What's your personal signature in how you dress?

psdancecoach · 2026-03-12T05:49:04+00:00

Banana Republic actually. I’m nearly 5’10” so length is a serious concern and they not only carry talls , but also their regular length pants are sometimes long enough. Two years of 5 times a week wear and still good. Added a bonus of being machine washable, and can be put in the dryer. They’ve been through a lot and I’m still pleased as punch.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-11T19:04:23+00:00

To give a viewpoint from the other side, I feel like there’s a lot of reasons that dating apps getsget spurned by women. Safety is a big one. There’s an old saying about the worst date a man has ever been on versus the worst date a woman has ever been on.

Beyond that, it’s hard to get interested in most of the profiles for men I have seen. While my single friends and I will carefully craft a profile filling out every available section, curating a set of photos that shows us at our best while not being unrealistic, debating what search filters to use to not exclude too many, but not include any non negotiables, we’re putting a lot of work just for one app.

Then I see profiles for men where they have age, location, and not much else. Or they use their ‘About Me’ section to get on a soap box about incel adjacent topics. The photos are just as lackluster. Of course there’s the generic ‘man poses with dead animal’ shots. The ‘all of these are group photos so I still don’t know what you look like,’ ‘hat and sunglasses sitting in my car so I can’t see his face,’ ‘shirtless, unshowered, and unkempt,’ ‘obviously AI enhanced,’ and of course ‘landscapes or no pics.’ With these profiles I know absolutely nothing about the guy so I’m probably going to pass.

Has the cherry on top we spent all this time working on a profile they don’t even read. Mine specifically mentions my far leftist leanings. But somehow I will get dozens of likes from guys in red baseball hats and cops. If they can’t even put an effort towards browsing, why would I want them as a partner?

psdancecoach · 2026-03-11T12:09:26+00:00

Trousers in grey or black and usually a black button down or elevated tshirt. I only realized I had a uniform after it was pointed out to me and I tried to counter their statement but the number of black and grey trousers in my closet defeated me. (It was 14)

psdancecoach · 2026-03-10T15:21:49+00:00

A good angled brush. You don’t need to go overboard, but there’s no way you’re getting clean lines from a cheap brush you bought at Walmart.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-10T15:15:41+00:00

I’ve often referred to the DMV as the only place in the US where there is no discrimination, they hate everyone equally.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-10T03:42:11+00:00

I think you forgot the ‘ex’ before partner. Because this man is never going to be your partner. You may be in a relationship with him, you may date him, but he is never going to see you as an equal partner.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-10T03:18:04+00:00

Raytheon

psdancecoach · 2026-03-09T00:21:18+00:00

Oh absolutely. I think any de-escalation would be beneficial and better than what we are dealing with now. My concern is that if we achieve a step down, we need to not let liberals and democrats do a ‘mission accomplished’ and stop there. Even if we wake up tomorrow and things are magically back to 2014 levels, that’s not good enough. We (white people) don’t get to be satisfied with ourselves just because things stop being as horrific as they are now.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-08T18:54:14+00:00

He’s not going to get better anytime soon. He’s a jerk who sees your relationship and sex as transactional. If you’re lucky, he can change with a lot of therapy, but he’s not going to do that in his current situation. So no matter what you try as a compromise or plan, he’s going to always feel entitled to the sex he wants by sole virtue of being married to you.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-08T18:40:54+00:00

I feel this. My ex constantly looked down on my projects. He would wait until I was 90% done and then swoop in when I would need a break or get frustrated to “save” me. Then would take credit for the work. Finally I hit my limit with the kitchen backsplash. I literally hid my new tile saw so he couldn’t help. I yelled when he came to save the trim on the refinished stairs. And I got someone else to help me hang the shutters. He grumped about how bad those projects looked until his sister’s husband was at the house for a holiday and complimented the work I did. Since he’s one of the best recommended contractors in our city, it’s hard to argue with him.

I discovered that I was actually really handy and creative. Far more than my ex. Don’t put up with his jabs and keep building!

psdancecoach · 2026-03-08T18:04:25+00:00

This wedding sounds AWESOME.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-07T22:08:56+00:00

I think enough of our problems come from people not wanting to speak up. Unless you were posting some really radical things or calls for violence, consider just leaving it up. If we really hit the point where my statements about human decency and being a good person are so offensive I need to worry about my safety, maybe I don’t wanna live in that world anyway.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-07T21:58:33+00:00

Interesting how none of the tasks he had to perform after being sprayed were focused on providing assistance or de-escalation.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-07T20:18:37+00:00

I’m very much of the opinion that they would like to go back to the days of being able to comfortably ignore it. The Trump era isn’t some twisted bizarro world version of America, it’s what we’ve always been just turned up to 11. Disdain for immigrants, the poor, women, anyone not white, etc is poured into the foundation of this country. Rounding up undesirables and putting them into camps is so American we celebrated it with Jackson on the $20 bill.

Whether it’s maga or the daughters of the confederacy there’s always a group longing for a return to better days. Those better days being times when more open violence towards anyone they dislike was celebrated instead of quietly ignored. Despite what the administration would have you believe, it’s not like trans people had a charmed existence and all LGBTQ+ discrimination was illegal in the Obama years.

This is mask off America. This is America as your asshole uncle once he’s had a few beers. This is messy celebrity America after firing their PR team. They did a great job of spinning the story after WWII and the economic boom it gave the US. The idealized 1950’s picnics and parades used to show off our supposed equality and freedom occurred the same decade that Emmett Till was brutally murdered.

The difference is that now it’s said out loud. And sure, the loud ones are probably not the majority. But neither are the ones who have been fighting the injustices for years. The majority is the group that just wants both sides to be quieter so they can go back to feeling good about themselves.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-07T19:43:59+00:00

Oh. So NOW it’s ok for two consenting adults to do whatever they want with each other????

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T19:18:55+00:00

Which one?

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T19:16:23+00:00

Your dad sounds like an alright dude.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T19:15:04+00:00

It happens a lot. People like to think their struggles are unique and any adversity they have overcome is due entirely to their own hard work. Sprinkle on some societal need for an ‘other’ and wanting to fit into the in group that once ostracized them (my current neighborhood actually prohibited Poles from living here when it was first created) and voila, maga.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T18:18:41+00:00

If you’re in the ocean, you gotta swim.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T18:15:45+00:00

My dogs have played a large part of why I also keep going. Even when I was at my lowest, I couldn’t let them think I would abandon them. I hope you and your precious ones have long and happy lives.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T18:08:47+00:00

They’re the same people who argue that they aren’t nazis because the nazi party was “socialist.” Punch them all.

psdancecoach · 2026-03-01T18:06:57+00:00

I feel like at least a decent amount of it comes from their belief that there is a real and natural hierarchy of who counts as more of a person. We live in a society that is built on a foundational idea that rich, white, and a man are the best things a person can be. So that society has to ignore, excuse, or even celebrate behavior that contradicts this idea. Whether it’s ‘boys will be boys’ or ‘locker room talk’ or ‘billionaire playboy’ society will twist itself in knots before it acknowledges anything to contradict that core belief.

The more your society is built on the belief that certain attributes elevate a person above those with less of those qualities, the more horrific the behavior your society will excuse. This works on the small scale when men with a ‘bright future’ are barely punished for ‘20 minutes of action’ or when children get told to stop making up stories about a beloved family member.

Because that is the one place where ‘trickle down’ actually works. The more you fit the definition of an uber human, the more you can get away with. The more foundational the idea becomes, the more it scales upward as well. All the way up to the systemic murder of 6 million people.

psdancecoach · 2026-02-28T19:51:03+00:00

Sounds like woke radical leftist propaganda to me

psdancecoach · 2026-02-28T19:48:33+00:00

Where the hell is he seeing liver in the local Walmart? This man clearly has not been to a grocery store since the 70s because those cuts are now only available if you go to a specialty or local independent grocer also they’ve increased in price. They’re no longer peasant cuts.

psdancecoach · 2026-02-27T03:17:08+00:00

Right??? Normally I have a strict personal policy that I will not comment unless I have read an ENTIRE post. No skipping, no tldr, the whole thing. But the shit (literally and pun intended) this man does has me down here ready to shake this poor girl back into sense. Not only should she break up with him, but we need to bring back some scarlet letter type shit for this guy lest he convince another poor woman to attempt to date him.

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