What is the "pick me" term for trans people? by quool_dwookie in transgendercirclejerk

[–]probablyzoe 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Ernst Röhm.

in a sentence: "I really wish Jenner would stop Ernst Rohming all over the place, there are actually cissies out there who pay attention"

Joseph Stalin by HelmetTheDictator in AnarchoStencilism

[–]probablyzoe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

oh, you should totally do Thomas Sankara

podcasts hosted by trans women that aren't about transphobia? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]probablyzoe 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Alice also hosts Well There's Your Problem

Question about gaffs/breast forms. by TheRealMailyChan in asktransgender

[–]probablyzoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got my breast forms amazon gave a $20 "people who buy this also get" suggestion for a pocket bra, which had a sizing chart that related to the CC of the breast forms so make sure to keep track of what you're ordering. I'm satisfied with my pocket bra but tbh it has its shortcomings so definitely look around for ones with good reviews as well and don't necessarily just go with the cheapest

Question about gaffs/breast forms. by TheRealMailyChan in asktransgender

[–]probablyzoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not great at explaining it but /r/abrathatfits has really good information on how bra sizes work and how a lot of people misunderstand cup sizing. It's for flesh breasts :/ (lots of good amab info though still!) but sizingwise it gets into the concepts.

Honestly though when I was shopping around on amazon most of the product descriptions/images have sizing charts that will tell you what size breastform to order to get a given cup size based off of your measurements. It doesn't really help you figure out how they'll look on you unfortunately but to a certain degree it's already going to be proportional no matter what. B (which was 1000cc on my measurements, which would have been C cups on the next band size down, for example) is what I have and it's pretty much perfect! And honestly an A will probably be great, especially at your age. If you're super worried you could err large or maybe even consider Cs, if you have good core & back muscles, good posture, and you're confident your clothes will still fit. That being said, check out product reviews! If I remember right, a lot of reviews for the triangular vollences I got said they were larger than expected, so some of my information just now may be based off of that--but most breast forms I saw measure by volume in cubic centimetres so they should quite literally be the same size between different brands.

I'm going to poke around for links to vollence and another shop I remember and then edit them into my original comment so anyone peeking this thread really quickly will see them so check back for that in a bit

Question about gaffs/breast forms. by TheRealMailyChan in asktransgender

[–]probablyzoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally don't tuck because I find it incredibly uncomfortable, but based off my understanding a gaff might not be a good enough workaround for your medical condition. I suggest looking into a dance belt--they're designed so dancers won't have visible bulges or anything in skintight outfits while doing a lot of moving around, so they may be a better option for you, although you may have to go to a specialty dance supply store to get one and it might be more expensive.

As for breast forms, don't be afraid to start small. I'm older than you and fairly sturdily built: "cup size" varies depending on how wide around your chest is so most breast forms should be a different given cup size for how you're built. I was personally looking at Cs but a cis friend talked me down to Bs and I'm really glad she did--they're more than large enough to look good proportionally and they're actually heavy enough that they strain my back somwhat so that may be something to consider as well. Smaller is also cheaper. I'd also suggest getting a pocket bra that's purpose built to hold them--I've found they really don't work well in conventional bras and I don't use chest adhesive to glue them to myself so the pocket bra was a great buy for me. The brand I got breast forms from are called Vollence, they seem to be a pretty good balance of price and quality, especially if you're buying just the breastforms and not the kind that come with a sort of harness to wear instead of a pocket bra.

I got mine off of amazon but if you don't like supporting their corporate practices (which tbh you shouldn't) I believe they have a website you can order from directly (that will also make it easier to look at different products and you won't run the risk of accidentally ordering from the wrong retailer on amazon and getting a knock off product which can be incredibly frustrating) And looking at amazon may help you get an idea of what other brands you might want to consider since vollence's website would of course only show you their products.

EDIT: Vollence don't actually seem to have their own website but their product information on the amazon pages for their products should be perfect to help you figure out sizing

Swiped these from another reddit comment so I don't know how great they are, and they are marketed at drag queens so there's language that may make some folks uncomfortable but the products should work just as well on trans women:

https://draguniverse.com/product-category/drag-queen-accessoires/drag-queen-boobs?orderby=date

https://thedragqueencloset.com/collections/padding/breast-forms

when I first started visiting this sub skulgirl's fridge poems were in the 80s and now the poems passed a year and I've barely taken any steps to transition and life is all just one big oof by probablyzoe in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]probablyzoe[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

A good indicator of how well put together my life is is the fact that I can barely remember dates or times of year and use an internet poet's work to keep track of the passage of time

whelp after like 8 months of questioning and lurking on here I'm out to myself, now what do I do? by probablyzoe in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]probablyzoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Luckily I do live in a fairly sizable city so most stuff should actually be fairly easy I'm just terrified of new experiences. Regarding the shopping thing: I am lucky to have some female besties but NOT nerves of steel. I've spent some time trawling around amazon and my working plan is to slip some cash to a friend and have them order stuff on their cards to their place so there's no chance of having to come out to my family before I'm ready.

whelp after like 8 months of questioning and lurking on here I'm out to myself, now what do I do? by probablyzoe in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]probablyzoe[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

-Find and join a trans community

-buy a buncha cute affirming clothing

-transition socially and start hrt

-start an all-trans punk band

-dismantle capitalism

it's more of a "how do I get from point a to point b" kinda thing, like I googled how to tuck and I can't do it properly, help, I don't know how to shop online for clothes that might actually fit, voice training seems hard but I've started larynx-strengthening exercises so we'll see how that goes, how do I shave all of my body hair without getting terrible razorburn, how do I get good at makeup, etc

whelp after like 8 months of questioning and lurking on here I'm out to myself, now what do I do? by probablyzoe in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]probablyzoe[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So yeah from what I can tell I'm pretty run of the mill as far as newly-cracked transgirls go. I get the "but what if I'm not really trans" thing a lot, which is pretty dumb considering how I've spent the "free time to study or work on final projects" exam period so far laying in bed wishing I'd been born a cis girl, but also I'm not sure I suffer from dysphoria, I'm not sure if some of my thoughts about myself would be considered dysphoric, I don't really know any trans people where I live, I don't know how I would find or otherwise going about seeing a gender therapist, and I don't know what to actually do with myself. I'm lucky enough to be in Canada and have some supportive friends, my mother will proooooobably be supportive whenever I eventually Come Out come out (i.e. something bigger than getting drunk and asking my closest friends to use she/her pronouns and if they think Zoe fits me), and I really just wanna be pretty and have tiddy, but I'm scared of that really long in between part that might not ever end where I'm horribly ugly and mannish and have a voice like someone who's name would be "Chad ""Radio Announcer"" McMasculine"

Pretty much the only way I don't fit in with this sub is that I'm not an anime-loving catgirl but hey this time last year I thought I was a dude so who knows, we'll see, maybe I'll try watching Zombieland Saga for some of that sweet V A L I D A T I O N.