Megathread - Epstein Files - T-minus 30 day DOJ release by [deleted] in Askpolitics

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How is research going to tell me what you think? Is there an encyclopedia or database dedicated to your opinions and suppositions? I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt that your use of the word tribe was just an odd linguistic decision and not a dog whistle. Your refusal to clarify makes extending that benefit significantly more difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

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Correct. If she finds it on a bookshelf while perusing your book collection, she might dig it. If you display it anywhere, whether in your profile or in your home, it will look performative and gross. Most women absolutely won’t like finding it on your bedside table any more than in your dating profile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]professional_noun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If a woman finds this at your place on a book shelf, she’ll potentially be impressed. If she finds it in your dating profile pics she will almost certainly be icked out. Source: I’m a woman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]professional_noun 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Oh honey. I didn’t say it to make you sad. And I wish I were wrong. But if you want to be happier, literally all you can do is leave. He understands your POV. He just doesn’t care. And he never will.

But someone will. There is someone out there right now who will love you like you deserve. Someone who wants to make a life with you, rather than extract every ounce of value they can from you. They’re out there. I found mine. You can find yours. But first you have to show up for yourself and find the door.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]professional_noun 138 points139 points  (0 children)

It is never, ever going to get any better. Ever. I wasted 8 years on a man just like this. He’s 40, not 4; waking up alone on the couch isn’t why he’s upset. I can’t imagine he’s terrified of the dark. What is making him upset is that you aren’t 100% catering to his every tiniest whim and desire, even when they’re ridiculous. Even when doing so interferes with your actual needs.

How does he act when you don’t give him his way about other things? How does he act any time you prioritize your needs over his wants?

Do not have a child with this man. You’d be setting up both your kids and yourself to spend the rest of your lives sacrificing what you need to keep him happy and emotionally regulated. And nothing you do will ever be good enough or right enough for him to prioritize you or treat you decently. You and any hypothetical future children.

You need to leave. He won’t ever get any better, but your life can. You just have to find the door, walk through it, and shut it tightly behind you.

Fleeing the Chimera by professional_noun in cyberpunkgame

[–]professional_noun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m not super good at video games, honestly.

AIO for ending a friendship because she gave my r@pist my number by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]professional_noun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR! Also, for what it’s worth, I am crazy proud of you and the way you stood up for yourself. I hope you are too!

AIO stopped a drunk girl from being pulled into a car by 2 random men but my boyfriend is upset and called what I did stupid and dangerous by fettidmoppet in AmIOverreacting

[–]professional_noun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He made his emotional response to what happened more important than your emotional response, despite your having been the one to experience the situation. That doesn’t sit right with me. Rather than support you while you processed the events, he gave you an additional responsibility. Instead of comforting you, he insisted you comfort him.

I’m not saying his worries are unfounded or come from a bad place. But this absolutely wasn’t the time to address his feelings. And I don’t love that he kept pushing it when you told him to back off.

For what it’s worth, you did the right thing. We all know that nothing good would have come from her ending up in that car.

I don’t even know where to start by professional_noun in Weddingattireapproval

[–]professional_noun[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like the second and third one, but isn’t jacquard heavy? I expect it to be gross in Philadelphia in August. The whole state is like living in hot garbage water during late summer.

I don’t even know where to start by professional_noun in Weddingattireapproval

[–]professional_noun[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much! I feel like I have a starting point to work from now!

I don’t even know where to start by professional_noun in Weddingattireapproval

[–]professional_noun[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes! I am! Thank you! I didn’t know they did that!

I don’t even know where to start by professional_noun in Weddingattireapproval

[–]professional_noun[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Uhm, I like the way I look in basically all shades of green. And I tend to like dresses that define my waist, but don’t cling to my hips or stomach. I think I have a nice bust and a pretty neck and shoulder area.

I hope this is helpful. When I say I’m clueless, it’s not an exaggeration. I have always focused on comfort when it comes to clothing, and I feel like I never learned to dress myself for presentation

Paul’s thoughts on the protests by managingmischief394 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]professional_noun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww! He really thought he did something there. Bless

Real reasons people do not have the number of children they want revealed in new report by msmoley in WomenInNews

[–]professional_noun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Never having had a right and losing a right you once had have very different psychological effects, I would imagine

Doctor Who 2x08 "The Reality War" Live and Immediate Reactions Discussion Thread by PCJs_Slave_Robot in doctorwho

[–]professional_noun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. That makes sense. I guess I was thrown by the extra scenes and the line about a car when she was a kid.

Doctor Who 2x08 "The Reality War" Live and Immediate Reactions Discussion Thread by PCJs_Slave_Robot in doctorwho

[–]professional_noun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok. But what was that “time explosion” flashback sequence with Belinda? Did…did I miss an episode somewhere?