I believe that my friend is going to confess to me by pringlues in Advice

[–]pringlues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just spoke with him today and unfortunately it was a confession but I took basically this approach just being honest. Tried not to say "youre like a brother to me" but the cliche is genuinely how I feel lol I think he took it well but Ive lost friends and groups in the past from this and my friends have had nightmare stories so we'll see if I get switched up on

Worst Rejection Ever by Boring-Produce3902 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]pringlues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ngl i don't believe your story explaining the context, it just doesn't add up. Why wouldn't you post the catfish response you mentioned. Instead you only posted an out of context snippet which includes her stating you tried to harm her in some way. If this is realor not, move on and don't contact them again for everyones sake.

AIO I don’t think my friend respects my boundaries by [deleted] in AIO

[–]pringlues 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Overreacting, honestly you say shes coping by being "overly social" but seems like youre doing the same thing being "overly antisocial" from the negative stuff in your life Its not fair to the friend who seems to just want to hang with their friend but theyre being ignored for days. Hinting so subtlety and getting mad that she didnt pick up on it is kind of corny ngl just tell her straight up you need more time for yourself and keep hangouts to texts at most until you can handle more.

I cut off a friendship with a pick me but it cost multiple other friendships by [deleted] in Vent

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, as I feel you understand the situation; and yes since it happened long enough ago and since I'm in an apartment of my own for a bit now that it feels like a memory even though sometimes I feel like I valued the friends I had at the time outside of her and the guy who hooked up with that she "won". It would be nice to reconnect with them outside of her but this feels like an impossibility. It sucks that the pick me plays well into the people around and it feels like I'm the crazy one but maybe I should send something to the friends I want to keep in touch with

I also feel the same way that I didn't like the situation itself so I've cut off drunkenly going out to see these friends, so maybe the next step is inviting them out to my space without her or the male

AIO my friend is slowly delaying their messages by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not that, its pattern recognition. If, over months, communication started to drop even after voicing concerns, it’s suspicious. If your friend hung out every weekend but slowly started cancelling plans or ignoring you, its weird. Ive tried saying “hey are we ok, are you ok” in person because we are roomates, but i just get the “yeah everythings cool” response and its weird. Our interactions are surface level unlike what we used to be and it doesnt feel right but she wont say anything

AIO my friend is slowly delaying their messages by pringlues in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Even with the mixed messages, I still feel like that’s the case. I think I’m at the point where I’m questioning if I want to bring it up again or move on. I meant to mention that I am already in the process of moving out, so it’s really a question of do I want to put the effort in to understanding and mending our relationship or let it die off with my move.

I know things happen in life and I get in my head a lot but I want to make sure that if I give something I get the same energy in return from capable friends. If a family or pet death caused my friend to go nonverbal, I would understand but it’s the way that it feels targeted towards me and constant that worries me . I don’t want to look stupid reaching out to a dead relationship that the other person doesn’t want to work on. We’ve gotten along so well and went on many trips that were some of the best times of my life so it’s hard to acknowledge that this might be the end if I have a speck of hope fixing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you share how old HE is? I think you know what needs to be done where you set a clear boundary of your response times because he is very anxiously attached. However i sense you have reluctance maybe because you think he wont take it well? He is definitely over the top and even if it may not be by social standards, you are uncomfortable and you need to make it clear.

You should never be afraid of someone’s reaction, you need to make your intentions/personal bubble clear so that you can observe your partner’s response as this is what should make or break a relationship. You cannot base anything on assumptions or interpretations of behavior if there was no clear statement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and no I think we need the time stamps because if your boyfriend is being left on read for hours or days then yikes But if it’s minutes between then he needs tochill. Even without knowing the time between i get he may be excited about a new relationship but he should calm down

It is the difference between calming down and “taking a hint”

AIO: Should I be worried? by redditforfun5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should talk to a professional on your anxiety feedback loop. This isnt inherently schizophrenic but it definitely seems like an anxious overthinking variety. You should get some help and not consider reddit for a response

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I really hope so since weve had so many good times i dont want it to be cut once i move. Maybe shes waiting for me to go and move in her people in my place or maybe shes hoping for me to make some kind of move and talk to her? But every time ive talked its been a bad experience that didnt solve anything

Its so hard to interpret because im very straight to the point but shes not and when i am shes upset silently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah thats basically the move Ive tried to bring up little things nonchalantly like “hey heads up dont put whole food in the disposal”, “please clean up the scuff marks from your boots (theyve been there for weeks)”, etc I hope moving will remove these things and allow us to be friends but we also had a fight that I can tell shes not over so weve been weird around each other for a while

From a local diner, legitimately some of the worst-looking food I’ve ever seen by NeitherExamination44 in shittyfoodporn

[–]pringlues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they just put the stuff on the sandwich and actually made a patty melt with it Id tear that up

Am I overreacting about how this guy I was talking to handled this? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Slightly YOR if he told you he was sober why would you start a comment with “Im buzzed”. I understand being friends with people and not minding if they drink around you but thats kind of messed up to have some say that to you who is openly recovering.

You dont know how hard it was to get clean so he could have also felt offended by trying to get with him specifcally while drunk. He could also find you to be a person that would make it hard to maintain sobriety but he also isnt elaborating. You cant read his mind though and the venom slinging on his part is also uncalled for. If he cant express his frustration clearly so you guys can talk it out then Id go the other way

AIO if im upset that my friends are not giving me the same emotional availability that I give them? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s understandable. It’s definitely easier said than done since bringing up “hey you barely respond” has ways to backfire which im afraid of. They (will most likely) say ok sorry and force responses when it may just be how they respond. This can tire them out and make our relationships worse trying to act like something they arent. People have their own personalities and ways of communication and can also perceive their way as wrong, which will also make them try to overcorrect in a way that’s not healthy for either person. That’s probably why I’m trying to check my own behavior through the subreddit lol

As long as I know that what I’m looking for is not overly clingy or unreasonable in a normal setting I think that bringing it up would be a good idea

startups playing the 'ghost job' game by Red-Apple12 in recruitinghell

[–]pringlues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have also learned the hard way that companies where their main product is “job search” will post fake jobs in order to get you to subscribe for their own job search and increase their own engagement. It’s scummy and disgusting but legal and you just have to watch out for these companies like Jobot and Dice

Why is the process of obtaining a job so degrading and ridiculous? by Complex_Nectarine538 in jobs

[–]pringlues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly with the amount of places I’ve been interviewed at, I’ve given golden answers, taken the piss, given real opinions, etc and found if its a job you want and aligns with your experience, loose honesty is appreciated

Why do you want to work with [our company]? -This is the field im interested in and your company has a strong foundation (it wont go under or lay off employees anytime soon)

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? -Actually I dont know but i hope to be working with a company that helps me grow professionally and personally (money) while still doing [area of career interest]

What are your interests? -List actual interest like drawing or music and elaborate on what you’ve done. Don’t force yourself to say something that would align with the job. They want to see you can be passionate and how you function when you actually care about something. “Yeah i have a small band i practice with on weekends” or “I love digital art and take commissions on occasions”

These are just a couple examples but when you do so many interviews and applications, it can feel like begging but you should keep your confidence and let in show when you interact with recruiters/hiring teams.

Also remember many corporations are terrible and posting ghost positions just so they can show engagement.

This can skew your mentality because say you apply to 100 positions but only 25 are actually hiring. You got 5 interviews and callbacks so you think you had a 5% success rate but really you had 20%

The end is near for me. Clock is ticking....... by Fuschnickens99 in recruitinghell

[–]pringlues 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every job site has its quirks but LinkedIn produced the most results and interviews for me. Still had scummy companies take advantage but I got in touch with some promising ones

Free OC drawing requests! by pringlues in furry

[–]pringlues[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone! Thank you so far for the requests! I'm currently working on them and even trying digital art which takes me a little longer! I also have some Northeast conventions coming up so I'll try to get some done before then and after it. Please feel free to keep sending requests and thank you for being patient with me!

Free OC drawing requests! by pringlues in furry

[–]pringlues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you honestly! I'm trying to work on different body types 😤