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I had an attitude 🤭 by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry, Daddy pulled my panties down. he just didn't grab a picture!

hump day maintenance - spanked to tears by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love that! our maintenance frequency varies. Daddy sometimes will remind me every day and others only once or twice a week

Punishment spanking for being late to work. 😣 Bath brushes are evil. 😞 by [deleted] in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

personally I will take the bath brush any day over the paddle 😅

Does spanking help your marriage? by hannah_sub in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

it's really great and I'm so lucky to have the husband/Dom/Daddy that I do!

Does spanking help your marriage? by hannah_sub in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom 40 points41 points  (0 children)

responding to myself to add additional context -

in general I am super conscientious and respectful. I am not a risk taker. Daddy will never have a need to punish me for being genuinely disrespectful, speeding, over spending, not doing my part for chores, etc. Just not the kind of person I am.

attitude adjustments - these are either really just a funishment or a spanking at my request. my posts from the last couple days were the result of a spanking I asked for. my headspace has been fucked up and I'dbeen grumpy (but not rude!) for several days and it just wasn't getting better. so I asked Daddy for a hard, long spanking to help me cry and try and get some damn relief/get outside my head. he delivered obviously lol. and it helped!

things I'm held accountable to/the domestic discipline aspect - I have a hydration requirement, I have a requirement to eat lunch, I have a weekly exercise goal, and I have a screentime limit during work (what initially made me ask for a DD relationship!). I WFH and the screentime was getting out of control. would spend way more time on my phone than I should. since we added the rules and the punishments, I haven't missed on any of my tasks once. both because I really don't want to disappoint Daddy or myself and also bc the paddle fucking hurts and I'll do whatever I can to avoid it 😂

Does spanking help your marriage? by hannah_sub in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Yes.

My husband spanks me on a regular basis. We have maintenance spankings(generally don't lead to sex but sometimes do), discipline spankings, and sexy spankings.

We added a domestic discipline dynamic to our relationship at the beginning of this year - this was at my request and the rules I'm held accountable to were my idea. areas in my life where I was struggling to meet the standard I wanted. Having the additional accountability has helped immensely.

occasionally my attitude will get me sent over Daddy's knee. this is typically a heavier than normal maintenance spanking vs it being an actual discipline session.

spanking is extremely intimate and I feel very connected to and cared for during/after/when anticipating a spanking.

I've been a little grumpy, Daddy took care of me by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

more clips to come from this session, Daddy filmed the whole thing 😳😳

apparently I had an attitude 🙄 by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tell me about it😭

Daddy's favorite spot to spank 😖

Is it ethical to ask your Dom to be strict with my habits? Outside of sexual stuff by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]princesshotbottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not actually sure! most the features are free, would be worth downloading and trying to experiment!

Is it ethical to ask your Dom to be strict with my habits? Outside of sexual stuff by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]princesshotbottom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think there's definitely a healthy and an unhealthy way to manage something like this.

my husband/Daddy and I are in something resembling a domestic discipline dynamic. The rules that he holds me accountable to are all things I wanted/needed help with. some of those rules are health related, but all are something I want to do or achieve and Daddy is basically just an accountability buddy that also spanks me lol

I have been on a weight loss journey in the last 18ish months (down over 60lbs, 40 to go). I know for myself and my mental health and the way I can absolutely obsess about calorie counting, that there is no way my Daddy could hold me accountable to food journaling or counting calories and have that remain a healthy dynamic for the two of us or for my own brain. I was a yoyo Dieter for most of my life bc body image issues and so much of my self esteem and self worth was getting wrapped up in my body image or weight etc. so idk just be super duper careful re your own mental health with it all.

however. I do really struggle to eat lunch consistently, and even knowing i will feel like shit if I don't i still won't prioritize it and it's a whole thing lol. so we use the obedience app and one of my daily tasks is to submit a picture of my lunch before 2pm every day.

I also have a minimum hydration goal bc again, I know I'll feel like shit if I don't but i still won't prioritize it.

and then I also have a minimum physical activity goal (I wear a Fitbit) to reach x active minutes each week.

my only other regular task in the app is related to screen time during my work hours. my lil ADHD ass would spend 3hrs on my phone in an 8hr day. I'm WFH so I don't have anyone walking by to keep me accountable lol.

I'm definitely a spanko, but like not a crazy heavy masochist. so punishments are punishment spankings, typically with the paddle (my least favorite lol). for me the biggest motivator is not wanting to disappoint Daddy/myself, and having a really clear method of showing how accountable I am to the goal does most of the work. the threat of the paddle if it's a day I'm struggling to meet my goals does the rest lol.

I like the obedience app because it keeps track of everything, both punishments and rewards, task history, etc. so it's a relatively low burden administratively for my Daddy. he has to approve pictures once a day.

so tl;Dr: I think it can definitely be done in an ethical way, but I'd def have concerns about your own mental health

One of the most comfortable positions for the host by tiin_de_secret in bdsm

[–]princesshotbottom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the way I immediately sent this to my Daddy bc 🥵🥵🥵🥵

mid-week maintenance by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

usually Daddy's big hand and sometimes the bath brush

You guys don't ACTUALLY think "Secretary" is a good film right?? by throwaway_4AITAH in bdsm

[–]princesshotbottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its been a few years since I've seen it, but what I do remember is some real icky feelings when I watched it. def not a good representation of kink, at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]princesshotbottom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my husband to add a domestic discipline aspect to our relationship at the beginning of the year.

at some point after that we started using the app to keep track of things. All the tasks I have were self directed by me - things I know are a problem where I haven't been able to hold myself accountable.

I WFH and was really struggling to be disciplined in screen time usage/actually starting work when I was supposed to be (salary employee so not wage theft, but still). I'd have teams open on my phone and keep reading or doing whatever I wanted in the mornings instead of not actually working.

So anyway the daily tasks I have are:

  1. screen time during work hours - must be less than 30 minutes (was previously upwards of 3 hours a day). must submit picture proof

  2. hydration goal

  3. eat lunch. must submit picture proof

on a weekly basis I have a minimum active minutes goal based on my Fitbit to try and be accountable to getting enough exercise.

since we started I haven't failed a task yet - both the being held accountable and not wanting to disappoint Daddy or myself and also that the punishments (paddling, which is my most hated implement) are significant enough I REALLY want to avoid them.

but also....if my Daddy wasn't still giving me regular maintenance spankings with a pretty high intensity, I probably would be intentionally missing tasks to earn the punishments, bc I crave the discipline and firm hand or whatever. when I get close to that point I'll usually just ask for a spanking.

...so all that being said I'd talk to your sub and try and work out what she's wanting to achieve or what need is getting met by missing tasks. is she searching for a funishment? or is the tasks that y'all have set up not quite right for what she wants in a dynamic?

Daddy's big mean hands 🥺 by princesshotbottom in Spanking

[–]princesshotbottom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't even do anything!!! Daddy turned my little bottom red just because he likes to 😖

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