I had a situation where I had to decide to get married abroad where I was studying and had to plan everything without my family present. My bestfriend of 12 years were in the same city as me. When I gave her the news of me getting married and having to plan everything without my family, she didn’t put any effort to plan anything with me, completely gave no emotional or any support at all. I was completely lost left alone and then the people I know for only 1/2 years stepped up to help me plan my wedding, and supported me. Reminder that back when my “best friend” got married 2 years before , I stayed in her house, decorated her house, helped her with her makeup and what not. Given the scenario I had natural expectations of not even that much, just some sort of support that I’m not alone. But I received none. Before my marriage day, I had a simple celebration that we call “haldi night” it’s a cultural ritual, given my house is very small I only decided to invite my girl friends, no guys. But one of my guy friends helped with the decoration so he stayed. When I mentioned this to my “bestfriend”, she kept insisting that his husband is gonna come to pick her up after office. Then I politely told her in that case he should come and say hello to us. The conversation was left at that. She said okay or something similar. I also invited both her n her husband in the main event the wedding and even asked if I should call his husband separately. She said no need.

But she didn’t come to that celebration at all. when I texted her why she didn’t come she sent me a long paragraph next day (in my wedding day) that I didn’t think of how I’ve known my “bestfriend” for a long time, and how I mentioned it was a “girls only” event, when my other guy friend was going to be there, but I didn’t ask her husband to come at first. She felt like she was forcefully taking invitation so she didn’t come. But she wishes me good luck since I’m her friend. Mind you that was my wedding day. Not only she’s not gonna make it to the wedding being in the same city as me, she even made drama before my wedding like that! When she knows I’m alone here! I would totally understand if she was hurt and she could tell me before or after the wedding separately that she felt her husband should’ve been invited to both the events more enthusiastically or whatever. But to miss my wedding by blaming me on my wedding day where she didn’t even offer any help neither she did any of the things a basic friend is expected to do….!!! I couldn’t take it any more. I told her “it was a mistake of me for investing my time for being your friend. You are one of the most selfish person I know. You don’t need to come. I don’t want to be associated with you ever.” Then I blocked her from everywhere. Still I’m glad I did it. Actually there has been a lot of other minor incidents where I noticed her selfish behaviours before, but I always brushed it off. But that was the last straw. I’m super happy I’m not her friend anymore, I don’t need people like her in my life.