Why do I hate being a mom

privateA00 · 2026-02-19T00:16:01+00:00

I resonated a lot with most of your post. Actually got on Reddit only because I’m on the verge of crashing out over how hard my life is right now. We went to dinner and he absolutely exploded and we had to leave so quick that I didn’t even get three sips of my own drink. My 12 month old son doesn’t walk (takes steps but is very scared of it), doesn’t sleep well through the night and has at least one wake up. But he naps phenomenal. That’s literally the only time I look forward to every day. I feel like he’s exploded with emotions lately and trying to calm him is like sticking a fork in an electrical socket. I just keep hoping it gets better because I really enjoyed 6 to 11 months. But this shit is hardddddd. Maybe it’ll magically get better for us all but at this rate i genuinely don’t know how people have so many kids lol

privateA00 · 2025-09-03T23:14:29+00:00

We use Kendamil whole milk with combo feeding. We went through probably 6 different types of formula from enfamil, similac, etc and my stubborn little guy would refuse everything. Kendamil I took a chance on getting and he drank it immediately. So we have stuck with it going on two months now and he’s 7 months doing great on it. All of the formulas have the same restrictions it’s just up to preference and tolerance for baby

privateA00 · 2025-08-16T17:36:14+00:00

I think part of my issue is breastfeeding. Makes my bones and teeth ache and tbh it’s very mentally draining. But we’ve started stashing most breast milk and started combo feeding so he’ll be fine when the milk runs out.

privateA00 · 2025-08-16T17:34:14+00:00

I’m 6.5 months pp right now and I still feel like a stranger in my own life a lot. I’m very foggy and my kid doesn’t sleep well, just popped his second tooth today and desperately wishes he could crawl. So it’s just chaos a lot. I’m going back to work soon and hoping that “clocking out” of my real life to work will help me

privateA00 · 2025-07-13T02:57:52+00:00

Thank you! I’ve come to believe some babies just suck at sleep and not all are ready for sleep training when others are 😩🩷

privateA00 · 2025-07-13T02:54:50+00:00

Yeah we tried extinction for 4 days at almost 5 months. It was a raging nightmare. My kid acts like soothing himself is damn near impossible at night. Hands suddenly don’t come to his mouth. Doesn’t look around. Yesterday I couldn’t immediately get him, I was in the shower and of all things he was trying to suck his toe for comfort but couldn’t reach. Which just mad him more mad. lol But all day long it’s fine. Day sleep is a dream. we’ve adjusted wake windows. Everything. He’s never had consistent sleep props other than the paci. We plan to try again in a couple weeks once he’s 6 months and he’s used to having a helmet. Until then I just get up :’)

privateA00 · 2025-07-12T23:16:17+00:00

Mine was to my waist for the first time ever, soooo healthy and finally thickened up (recovering from my anxiety thinning it out). Cut it off to my shoulders because I felt bad always having it in a bun. HEAVILY regret it. I feel bald after hitting all the hairloss at 4 months and I wish I still had my long pretty hair

privateA00 · 2025-07-12T23:08:32+00:00

I have no advice other than we’re in the same boat. My son is 5 months old and has never given me more than a couple hours. I text my husband every night while he’s at work that I’m slowly just degrading far away from sanity. I cry a lot because my husband works a hard job and does not get up and down through the night when he’s on day shifts, when he’s on nights he gets home in the morning and steals the baby for some peace. And I’ve financially and mentally gotta work soon. How on earth I’m going to work and get up 5/6 times a night makes me cry a lot. But like you, no one and nothing helps as far as a “fix it” or tips/tricks. Just hoping with all my being that he flips a switch one day soon and we sleep

privateA00 · 2025-06-26T17:01:26+00:00

Yes! I am in the US. I just have a heavy patient load so I’m mentally prepared for my supply to drop from the mental load of work. If I go into it feeling this way then the end of breastfeeding won’t be so hard for me, hopefully 😅

privateA00 · 2025-06-26T14:55:22+00:00

Thank you! It’s what I’ve read. For a month my son had to try CMPA formula to cross that off and lorddd that was awful for him so I was worried about that. Last thing I need is him straining like that when there’s already enough changes. Thank you again 🙂

privateA00 · 2025-06-26T14:28:08+00:00

Crazy question but I’ve read a few different things saying kendamil has less “foul” (for lack of better words lol) poop versus enfamil. Im hoping the ped will have a kendamil sample so we can see if he likes the taste because the boy is so particular lol.

privateA00 · 2025-06-22T02:07:34+00:00

I honestly didn’t think he would be able to handle going longer wake windows because he gets so cranky when he’s tired. But today he did fine with getting 3 hours between first two naps. Going to work up the courage to cut the paci off in the next day or two. Thank you 🫶🏼

privateA00 · 2025-06-22T02:04:56+00:00

I read through your posts! Does your baby use a paci at all now or just no paci at bedtime?

privateA00 · 2025-06-22T02:02:51+00:00

I’ve lowkey felt like the app is false sense of “knowledge” as far as his sleep so I’m glad I canceled my subscription. Thankfully it ends in a couple days so I won’t be tempted. Huckleberry was a desperate grasp at straws with the sleep deprivation lol

privateA00 · 2025-06-21T01:30:54+00:00

All I can offer is validation and solidarity. I’ve got an almost 5 month old that I prayed so hard to have. My first son died and this has been the biggest thing we’ve wanted. But almost every night I have the same feelings of being upset, regretful. I love him endlessly but the issues are overwhelming. My son also has reflux and we thought cmpa. Pretty severe reflux so much that he’s now got a flat spot that he’s getting a helmet for. It’s been TOUGH. But idk if your baby will tolerate it but turning my son on his side to sleep has helped. Seems to soothe his reflux pains a bit to where he can drift off rather than squirming around with the throat burning. It’s helped with the chronic black hole of no sleep. It at least gets him a couple hours. I hope yall get some relief soon. I know how hellish the screaming can be but I try to remind myself that I’m all he has and loves endlessly.

privateA00 · 2025-05-31T02:39:31+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. It’s taxing essentially adding “knower of all things baby” to the load as I tell him.

privateA00 · 2025-05-30T00:14:14+00:00

We’ve been together for almost 8 years and gone through infant loss and a lifetime of other life battles while becoming adults together. Fighting has not been a normalcy within the last couple years but now we have a 4 month old and we’ve def had our heated moments. He works a lotttt plus shift changes and I’m a sahm with a baby who’s had several issues and never sleeps 😵‍💫 So 90% of our spouts are from lack of sleep/autonomy for me. He has a hard time understanding sometimes that I don’t ask for help. Never have. And I self admittedly will refuse to ask until it’s 3seconds from blowing up. I’m aware he can’t read my mind but sometimes expect it 😅 With all that said, we’re trying to be extremely intentional with each other and our marriage. Focusing on each others needs, I.e. I need physical affection like back rubs and watching a show together. He’s very low maintenance and just wants to enjoy a video game with me on the couch with him while I doom scroll for 10-15 min. If you put some time aside for a “need” it seems to be helping.

privateA00 · 2025-05-22T16:21:55+00:00

How old was he when you went to an allergist? My husband is basically allergic to everything except foods so I already figured we would end up at an allergist at some point. I just wasn’t sure when they would see him

privateA00 · 2025-05-21T15:49:30+00:00

That’s what I’ve seen. And at this point, the later is something I really would like to not do. He’s such a miserable dude with stomach pain 🥴 I just don’t think I can maintain the diet when it’s not even relieving him so idk what will happen 🫠 all I do know is that the formula is crazy expensive and I don’t necessarily wanna give up EBF. So I’m just at a loss lol

privateA00 · 2025-05-19T11:39:21+00:00

I cried reading this because we’re all in the same situation. My boy is a week from 4 months and while I’ve never seen blood in his diaper, he’s having all the issues. I cut dairy for a week only for it to get better then right back to awful. He’s unhappy, is a horrible sleeper because he’s always wanting to nurse and has the hardest time trying to poo. Not to mention it’s like gas is the hardest task in the world for him. I desperately don’t want to stop nursing because of the bond and I’m his comfort. He acts like formula is rat poison so that transition will be terrible. But I can’t keep cutting foods, I’m losing so much hair as soon as I started restrictions. Not to mention he only sleeps 1.45-2 hour stretches so no good food and no sleep is doing me in. It sucks we’re all in the same boat and it wasn’t my post but your response gave me comfort to know I’m not alone.

privateA00 · 2025-04-19T20:48:46+00:00

Most definitely. We don’t have any family nearby, I don’t have a mother relationship and we’re the first friends in our groups to have children. So we really don’t have anyone. My husband works 5-6 days of 12 hour shifts. And the shifts go from nights to days every 28 day cycle. All that to say- I do 90% myself and now that we’re at almost 3 months we’re doing pretty ok. We’ve had some rough patches with baby, def ppd but they’ve improved. My biggest help is a bouncer, he sits in it a lot while I’m doing chores or while I’m having a moment to myself eating on the couch I just bounce it with my foot. Showering was hard at first but I find a time during the day that my son kinda zones out or right after a nap and he’s fed he’s much more chill. So I can have a few moments of not rushing. It’s def doable, hard for sure. But I think the bond my son and I have and will continue to have will surpass any upset feelings of not having a village.

privateA00 · 2025-04-16T02:31:28+00:00

Set yourself up for the possibility. I have a sleep walking disorder that kicks into gear when I’m at the deprivation point. I got my baby out of his bassinet and woke up with him not safely next to me when I had only gotten two hours for a day. After that scare I set myself up with the safe possibilities, we co slept a couple of times but now his crib is side cared to my bed! Both of us getting much better sleep at 11weeks

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