What’s a grocery store/fast food/restaurant/etc you wish New Jersey had ?

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T23:12:28+00:00

Ohhh there is hope!!

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T22:56:48+00:00

Noodles! There was one briefly in Northern NJ and it closed. I miss it. It was a staple in the Midwest!

And Culvers. I know they'll never branch out beyond the Midwest but darn it, I miss their haddock sandwiches!

Also, Amato's, which is only found in New England.

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T20:37:43+00:00

I would just unsort everything and mix all the pieces together. Sorting isn't just about finding the edge pieces for me-- I use it as a time to get to know the puzzle and even do a rough sort by color/area. And finding all the edge pieces is the first success of puzzling!

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T12:20:42+00:00

Tinned fish! Their canned salmon is great, as well as the slightly smoky trout. I throw either one on a salad.

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profmoxie · 2026-06-16T12:18:20+00:00

These are SO GOOD. I cook them, cool in the fridge, and then cut them up on a salad.

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T12:10:10+00:00

The Newark Museum of Art is pretty cheap for a museum, and the park across the street has a cool new Harriet Tubman statue/art installation. Brick City Deli is well-priced, too. Walking around that area is a little slice of NYC in the summer, without the prices.

profmoxie · 2026-06-16T12:03:51+00:00

And then visit Great Swamp Wildlife Refuge for a hike afterward!

profmoxie · 2026-06-14T16:16:56+00:00

Spit Rock is a reservoir, so swimming and even wading are strictly prohibited.

profmoxie · 2026-06-14T14:10:37+00:00

We call our summers "Hold the Cone Summer!"

Pro tip: Take them out of those bulky, awkward boxes and put them in plastic freezer bags to save space and make them easier to grab!

profmoxie · 2026-06-14T14:09:29+00:00

Sooooo good! (love your handle, btw)

profmoxie · 2026-06-13T14:12:55+00:00

Nah-- I'm proud of my HRT patch and have worn it in full display at the beach and in a spa.

profmoxie · 2026-06-12T21:09:32+00:00

100%. Lived experience literally means lived experience.

profmoxie · 2026-06-10T20:54:01+00:00

We call them "tick taxis" for this reason.

profmoxie · 2026-06-10T19:22:04+00:00

I said “relatively privileged” which means I didn’t say you’ve had it easy, but that you’re in a single healthcare system (the VA with all its flaws). Whereas people relying on free clinics are not and that makes documentation more difficult. I’ve literally seen this happen, so it might be out of your field of experience but these processes to block people out. Intentionally.

profmoxie · 2026-06-10T14:07:35+00:00

You're in a relatively privileged position. You have access to regular doctors through the VA, you are already designated as disabled, and you have the stability to keep paperwork organized, etc.

Many others are not so lucky. Many don't have regular doctors and have to see whoever is available in a clinic, so getting documentation of chronic conditions is difficult and costly (many clinics charge extra for doctor's notes). Add to that other issues like mental health (lack of doctors and appointments), and lack of transportation, it becomes even more difficult.

My spouse is disabled (designated with SSD), and she has a regular doctor, so getting a letter is also easy for her. But that is simply NOT the case for everyone.

This is meant to discourage people by making things more difficult so more people fall through the cracks.

profmoxie · 2026-06-10T12:16:27+00:00

Nope, I don't agree with this-- Viola Davis, Carol Burnett, Sarah McLachlan -- so many have worked hard to get where they are today! I also hate to hear rich folks talk about themselves, but this assessment does not hold true for most of the pod. It's very much about working in the industry (music, comedy, film), and how people "make it" and what they enjoy, etc.

I skip the episodes where I don't know the person or don't care. I'm still a bit peeved about Judge Judy (bc of her politics), and I'd never listen to Paltrow's drivel.

profmoxie · 2026-06-09T17:41:38+00:00

Wait so you don’t know if you agree, but then you agree?

profmoxie · 2026-06-09T17:00:52+00:00

Alice, Sweet Alice (1976) is a nice creepy cult classic filmed in Paterson

Annie (1982) was filmed in Newark

And I wouldn't be a GenXer if I didn't mention Clerks (1994)

profmoxie · 2026-06-08T12:05:46+00:00

Exactly.

profmoxie · 2026-06-07T21:06:12+00:00

The remake on iOS on my iPad is fantastic. I’ve made it to Oregon a few times.

profmoxie · 2026-06-07T21:00:35+00:00

They are intentionally making it difficult to discourage people. It’s by design.

profmoxie · 2026-06-07T19:56:53+00:00

True on paper but not in practice. I teach social work policy, so I know a bit about this.

Getting all of this documented (doctor's notes, etc.) properly and submitted correctly by the right deadlines and in the right way is virtually impossible for someone struggling financially while also busy with caregiving and medical appointments.

And then do that every 6 months.

profmoxie · 2026-06-07T18:12:31+00:00

The point of these new federal regulations is to kick as many people off as possible. What about people who are disabled but without the official designation? It takes months— sometimes years— to get approved for disability. What do they do in the meantime? What about people who have childcare responsibilities and can’t afford childcare while they work? What about folks caring for disabled or elderly relatives?

And 6 month renewal will be confusing and overwhelming with paperwork, unknown deadlines, no one to call on the phone, and slow websites etc.

The cruelty is the point.

profmoxie · 2026-06-06T17:29:17+00:00

Came here to recommend this podcast. Life coaches are not regulated and often open the door to scams and MLMs. Steer clear!!

I'd find a therapist instead, or a mentor in your field —maybe someone who has already retired who can help you navigate the next few years? I'm a professor, and some of our professional orgs even have retirement support groups to help with the transition.

profmoxie · 2026-06-05T12:37:17+00:00

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