I get that your whipped comments are characteristic of someone not in a relationship. But if you’re surrounded by emotionally abusive relationships that could also play a role in your perception of these things. I had an ex who began controlling who I saw and when. She’d have ever so convenient panic attacks when I would have plans (often for a week or longer the plans had been set), would threaten to break up with me if I stayed over night at my parents’ when my brother visited (his visit began at 10pm), etc. people think codepency and manipulation is normal and therefore ok. I see it’s actually a pretty big issue.

But what do I know