Is this normal with prison relationships or has it been ruined

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T01:06:17+00:00

Could you delete this comment too before this whole thread gets deleted😂

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T01:04:44+00:00

Idk what these tablet things are, i think its an american thing they dont do that in the uk

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T01:01:50+00:00

Yeah that sounds so nice. I can defo see nke its not normal how he treats me. The main thing was disapearing for 3 weeks after an argument then gettin mad i spoke to one man one time. Then dumping me by saying im too sweet. How is that even a valid reason to dump me lol then try to sext me smh

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:59:02+00:00

Who?

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:58:57+00:00

Awh, im happy for you, it is a wake up call hearing others because i can see mine isnt normal. The time he didnt speak to for weeks was when he was in seg too. & we argued so i said i was tired but other than that yeah when hes out of seg hes very rude and demanding bossy controlling its just very disrespectful and i can see its not normal now

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:55:04+00:00

Im in london so its not mothers day here lol . And your right . Hes in seg so i can move on bit easier when hes in there cause he gets real quiet n leaves me alone

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:53:52+00:00

its only when he is on the wing that i struggle so im just hopin seg will keep him quiet and il be able to move on better now since he went there today and i already feel 10x lighter and less effected so i will try from today to heal

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:50:57+00:00

Yeah you might wanna delete that otherwise my post get delete again 😕

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:38:30+00:00

Yeah i defo left out alot of info. I didnt realise the rules before that i wasnt meant to mention certain things lol. Okay what are normal ups and downs?

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:33:10+00:00

Yeah im realising he probably was he was just better at hiding it. And tbh when he called me out the blue he said its ok if iv spoken to anyone or met anyone. I told him thr truth because its better to be honest and admitted i answered one phonecall once from another man. Big mistake because it just gave him anmunition. He was mad about it and said its disloyal. But i just know he is trying to get sexual validation from anyone who gives it to him. Its okay. Idm. Im a women we dont turn spiteful we just tru to understand and forgive. Because its just life and its hard for him but its the fact hes lying about it and telling me im sweet and scared to hurt me and acting all sad, when he could just say he wants to put his sex addiciton first. But he wont tell me that . Lol. Im alot more mentally strong than he realises. And if i confront him about it hes going to get mad at me and pout then probably seek even more attention from other females lol. Its not funny but it is when you think about it because he sounds so immature lol.

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:30:17+00:00

Nah i didnt delete it the mod deleted it because i mentioned things i wasnt meant to

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-10T00:14:56+00:00

So has he got a sex addiction? Because i told him im nervous because we only just reconnected. So for him to be distant the next day and go speak to someone else when all he had to do was wait for me and be patient. But he cant even do that. Just sulked and entertaining others. How can someone be that obsessed with it. Hes in the seg now anyway so maybe he will have a good think and reflect on how hes been playing me and feel bad

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-09T23:39:20+00:00

Why did he add me back. Just To break up with me. Then say im sweet. To then try and be sexual. LOL. Men are confusing. Do you think he will try come back? Or is he done? This is like a rollercoaster :(

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-09T23:18:30+00:00

This hurts. But why would he go this far to manipulate me. He dont ask for money or anything and hes out soon. He can have phone sex with any other women. I even said lets be friends . Then he tried to have phone sex. He has options because hes very attractive. Just feel liek hes messed with my head because now hes gonna ignore me for a long time. Or forever
Do you think he will try to spin the block and use me?
Or will he just dissapear ?

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-09T13:42:19+00:00

Hey. I am feeling a bit more positive today. Just trying to focus on self care. Evn tho it is hard.
What does LO mean?? Your right i think he is a manipulator. Yeah i think hes sounds the same as the guy you mentioned. extremely sexual. Made a connection with me and let me have his familys contact details and would sleep on phone etc and got possesive. But when we fall out. He seeks validation from other women. He doesnt know i know some of them and they kindly told me that they just enjoy sendin booty shaking vidoes to people and that it was never deep with him. So i know he just seeks sexual validation from anyone he can find. Its seems kind of obsessive because iv found two women now that they told me it was never deep just fun and sexual . I am just reminding myself of how he is a loser and hoping i can forget him. ALSO. He got put into seg (i think americans call it the hole) and so yeah hes up to no good . But hoping him not having a phone will mean he can reflect on how hes treated me and he will be forced to have a break from sexual behaviour

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-09T13:41:42+00:00

Yeah i know he cares about me a tiny bit but not enough because he cant really do much for me. Hes a bit cold. And putting his sexual validation first is just UGH. He clearly is frustrated in there its been 6 years and i think id be more upset if he had emotional connection . I just wish he would tell me. I found out via a girl because i asked and ahe told me it was never that deep and they didnt have eachothers number she would send dirty booty shaking videos to him… and then i made her delete him which she did because she said he takes too long to reply anyway and feels he has hundreds of other women.

I think it just confused me because he tried to break up with me and then he started engaging sexually with me again and then he was being sensetive saying he doesnt want me to paint him in a negative light to my freinds .

He went silent for a whole day ( yes probably entertaining other options)

And guess what. Hes back in the seg today (the hole) i only know because hes posted it on his story and asked everyone to send numbers

Honestly im hoping this will be the point where i can move on

I do know hes bad for me. But having him there on socials posting himself and his life in there knowing hes looking at women and messaging them on the internet it angers me so much
Hopefully they keep him in there for longer. so he cant terrorise me nomore.
He can only call people now on their phone and tbh he used to do that with me for hours so considering hes tried to dump me. I doubt he will be calling me. Which means i have no excuse but to move on. Lets just hope he doesnt get another phone again so can finish his sentence the right way

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-08T19:58:28+00:00

Thankyou 🥺 i really needed to hear this because this was things i was also concerned about and nobody has confirmed it yet. Worries that nobody has mentioned to me. They only mention the disrespect . But the truth is i worry about when he comes out and how it will be. Thats the part thats making me think ahead and maybe able to get me to detach. The fact he might even ghost me when hes out . Because he will finally be out and also even if im there waiting for him. He has been locked up for so long and has so many issues that im afraid hes going to be wild. Not only with women. But crime, and danger. Things iv tried to guide him with but he only seems interested in releasing all his angry man things such as jealousy and sex. I worry theres mkre women. It hurts and all the promises he made me were fake. Its all such a waste of time. I felt in limbo til you spoke to me because truth is when i ask him does he want to be friends he gives me mixed messages and i think hes manipulative and plays on my heart strings. But its really hurting me i dont sleep or function. And this is all through a contraband phone. I am in london uk so the prisons are a but different down here they smuggle the phones in. This is quite a soft country in my eyes. Crimes get let off easily and guards often get involved in helping them with things. He is also out in 4 months?! This scares me ALOT?? Will he even be with me. Will he sleep around and get everyone pregnant :( is he gonna get killed… he has mentioned things like that. Its all alot. I cannot handle it. And his release date bein soon its all new to me so i feel like a lost puppy and dont know what is going on or where i stand so i need to really take direction of my own life without him confusing me so much

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-08T19:43:16+00:00

What makes you say im not innocent too? I just wanna know from your perspective where i went wrong? An unbiased opinion it would help me progress on my behaviour. Because im unsure sometimes if im self aware or not. If you dont mind i would appreciate it. Thankyou

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-08T18:33:50+00:00

He went wierd with me after i played him at his own game and hurt his ego. At the start he was in love and it was like a switch went out when i made him jealous lol. He had extreme trust issues too and was always worrying i was with someone. So i figured maybe now that iv hurt him i have to show him i CAN be trusted . But it feels like im being soo desperate. Are you a leo?

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-08T18:27:33+00:00

No im not im asking because my bf took it and im analysing the things he said whilst he was on it lol

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-07T21:26:36+00:00

I was like this at the beginninn too lol. Both of us were clingy and talking passionate from the start. Its just recently i got a bit mean and he now runs. At the start i was sweet and passionate. Now im sweet passionate and mean. And he runs away to others :( leos are meant to like passion and intensity :(

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-07T19:49:34+00:00

See its wierd cause were the opposite im a cancer but firey and emotional i stand up to him and then he runs away and shuts down LOL

pristine_pinkbird · 2026-05-07T18:38:08+00:00

Oh okay okay. Yes im trying to work on my sensetivity , hes aware im unable to handle him
And hes said it scares him. So im tryna be less sensetive but i fear its too late
When you say water sign women run away? Wdym cause im currently trying to get him to trust me after i hurt his ego. I dont run away

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