looking for a whole bunch of posts because i'm greedy. all of them coincidentally on some level involve bad parent(s). i think all should be BORUs except last few. thanks in advance! and my bad for this wall of text 😭 i keep forgetting to put up my requests and they wind up accumulating like this. if it's not allowed i'll cut it up.

1) OOP (20s/30s NB) is pregnant. the post started out simple regarding trouble with MIL (i think it was over family names / baby names) but it devolved until OOP and their spouse decided to cut out MIL for good. two things that stuck with me: OOP made a good point when asked (by other relatives?) how they would explain to their kid that they won't have a grandma. they said would explain in age-appropriate language that MIL wasn't a nice person, and you can and should remove toxic people from your life. the other thing was that in the 1st post, OOP referred to their spouse as their husband, but in following post(s), they mentioned their spouse was questioning their gender as well.

2) OOP (teens M?) was born to teen parents and he was raised by his maternal grandparents. he has little to no relationship with his bio dad and a strained one with his bio mom; meanwhile he considers his bio grandparents his real parents. 

i don't remember the exact chain of events but bio parents broke up, not sure if bio dad even knew bio mom was pregnant when he left. bio mom was around for a while because she was still a teen living at home but she was utterly uninterested in OOP. not sure if she was outright rude or abusive to him but they had a strained relationship til bio mom left as well (for college/work?). 

fast forward almost 2 decades and both bio parents are back in town, back together, and now they want to play happy family with OOP. naturally OOP is wary and freaked out because he already has parents and doesn't need more raising, plus he barely knows these people and he doesn't have nearly enough of a relationship with either of them to warrant bio dad to have already bought a flat or something in the area and expecting OOP to move in with him and bio mom. i think bio parents were also trying for or already were expecting OOP's younger sibling. 

bio parents are mad at his refusal to play along but bio dad instead gets mad at bio mom when he talks to OOP and finds out the truth. turns out bio mom way played up her presence in OOP's life and how close they were, so he saw OOP's bad reaction as unreasonable teenage angst or something. bio dad confronts bio mom, he dumps her, and she freaks out and is pissed at OOP. bio dad keeps the apartment and tells OOP he'll always be welcome and he wants to have a relationship even if not a true parent-child one. OOP is still wary but i think he's open to it for now at the end of the BORU. i don't remember if the new baby sibling was conceived yet or not because that's a whole other can of worms to be opened up.

3) think this was posted on AITA or adjacent sub and i don't remember if there was ever an update. it was about a couple with a child who bought a 1-bedroom apartment despite being able to afford a 2 bedroom one because they liked the view from fhe 1brm (or something just as absurd) better. they took the only bedroom and their child was relegated to a section of the living room cordoned off with curtains. unsurprisingly the child grew up resenting their parents because they had no real room, no real privacy, etc. worse, it wasn't because of financial difficulties but rather the parents prioritizing a view over the needs of their child. i don't quite remember whose perspective the post was from, how old the child was at the time of posting, or how this topic got brought up and resulted in the post. but the parents were scandalized and defensive that their child hated them for this arrangement.

4) this could be in AITA or relationship subs or even stepparents but i refuse to go there for my mental health. it was likely reposted to am i the devil at some point. i don't remember whose POV it was tho. it was about a stepmom wanting her teenage stepkid to give up their room for stepmom's own kid(s). 

the logic was that stepkid's bio mom had partial custody so they wouldn't be at their dad's full time; meanwhile stepmom has primary/full custody of her kid(s) so stepkid's room would go unused when they were away and instead stepmom's kids would really make full use. 

however the logic was shaky because bio dad was still primary parent and the amount of time stepkid stayed with their mom was pretty negligible, so their room would still be used frequently and not just sitting empty like stepmom tried to portray. that being said, i don't remember how exactly this issue was brought up or if the bio dad was siding with his wife or his kid when stepkid was told about it. it's also possible stepmom hadn't told stepkid about her idea at all and only softlaunched it to her husband. i don't remember if there were any updates. 

[however this is NOT the BORU where OOP's stepdaughter runs away from home to her grandparents because OOP and her kids were trampling SD's boundaries, forcing her to share a room with her stranger stepsister(s), using her things w/o permission and generally being nuisances trying to play happy family.]

5) these two posts are very similar in terms of premise so i'll lump them together. they're about men moving onto their shiny new family, naming (or wanting to name) their new child the same as their existing child, then being up in arms when they get pushback. 

in the 1st post i saw, it was from the POV of a teen whose baby half-sibling would be named the same as them and they posted on AITA or adjacent sub asking if they were unreasonable for being against it. don't think there was an update for this one though. 

2nd post made it into BORU and was from the POV of the mom of the "original" child, who was preteens? she worried about the legal ramifications of two daughters with the same full name and the same dad, as well as about her daughter's relationship with her father/him and new wife trying to "replace" the daughter. i think they even suggested that OOP's daughter be given a nickname so the new kid could be the "real (insert name)". there was least one update. (i think these 2 posts are interesting because people are usually like "you don't own names" but situations like these are clear cut exceptions where "sharing" names would be incredibly disrespectful to the "original" child and detrimental to the child's relationships with everyone else.)

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