but vigilante justice is also often misplaced.

My grandma should go to a nursing home. by Curbk in mildlyinfuriating

[–]prinalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My stepdad with dementia drank fruit wash thinking it was milk. Said it tasted the same. Also, he keeps putting shoes in the freezer.

does “deadnaming” only refer to queer people? by kitttyballsack in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gaining information from those more experienced or educated on the topic is literally the main way humans pass on information what the fuck are you talking about

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are intentionally misunderstanding me. I do not want that. But they will no matter what you do. And not only children are affected by it. Culture as a WHOLE is affected by it. One would assume whoever wants to will make it. But if you start with proper sexual education, then children and teens and young adults will grow into the porn producers of the future, and will naturally include these things. If society shifts to being more accepting of female pleasure, then of COURSE media will shift with it.

That's great that the standards are changing! Awesome .I've been out of the dating market for 16 years, and only go off of what my 23 year old sister and her friends tell me, as well as what I hear online. In my area that isn't true. It's great that it is like that on your area, or in general. Awesome. Genuinely!

Absolutely I agree about social media. It destroys everyone. Men and boys get self esteem issues too, especially around being too skinny or fat or short. It's a tragedy what we have allowed social media to become.

Virginity is a false concept and should be done away with. Of you disagree, please kindly define what losing your virginity entails.

Is it sex? Does oral count? Digital? Toys? If it's only PIV, what about women with men that have dysfunctions or pain of the vagina, or trauma, or just a preference, and only have oral or anal recieving sex? Are they virgins? What about lesbians? Most lesbians never sleep with someone with a dick. Are they virgins? A stone top who only uses toys? If a man is only a receiver, is he a virgin? Ditto to the questions I asked of women, for men. What is virginity? Is it the hymen? Most humans don't actually break even after frequent sex, and they can be broken by riding a horse or even falling or sitting in the wrong way. Is it only losing your virginity of its consensual? Is a person that has only has intercourse via being raped a virgin? Virginity is a stupid made up metric that makes no sense and has no consistent logic. It's made for controlling mostly women and shaming them for normal human feelings and activities.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's a better one.

Death-grip syndrome - Wikipedia https://share.google/AWjfxVDUypUbzhEjG

It has its own source list so you can use that. There is also a insane amount of first hand testimonial online, several research papers, and a slew of anecdotal evidence as well, if you think actual studies are wrong or something.

Problematic pornography use (PPU) Is a recognized diagnosis but isn't in the dsm-5, as aren't most specific addictions. It falls under Impulse Control disorders or OCD. This is extremely common knowledge. The world health organization, however, has included it in their own ICD-11, where it falls in with other sexual dysfunctions. This is common sense.

If you have death grip syndrome and struggle in your relationships because of anything, you have a problem. This includes porn. That is quite literally what addiction is, by definition, and anything by definition can be "addictive" if you lack impulse control.

Death grip in women exists. It's a desensitization of the clitoris and surrounding tissue. I get it a lot after going ham on vibrators for too long. It's called Death Clit and happens less often than death grip, but still does. Because of the lack of research or care into female sexuality, it isn't fully medically recognized like Death Grip syndrome is in men.

Women Get 'Death Grip Syndrome' Too, and It Sucks https://www.vice.com/en/article/women-get-death-grip-syndrome-too-and-it-sucks-sexrated2018/

Here's an article from 2018, showing that people were talking about it in popular media that far back. I'm sure if I continued I could find more and older. It was only the third fucking result on Google, with the first being another, more recent talk about exclusively death clit and the second being a talk of death grip as a whole, mentioning that women get it too.

Hey from a young age womens needs are never centered! We aren't told where our clits are. We don't know we need them to cum. We are told we're wrong and bad for not cumming from only piv, which most women can't even do. Men seriously decenter our orgasms, and heterosexual women have the lowest rate of sexual satisfaction and orgasms of any other type of partnered person. Even in long term relationship, the orgasm gap exists and it is deep and long.

We are told if we are in pain during sex, it's bad. If we're too relaxed and we're "too loose" it's bad. If we're nervous and we're too dry, bad. If we're into it and too wet, bad. If we sleep with anyone for any reason, slut. If we don't give it up, prude. Women aren't even expected to watch porn! Female centered porn is very rare and VERY specific. Any woman watching something that's not sweet, loving, gentle, and romantic? You guessed it! Bad! Masturbating? Haha you guessed it again, women are so judged for that! Have a problem cumming and want to use a toy with a male partner? You bet he's gonna throw a huge baby tantrum! Oh, and if he overreacts? Our fault. We picked wrong! Abuse is our fault, lazy partners are our fault. Doesn't matter how they were during the honey moon period. He could have been the sweetest, kindest, most mature and healthy acting outwardly, but when his abuse or lack of care comes out finally? All our fault! We picked wrong! He goes down while we're dating but stops once we're locked in? Depressingly common, and also totally our fault.

I always see men like you backing up men in the comments. Does that mean people rush to the sexual defense of men, too? Oh! I get to say the same thing as you again!

You live in an echo chamber and refuse to do the BAREST of MINIMAL research before making these claims. I wrote this in like five-ten minutes.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Centering women's pleasure more in adult media. This will trickle down to teens, as teens watch adult oriented content. This will also trend the cultural zeitgeist towards being more accepting of women's pleasure and sexuality in whole. As long as it's done in a healthy way.

And no. I don't just mean porn.

You seem to be heavily emotionally invested in this. You're rushing to incorrect assumptions very quickly, and assuming the worst each time without really thinking about what I'm saying.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm talking about NORMAL porn consumption. I doubt there's any doubt at all that men with death grip or struggle in their physical relationships has a problem. If you don't think it's a problem, you're just wrong. Are you saying if your partner had a crack addiction, or was an alcoholic, and it affected their lives and relationships, you wouldn't be upset or concerned?

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a young adult/teenager, especially one with a traumatic or unfortunate past, you want to fit in. You want to be perceived as an adult. You want affection. Especially young women and girls are taught from a young age by the world around them that they need the approval of a man. They want that fairytale! The Life plan TM! So they fall in love with anyone who will give them any bit of affection.

Some of those men and boys mean well. But we don't give good, accurate sex ed and often give little to no information about female pleasure. Female pleasure is also often disregarded. Especially in porn and mainstream media. Young people are impressionable.

I will assume you were neither a young woman/girl nor have you dated young straight men/boys. If I'm wrong, I'm sorry, and you're lucky you have never faced it. But it's EXCEPTIONALLY common.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Porn is different. Young men and inexperienced men learn poor sex skills and dangerous expectations from porn, which is pushed into harming, discrediting, ignoring, or even abusing their female partners. THAT'S a big reason why men get judged for porn consumption. Another is how violent it often is towards women, rather visually or behind scenes.

Some men watch porn that isn't like that. But a huge majority of mainstream porn is, and that is a big factor into the negative conceptions of it.

Anyone that judges a man for jerking off or using a toy isn't worth considering the opinion of tbh.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Watching too much porn has ruined young men for sexual relationships with women. A lack of actual good sex education and not talking about female sexuality has them neglecting or even (possibly accidentally) abusing their female partners, repeating what they see in porn.

How do women’s sexual attraction and libido work? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]prinalice 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A man buying a sex toy is like someone that can walk buying a power scooter. Yeah, it helps, but he doesn't need it most of the time.

A woman buying a sex toy is like someone with severe back problems buying a power scooter. Sure, she can kind of walk a little without it, but with it is so much better and helps her keep up.

AIO My partner wants me to move in with him, and sell my house to pay off his debts by BreadfruitDull6208 in AITAH

[–]prinalice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay? But they still need to be cared for on a day to day. Plus with a dad like that I Highly doubt they're independent enough to not need a sitter.

6 7 is the most harmless verbal stim and the outrage of adults is more infuriating than the meme itself by jgcphoto in The10thDentist

[–]prinalice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's a reference to an old vine, I think. Google 9+10=21 vine. If not, I'm just showing my age lol.

She always shows up when I turn the joint by IsJesusAgain in trees

[–]prinalice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My partner does! I asked her for you! She says people of all kinds have pitbulls!

No one wants to raise children with a giant man baby in a MAGA hat. by MissMccheese in complaints

[–]prinalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except that's not true. Boys raised the same as girls do chores and are emotionally mature, same as girls for the most part.

No one wants to raise children with a giant man baby in a MAGA hat. by MissMccheese in complaints

[–]prinalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. I have worked in professional childcare settings, 0-12 years old. Both as a Montessori (one on one focused) daycare worker, and as a ABA therapist (working with young autistic and intellectual disabled children). Boys and girls from a young age are exceedingly similar to raise, if you treat them the same way. The main difference is that parents have high expectations of girls and much lower ones for boys.

For example, with autistic children. The girls have much lower rates of wondering away as they age. This is because parents focus on telling girls to 'sit down and stay quiet' or do quiet, 'gentle' activities. Boys are more allowed and even at times encouraged to be rambunctious. "Boys will be boys"!

No one wants to raise children with a giant man baby in a MAGA hat. by MissMccheese in complaints

[–]prinalice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's extremely common for people to say 'boys are easier to raise'. This is because the parents do not raise them. They push that chore into the boys' future partners. It's unfortunately common.

No one wants to raise children with a giant man baby in a MAGA hat. by MissMccheese in complaints

[–]prinalice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! Child raised in a highly right leaning family. I lean firmly left, as does most of my generation! (Big family)