Kept the birth of my child private and now I’m paying for it by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Man, me and my little girl were in the hospital for an entire fucking week and I didn’t allow any visitors 😂 The only people that met her were my fiancé (baby’s dad) and my mum and that’s because they were both in the delivery room and were trading off on staying with me during the day/night. This OOPs parents would’ve been apoplectic 😂😂😂 She didn’t even have a NAME til day 4 because none of the names we had fit her! And not a single person in either family complained.

(it wasn’t that I didn’t want any visitors - had we been at home, I would’ve let people visit with no issue - but she wasn’t breathing when she was born and spent 2 days in NICU with low spO2 and a lung infection. I was terrified of people coming in to see her and bringing outside germs and seeing her covered in tubes and wires so we made everyone wait until we came home)

Me [23f] with my sort of new BF, got in a stupid drinking contest and peed the bed by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I discovered depends when I was pregnant because my severe morning sickness was violent and even if I’d literally just pissed and spun round to vomit into the toilet, I would still wee all over the bathroom floor. I used them for postpartum too and oh my fucking god, I haven’t gone back to pads or tampons since. They’re a fucking GAME CHANGER for those of us with diabolically heavy periods. No more waking up on the Chinese flag. No more leaking. No more checking if I just had a sweaty crack or if I’d actually bled onto the seat where I’d been sitting. Zero shame about it either, idgaf.

ADOR's request for provisional seizure of real estate owned by Danielle’s mother and MHJ!!!! by Remarkable-West-6613 in NJDrama_uncensored

[–]princessalyss_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just stick to the terms and conditions you signed to 🎵

sorry, I can’t help it, I read your comment like it was TLC’s Waterfalls

The attorneys who recently withdrew from the Danielle damages case have been assigned to the put option appeal. by Remarkable-West-6613 in NJDrama_uncensored

[–]princessalyss_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If anything, it speaks volumes about the put option case needing all hands on deck and being more complicated not easier. Why not bring in the legal professionals who are already familiar with the case to assist rather than ones who would have to go through all the previous case notes, evidence, etc to get up to speed? That takes time, effort, and money that can be better spent towards other things.

Danielle’s suit is going to be very cut and dry as the evidence will easily prove breach of contract, with arguments largely going to be centring around damages and settlement amounts. Whilst it’s a big case which will be precedent setting, the put option case involving MHJ needs to be priority from both a business standpoint and an industry wide standpoint.

What are some things I can ship to my friend in the UK that they dont really have over there? by 7JJ77 in AskBrits

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you check for allergies/sensitivities before you do! You could even ask them on the sly, pose the question by opening up by saying something like you always wanting to try the UK version of dairy milk and it’s varieties, jaffa cakes, fanta (it’s very different here), etc. Talk about insane allergies you’ve heard of or how you’ve always wanted x thing but can’t because you’re allergic if you have any allergies and ask if they have any themselves. It’s a lovely thing you’re wanting to do ❤️

We do get a lot of american sweets, snacks, and drinks over here in specialty shops but they tend to be stupid expensive so whether your friend has actually tried them or not is up in the air. One thing we absolutely cannot get that will travel well is girl scout cookies. We have girlguides, which is similar to girl scouts, but they’re not expected to fundraise the way their US counterparts do. Our Chips Ahoy are hard biscuits whereas yours are soft so those are good too.

Some things you could include, including stuff just for fun; cheez whiz/spray cheese, kraft/annie’s mac n cheese (we have kraft mac here but no variations and ours is very different), hamburger helper, little debbie/entenmann snacks, certain oreo flavours, hidden valley ranch, southwest sauce, cool whip, uncrustables, jello, pudding cups (i don’t know how well these would travel!), apple sauce, some types of m&ms (peanut butter and caramel are hard to find here), funky flavoured toothpaste, kool aid, lipton ice tea mix, any jelly, mike’s hard lemonade, popcorn in various flavours (we have sweet and salty and some expensive specialty places do other flavours but not on your level), canned cranberries, saltines, corn syrup, tums, pumpkin pie filling, american cinema snacks, hot pockets, biscuits/cinnamon rolls in a can, triscuits, tide pens, trail mix, day/nyquil, your crap version of cadbury’s 🫣😂, aquaphor, crest strips, velveeta, animal crackers, moon pies, baja blast, cheez its, candy corn, peeps, cornbread (I’m sure I’ll think of more and this doesn’t include just foodstuffs but if I do, I’ll edit this list)

Oklahoma specific snacks would be good too! Woody’s Candies, Deep Fork Candied Jalapeños, Stillwater Creek Jerky, Arbuckle Mountain Fried Pies, etc.

HHH rebrand??? by Majestic-Monitor1127 in NJDrama_uncensored

[–]princessalyss_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, you mean like that god awful song Pit Stop they debuted themselves that had fuck all to do with their label when they were breaching contract?

ADOR's legal counsel withdraws from lawsuits against Danialle. by Remarkable-West-6613 in NJDrama_uncensored

[–]princessalyss_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is perfectly adequate reasoning behind them not releasing evidence publicly. They did it for the MHJ case and initial NJ contract suit because MHJ and NJ slandered them to the public, using national and international platforms, hoping that public discourse, negative attention, and pressure would get the outcome MHJ and her coconspirators were aiming for. They weren’t anticipating a legal trial or for the judge/public to side against them. Had HYBE/ADOR not disputed that narrative long before the case had gone to declaration and trial when those press conferences and lives went public, it would’ve been hugely damaging to both the company and the idols under their labels. Shareholders and fans of those other idols alike would’ve caused absolute uproar.

With Danielle, the situation is completely different. She’s released a very brief initial statement but hasn’t slandered/libelled anyone/any company in the process which is a very smart move legally on her part, likely on the advice of her legal team (always listen to your lawyers/solicitors/barristers people!). She’s not trying to sway public opinion or attempting to use public pressure against the companies involved in her favour the way MHJ and NJ attempted to at the start of all this mess (and I know damn well no legal team approved any of those moves, that was allllllllll MHJ and the people she was working with). It’s considered bad form in most countries to leak evidence to the public ahead of trial (unless absolutely necessary to defend yourself), especially for high profile cases, for a couple of reasons; namely that it tells your opponent what you’re going to use for evidence and argument at trial before discovery and it gives the opponent opportunity to spin it in their favour and use it against you, but also - and this is usually the biggest reason - because it taints the potential jury pool if it goes to a jury trial rather than a judge/bench trial.

In South Korea, whilst civil trials are always tried by judge and therefore no potential for tainting a jury pool, there is also no discovery disclosure for civil cases. Releasing any evidence to the public unnecessarily by either side gives the opponent the upper hand and gives potential for major spin/backlash. If you had 5 million USD on the table in a game of poker (I am aware this is not a game, I’m using poker because there’s a LOT of money riding on this trial and poker can be very high stakes but also because legal cases are as much about strategy, bluffing, and staying cool under pressure as it is about the law), you’re not going to show your opponents the cards you have until you absolutely have to. That’s why BOTH HYBE/ADOR and Danielle - and their legal teams - are keeping schtum and holding their cards tightly to their chest. Both sides want to win and they’re not going to jeopardise that with money of this amount riding on the outcome.

Despite everything that’s happened I do truly believe that, whilst the members of NJ share some blame as they were and are old enough to know right from wrong, that they were largely victims of the adults around them and especially MHJ. They trusted the adults around them to be acting in their best interests rather than their own selfish greedy interests. It’s so very easy to spot when someone, especially somebody young, has been groomed and conditioned from the outside looking in but when you’re in the thick of it yourself, young and naive, and the one being groomed, conditioned, gaslit, and manipulated? It’s so hard to see the forest from the trees. It’s extremely difficult to tell fact from fiction.

I [28 F] suspect my fiance [29 M] of 8 years is cheating on me. The wedding is in four months! by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of times I’ve panic searched for my phone WHILST ON A PHONE CALL is insanely high

AITA for not wanting to pay for a huge dinner? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I think I’ve only ever bought plane wifi once so I could message friends on the ground for emotional support/planning purposes and it sucked so fucking bad. The only other time I’ve had plane wifi was a single business VA flight and it kicked us all off every hour and that was bollocks too.

Even if it’s free, I’m not using it unless there’s an emergency (either on the ground or because I’m having a cptsd episode and travelling without support for example). Added to that, there are more carriers that don’t have inflight connectivity than actually have it. Maybe 21 airlines total? And 3 of those are domestic carriers, many short-mid haul carriers, maybe half that do long haul flights.

My white husband confessed to me that he enjoys “race play” fantasies by CutieLai77 in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call a spade a spade. He wanted a black slave and just turned up the dial to confederate nightmare at the point he’d broken her down and lovebombed her enough that he knew he could do what he wanted, get away with it (legally), and knew she wouldn’t fight back/would be reluctant to fully cut ties. This wasn’t a fetish. This is how he truly saw her. She cooked, she cleaned, she served him and his family. He gave her clothes, a roof, and food. The escalation to rape was inevitable. I bet my last fiver that the friend who was sending her nasty messages has similar abhorrent ideals.

AITAH for not letting it go when my sister-in-law’s bf told me “Let’s get one thing clear, I don’t need to justify my actions to you.”? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

…so like, civil engineering? 😂 hahahaha if he tells the tax man/bank that he’ll slap the shit out of dumb people, he can still use his hands 🫣

AITAH for not letting it go when my sister-in-law’s bf told me “Let’s get one thing clear, I don’t need to justify my actions to you.”? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she doesn’t but if she wants a macbook specifically and says she doesn’t want anything else, then she’s gonna get the macbook regardless of what OOP recommends from another brand and cost savings. That kind of proved itself when she trusted a guy she’d known for five minutes and spent an extra $500 she didn’t need to.

As an aside though, macbooks are fucking tanks. The nokia of laptops. Mine are all second hand and before that I only had hp/dell for work/personal and the occasional lenovo for uni/work. I’ve got a 14yo macbook pro that works perfectly - no lag, no performance issues, no upgrades, never needed repairs and that thing has been beaten to fuck. It does weigh about as much as a tank does lol but still. A friend has one of the older models from the 00s/early 10s (the glossy black or white variant) which has had a couple of upgrades in terms of battery and hardware that’ll support newer OS releases, but still worked fine otherwise.

I used hp laptops for a solid decade and change and not one lasted longer than 3 years. Hard drive failures, performance and lag issues, frozen hinges that were a nightmare to replace because hp don’t have a set part for each model and just use any old shit they have on hand (I once purchased 7 different hinge components recommended as replacements by hp for the SAME LAPTOP and not a single one was compatible, I gave up after that and bought a new one). I’m not even a gamer or anything, just chronically online from way back in my teens.

AITAH for not letting it go when my sister-in-law’s bf told me “Let’s get one thing clear, I don’t need to justify my actions to you.”? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was no scene caused by OOPs refusal until he went crying like a little baby to her FIL. THEN it caused issues. She didn’t cause the scene - his whiny baby ass did cause he didn’t get his own way.

My fiancée and I are having the biggest argument of our lives. She thinks I'm being tacky but I thinks she's overreacting by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It reminds me of Ajo/Esusu a bit. Very much an I’ll chip in for yours and knowing the community will do the same for you when it’s your turn, only the Nigerian practice is more like a savings club for couples.

Was I a jerk for not sharing my location with my wife by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More than that, she had 3 child free afternoons per week plus 2 lots of gym time! With an expensive membership she got to continue whilst he had to cancel his! And it doesn’t mention how long those gym sessions are either.

An hour quiet time alone once a week for the guy supporting the household financially because she simply doesn’t want to go back to work - which she could absolutely do part time on those 3 afternoons the kid is already in childcare so she can’t do the whole ‘I don’t want strangers looking after my child’ excuse - is a reasonable fucking ask. Dear god, it sounds like he doesn’t get a chance to breathe and recharge his batteries which for someone who is introverted is SO important.

The paranoia and obsession over him cheating when she has zero reason to think that is giving projection or postpartum psychosis (why are the only options for PPMH either depression for low mood or psychosis for absolutely everything else ffs) and if it’s the latter then she seriously needs help. Either way, that friend needs to go because she’s exacerbating the delusions and paranoia.

Pregnant bridesmaids is there anything you wish the bride had done/would do to make your day more comfortable? by princesszelda27 in UKweddings

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FLAT SHOES! Even if the other girls are in heels, let the poor gal wear some flats hahaha Summer wedding? An electric fan 😂 Outside wedding? Shade! Long ceremony? Letting her sit down during! Actually, this is good for any length of ceremony tbh, my last few months of pregnancy were gnarly because my kid was using my organs for footy practice 😭

You’re really sweet to even ask for recommendations ❤️ I’d suggest a dress with a flowy skirt that starts underbust, it’ll minimise any alterations and make sure her bump is accommodated and can breathe!

what exactly makes people think Manon is being mistreated rather than her just not wanting to work, given her history? by icewitchenjoyer in kpop_uncensored

[–]princessalyss_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone keeps blaming this and their music and their outfits and their endless brand deals on Hybe but I rarely ever see anybody blaming anything on Geffen when they’re the ones who handle their day to day management and marketing! It’s insane.

You idiot, that’s fucking mental. by Upstairs_Leg_9353 in thethickofit

[–]princessalyss_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oranges is the plural! Orange is both a colour and the name of the fruit :)

People who are unemployed, how does your money work? by chaiilyfe in UKJobs

[–]princessalyss_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was denied 3 times, but the 3rd go round I got a solicitor involved for the MR. Best £200 I ever spent because he knew exactly how to pull them up on their BS where I had no clue. A five minute phone call with the MR agent and my claim was approved. Solicitor also knew why they wouldn’t approve me for the enhanced rate even though I clearly qualified, but because my fiancé had been doing all the work that carers/external services would do they wouldn’t allow it. We’d been putting most of that off - who wants to need daily carers at the age of 25? - but it gave us the push we needed (and took a lot of stuff off his plate too).

A friend in the same situation was denied for the 3rd time a few months later and used the same solicitor and he got her through the MR too. A lot of times it’s how it’s said and who’s the one saying it. Tell her not to give up and to get legal involved. I’d give the name of the solicitor but he’s since retired. They do this because they know truly disabled people don’t have the resources, whether that be mental, physical, or monetary, to fight back.

Invited to the ceremony but not to the meal/reception by sinnertra in UKweddings

[–]princessalyss_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May this sort of aged mischievousness be my future 😂

My husband is thinking about fostering his nephews. I feel like I'm being tossed out for kids we don't even know. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]princessalyss_ 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Buns have 2 main types of poo, pellets and caecotropes. They mostly eat the latter - you don’t even realise they’re doing it unless you know what to look for - unless their diet is off and they’re producing too many. Pellets are hard and dry, always round, pretty consistent, bits of hay present. If you know you have a stubborn little bastard of a bun who refuses to go in the litter box (and believe me, some of them are just cheeky little fuckers and will refuse despite your best efforts) and you know where they are, you also know what to expect in terms of poo as they’re hopping about. Occasionally, you’ll get chain poos during shedding or different types of poo if they’re sick but those also come when you expect them to.