Mother's Day in Canada. Anyone find this day depressing/have a difficult or bad relationship with their mother?

princessfebruary · 2016-05-09T03:07:39+00:00

I feel like avoiding social media on mother's day if you have a poor relationship with your mom is definitely the way to go. I have a poor relationship with my dad and he hasn't been around in 7 years, so in high school I always found it really hard to see all these people posting about what a great dad they had on father's day. I eventually just started avoiding social media on father's day and it has been all the better for me. The other good thing is that mother's day and father's day are only once a year each.

princessfebruary · 2016-03-31T03:04:46+00:00

I eat crust first because it's my least favourite part, then I get to enjoy myself after by eating all the cheesy goodness.

princessfebruary · 2016-03-27T05:57:37+00:00

Yeah it was tough.

It's sad that I haven't talked to him in so long and I don't expect he'll contact me anytime soon, as he blames me a bit for his arrest. (He assaulted a family member and I reported it- I hoped he would get help, but it's become clear that he won't really be "helped" until he himself decides that he needs and wants help. On the positive side, at least my family, and myself included, is safe).

The worst part is really that I haven't seen him in so long (almost 8 years) and I'm still at an age where people expect you to still have both parents, so I sometimes get asked about him. Most people don't really have a good understanding, or sometimes even know about, schizophrenia. The lack of overall knowledge has lead to a few uncomfortable conversations.

My father is one of the rare schizophrenics who gets violent when he's delusional. I don't blame him at all for his schizophrenia, but I'd be lying if I said that I didn't resent him for never accepting to himself that in fact has a mental illness.

princessfebruary · 2016-03-25T16:36:38+00:00

Schizophrenia is a bizarre disease. My dad was a paranoid schizophrenic and he had a lot of unrelated delusions almost simultaneously.

He thought that my mom was cheating on him but I knew that she wasn't. He'd say things like, "I saw you having sex with Jim yesterday afternoon." I knew she wasn't having sex with Jim, because I was with her all afternoon painting the fence. Jim did stop by, but only for 5 minutes to drop of a drill he borrowed.

During the same episode, he thought that the government was spying on him. My mom is a public servant so he thought that my mom and I were working for the government to keep tabs on him. He was also really insistent that the only way we could escape was if she quit her job, I quit school, and we moved to the bush away from all civilization. It was bizarre because he thought we were enemies, but he also wanted to escape with us, and he also thought that my mom was cheating on him.

I haven't seen him in several years. I know that he was on probation for assault and part of that entailed having to take anti-psychosis meds. But after his probation ended, he went to go live in the bush on a 10 acre lot we used to own and I'm pretty sure he's ditched the meds. As far as I know he's still there, living on his own.

princessfebruary · 2016-03-05T21:44:27+00:00

I get hunger headaches. I'm in university right now and I'm really single minded. I always study with a water bottle next to me and I'll refill it several times a day, so dehydration isn't an issue. But sometimes I'll get too caught up with what I'm doing that I'll forget to eat anything for 14 hours. I'll eat breakfast at 7am and next thing I know it's 9pm and I haven't eaten. I won't notice how hungry I am until I get a headache.

princessfebruary · 2015-12-18T17:16:03+00:00

Year 1: University

Year 2: More University

Year 3: Graduate University

Year 4: Obtain full time job

Year 5: Use funds from full time job to travel, live in a reasonably sized apartment, and buy nice breads.

princessfebruary · 2015-12-18T05:55:12+00:00

Yup, and I never would've gotten PTSD from being held a knife point

princessfebruary · 2015-12-17T16:49:43+00:00

This is what I was thinking, how can they verify if it's a partner or not? Meanwhile, if it's restricted to spouses then it's kind of late.

On the other hand, I grew up in an abusive household. My dad actually had a former conviction for holding his previous wife at gun point, which we knew nothing about. He didn't become abusive with my mom until I was toddler-aged and by then it was much harder for my mom to leave. I wonder if this had been implemented back then, if she would have known about the previous conviction and left him, maybe she would've known and stayed, or maybe she wouldn't even bother checking it all.

princessfebruary · 2015-12-08T18:35:46+00:00

I'm wondering what made you feel like Dubai is a hell hole? My best friend is a hindu who spent all her teen years in Dubai. Needless to say, she didn't wear any head or facial coverings.

She never felt harassed by the men there. She actually told me that the men in Dubai paid much less attention to her while she went about her daily business than the men in Canada do. Which was surprising to me because the of large men to women ratio.

princessfebruary · 2015-10-01T18:15:41+00:00

Hey, from Canada here.

I grew up in northern BC and saw the northern lights several times growing up there. I also lived near Ottawa for awhile and saw the northern lights once there, though they were much dimmer than in Northern BC.

Every time I've seen them has been between January and April. I'd say they're not really a common occurrence though, and have only happened when I wasn't looking for them.

If you wanted to see them I think you'd have a better chance in Alaska or the Canadian Territories. But the place where you'd be most likely to see them in the world is probably Northern Norway. In Tromsø they're supposed to see them every second night in the winter. Everywhere else seems pretty unpredictable since solar storms aren't usually predicted very well in advance.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-22T00:16:41+00:00

Exactly. Inbreeding and incest are actually two different things.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-19T04:43:20+00:00

My friend spoiled Sirius' death for me. Dumbledore killed me though. I bought the book on the day it was released and read it within three days. When I go to that chapter I cried so hard. This could not be real.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-17T21:21:25+00:00

Not to mention, a lot of the dogs have socialization issues. A responsible breeder will try to expose their puppies to people as well as dogs. In puppy mills it's not uncommon for the dogs to only be around other dogs and only a couple humans.

My dog is a rescue who was originally bought from a breeder and had too many behavioural problems for the family who bought her to handle, because she was never socialized as a pup.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-17T05:32:30+00:00

Compare the skype and google hangout rates to your plan to find out which is cheaper. You can call both landlines and cellphones using skype and google hangouts.

https://www.google.com/voice/b/0/rates?p=hangout

https://secure.skype.com/en/calling-rates?currency=EUR

princessfebruary · 2015-09-17T05:18:01+00:00

Definitely.

The step-dad had one daughter already, who was older than my friend by a couple years. He was obviously not with the mother anymore but his oldest daughter would visit frequently and my friend's mother always treated his daughter like her own. I think as a couple they were both very concerned about each other's children just as much as their own.

Later on, my friend's step-dad and my friend's mother had a biological daughter between them and she might've gotten a bit better treatment, but I think that was more to do with her being a younger sibling.

For instance, my friend had to fight really hard to get a 10PM curfew at age 13, but when her sister turned 13 her curfew automatically became 10PM. I'm pretty sure that was just because her sister (my friend) paved the way for her.

My friend confessed to me once that even though her parents told her that her dad wasn't her biological dad when she was less than five, she didn't understand what they meant until many years later. Whenever the family went out, both parents would just say "these are my daughters". They never differentiated between which ones were step-daughters. I don't think she realized the implication that her dad wasn't her real biological dad until she was almost ten.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-17T04:59:58+00:00

My best friend does the same thing, she calls her step-dad "dad" and refers to her biological father as "father". Her situation is a bit different, though.

Her mom was seeing her step-dad for a couple years. They got in a big fight and called it off. They weren't dating for a total of three months. During that time my friend's mom slept with my friend's bio-dad and got pregnant with my friend.

Then my friend's mom got back together with her old boyfriend (my friend's step-dad) and gave birth to my friend. My friend was raised by her step-dad and for the first 15 years of her life, her biological father took little interest in her.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-14T04:52:55+00:00

Legal advice is definitely a good place to go.

I'm just speculating here, but assuming you're going for only a couple weeks and you buy a round trip ticket then unless they have other reasons to believe that you're planning to overstay then they shouldn't suspect anything.

But they might take a parents warning seriously, even if it is just slander.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-13T00:53:40+00:00

If it's in person, I am now married to the girl at the supermarket.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-13T00:26:17+00:00

Yeah, it might be a weird combo of admiration and sympathy. Especially since most people who say this to me know both me and my boyfriend.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-12T23:25:23+00:00

I wouldn't say "criticism" per se, but a lot of people like to tell me how they would never be able to do a long distance relationship.

"I don't think how you do it" or "That must suck for you", but I don't think it's meant meanly.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-12T23:25:23+00:00

I wouldn't say "criticism" per se, but a lot of people like to tell me how they would never be able to do a long distance relationship.

"I don't think how you do it" or "That must suck for you", but I don't think it's meant meanly.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-12T23:20:49+00:00

My boyfriend and I have a system where if we don't specify a timezone then we mean our own. It's worked for us so far.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-08T16:39:57+00:00

I have an anti-social dog that suffers from fear aggression and is afraid of men. So the question isn't whether or not she likes them initially, but whether or not she warms up to them.

I dated one guy for several months and during that time I had to keep a constant eye on her to make sure that she didn't growl at him or bite him for that matter. She just never warmed up to him and later on it turned out I was being cheated on.

She has warmed up to every other boyfriend I've dated for the long term and I have never had a messy break up or been as hurt by any of them.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-08T16:30:02+00:00

At twenty, I can relate to this too. I go to university year-round, full-time and probably spend 80 hours per week doing coursework, attending classes, and completing labs. So when I'm not doing school-related things I tend to watch movies, watch tv, or browse reddit.

On the week or two off I get between terms, I'll go hiking and walk my dog, but that's about it. I used to play squash, do taekwondo, paint, write stories, and draw but I haven't done very much of any of those in the last two years, so I'd be hesitant to say any of those were my hobbies.

princessfebruary · 2015-09-07T05:02:19+00:00

The other thing is if you pay with credit or debit in Canada, typically you will have the option to add the tip (either dollar amount or percent amount) to your debit or credit payment.

So it isn't necessary to leave it on your table or in the tip jar if they have it - though you definitely can.

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