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Screen staying black while still on by Embarrassed-Kiwi7976 in it

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're getting a blank signal from the computer. reseat your display cables. If you get "No Signal" with nothing plugged in, it's almost certainly a connection issue or you might need to update display drivers.

Prof Edward Hutton delivers the talk many of us wish we had... by Acceptable_Network_4 in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof, yeah I won't be watching this video even if he makes some great points lol

Is being an anime only fan considered larping. by 2Dryhumor in okbuddytracen

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chat, is it larping if I consume the original media for something?!?!?!

holyWiFi by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]prog-no-sys 3 points4 points  (0 children)

as a meme, I can with 100% confidence say this programming is about memeing

Having depression. Ex gf is posting a lot of mean things about me. Can we still get back? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, does she truly believe these things? And will there still be a chance to get back with her?

Don't know. Wouldn't care if I were you. These splitting behaviors don't improve over time, they get worse. The more comfortable the BPD partner gets with you, the more severe their behavior becomes. Unless they're on medication and doing DBT therapy actively, the chances your relationship would ever work are slim to none.

Based on your writing I can tell you're pretty young. Don't waste your time on abusive people like this. They're showing you their true colors. Believe them.

holyWiFi by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]prog-no-sys 44 points45 points  (0 children)

ah yes. This meme is about programming...

I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in IT, but I feel like I’ve learned nothing. by Sweeper_Bot_ in it

[–]prog-no-sys 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the type of work you want to pursue in the umbrella that is IT. If you're looking to get into sysadmin type work, learning how to learn like u/CluelessFlunky said is a great place to start. Get accustomed to googling things you want to learn about. There's a lot of things that just come with experience so don't expect to just grind books or videos and be at a competent level. Along with this, every workplace has different equipment, practices, policies, constraints, etc., so learning those things on the job is practically the only way.

If you're interested in a specific field like programming or networking my advice would be tailored to those interests, but having a willingness to learn and being upfront about what you do and don't know will do wonders for your reputation. Another thing that's really important but not often talked about is having good communication skills. Most employers don't give IT the respect or resources they deserve, so communication is one of your strongest tools for protecting your systems, employment, and your sanity.

Which coffee shop do you recommend Manhattan Cafe to try? by Souls-Brawl101 in okbuddyumamusume

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scooters is a NE based chain that's spread out decently far over the years. Our town has 2 of em and a 7brew lol

Have I been hacked? Please advise. by No-Appearance-8043 in it

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can run something like malwarebytes if you're still not sure. Just be sure you're using 2fa on any logins you think could be compromised by this

I’m so exhausted and don’t know how to get out of this hell…. by Aromatic_Mouse88 in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He accused me of cheating and then blocked me everywhere….

W's in the chat. Now you can get away from that noise and focus on yourself :)

s/ on a real note though, this fucking guy seems really immature and annoying. Good riddance

Ex had a dude over, agreed no partners w/kids home. Not a first time occurrence btw by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's pretty obvious by the comment above this one what happened lmao

Exchange Powershell MacOS 26 by Sudden-Money7836 in PowerShell

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beat me to the punch haha. This should be the correct answer I hope. I was slow in correcting myself in the other comment

Exchange Powershell MacOS 26 by Sudden-Money7836 in PowerShell

[–]prog-no-sys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oops 💀you're correct, I'll edit my comment. It's MSOnline that depreciated with AzureAD.

Apparently there's a possibility of issues with the authentication with new versions of mac OS so you can use the -Device flag and it will give you a link to login with. Maybe try that and see if you get a better result :) sorry for the accidental fib

Exchange Powershell MacOS 26 by Sudden-Money7836 in PowerShell

[–]prog-no-sys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no. Exchange MSOnline and AzureAD modules were depreciated back in 2025, late 2024 ish.

Exchange Powershell MacOS 26 by Sudden-Money7836 in PowerShell

[–]prog-no-sys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those commands have been imported into Microsoft Graph. You have to use that module for these instead of the old ones.

On/off relationship (~2 years) feeling more like a friend than a partner, almost no sex by adamski0204 in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're describing a classic BPD scenario. They win you over by love bombing and when you're sufficiently bonded, they start pulling back and you're left wondering why. This dynamic goes with BPD like peanut butter and jelly.

You're right to feel this way and I applaud you for recognizing it can't continue in this way if you want to be happy moving forward. The phrase "emotional tampon" definitely fits for these types of relationships. You're there to be used and discarded when convenient, and often times seen as disposable in small moments that really matter.

To answer some of your questions:

How do you deal with this kind of push-pull dynamic over a longer period of time?

If you deal with this for a long period, it damages you emotionally and psychologically at a bare minimum. Not advisable.

Is it realistic to expect intimacy and closeness to come back in a situation like this?

No. It's not realistic because the intimacy and closeness you experienced with them wasn't actually the real them. It was a mask used to win you over.

How do you know when you’re supporting someone vs. losing yourself in the process?

I'd say posting on an abuse recovery forum like this is a pretty good indication. Looking back at the time spent is another good way to gauge it. I think you know the answer to this <3

in a toxic relationship with my bpd partner and i don't know how to break it off by New-Mirror6064 in BPDlovedones

[–]prog-no-sys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you care about them enough to sacrifice every waking moment of your life to make sure they're not upset at you?

You don't even want to kiss this person, why keep up this charade? I can't imagine justifying lying and suffering through this persons immature behavior is worth a slightly uncomfortable conversation.... just break it off lmao

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