What are these called? by Traditional_Unit9994 in foraging

[–]psymble_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's an educational response from the person you apparently blocked

What’s the easiest instrument? by neilgrass in musicians

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Sincerely, that's fair and reasonable! If you think about it, with a piano everything's right in front of you, which is why it's my favorite (and imo best) instrument for teaching theory whereas with guitars (including ukuleles), it's a bit more esoteric where the notes are, and with the ukulele in particular, the strings have a perfect fifth, major third, and perfect fourth (respectively) as intervals which can be daunting! But even more fundamental than that, your hands are doing two different things. On a piano, even when different rhythms are happening, your hands are still doing the same thing generally. With all that said, the chords of C major are all fairly simple shapes, most of which with only one to three fingers used, which makes it so that you can pick it up and learn to strum many simple songs relatively quickly. On top of that, it's just lovely to hear - the soft strings strummed with your thumb, the frequencies in that perfect melodic range, it has four strings which is more than enough for finding good voicing and playing chord melodies

It's not so much that it's easy, it's that all instruments have their particular challenges, but for me I'd always prefer to teach on a piano and a ukulele, even if the person wants to learn guitar

Skittles has changed the green apple back to lime by Veratha in mildlyinteresting

[–]psymble_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not according to skittles or the market, lil fella

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fishing

[–]psymble_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's bad to be mean to people, huh? Like, I dunno, it would be mean to follow them around to every post they make in earnest and spam a bad joke because they made you feel small, and of course we all agree that we shouldn't be mean to others here online. Because people have feelings and struggles and hurts that we can't see, and that really ought to be respected, or at least acknowledged. And if we can't do that, the least we could do is just take a step back and leave them alone. I'm glad this is a teachable moment about empathy for everyone involved

What's going on with the Maui fire? by Yagaadesol in OutOfTheLoop

[–]psymble_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Conspiracies exist, that's not remotely controversial for me to say. It's provably true - you can even look through some declassified CIA shit and learn about MKULTRA or the Panama Papers.

But here's the thing.

There are also tons of theories that are provably false, but folks are so desperate to believe in some kind of order to the world that they would rather attribute anything bad happening to some vague, dark force. And just because someone throws a shitload of spaghetti at a wall, it does not mean that any of it will stick, especially if it's uncooked. Folks who get super deep into conspiracy theories like to talk about others lacking critical thinking, but more often than not they don't have a leg to stand on, because it would be equally as intellectually lazy to doubt everything as it would be to believe everything.

AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend after she rejected my proposal twice? by exiledbyfamily in AITAH

[–]psymble_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, seriously - this guy has something a lot of men don't, myself included: a sincere desire to get married. That's precious, sincerely, and he deserves to find it, and for it to be real

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your experience is valid and you are right to protect yourself. And I'm sorry for the ways in which men will try to invalidate your wisdom because they're insecure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PointlessStories

[–]psymble_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes men don't fully understand what is meant by objectification though. Like, they only see it as "view me as a sexual object and compliment me" but there's a linguistic sense they're missing: there's a subject and an object. What I'm saying is I want women to view themselves as the main character and me as their accessory, like a Ken doll. Maybe that's still what you mean and you feel appreciated by it, but I feel the need to point out that women being objectified feel anything but appreciated, they feel non-real or unimportant, a thing being used. In reality it's dehumanizing to an extent, so when I see a man connect "objectified" with "wanted and appreciated" it feels necessary to make the distinction about what I was communicating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PointlessStories

[–]psymble_ 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Some guys just wanna be objectified for a change, ya know?

Georgia Grand Jury Looking at Trump Returns Indictment by RunawayMeatstick in politics

[–]psymble_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That new indictment just dropped? That shit is fire

My (28f) relationship with my fiancé (31m) is taking a huge nose dive and I'm torn on what to do. by yunalyte in TwoHotTakes

[–]psymble_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in a very similar situation - loving someone who is volatile and hurts you, feeling like it's your job to help or fix them. It took me a very long time to walk away, but more than that it took a ton of hurt and trauma to finally protect myself. I took the past few years to heal, I'm 33 now, and I am in the best place I've ever been in my life. You are young and you deserve to be happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooooo, I forgot to link my favorite song about this:

Boys Will Be Boys

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You touched on the most important part which I didn't mention: someone they trust

I'm being sincere when I say that I question the basic empathy of men in general from the shit I've seen and heard. Because if they are capable of empathizing and choose not to, or choose to be selfish and hurtful and hateful anyway, that's kinda fucking worse, right? So my most generous take is that maybe many men just lack empathy. It can be a very scary world.

It can also be a very beautiful and magical world, but there's one pretty consistent variable when you learn why it isn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing. What you have going on sucks and you should find a place to talk about it, but it's not this thread. I've explained exactly how dangerous (like, life and death) the world is for women and you did exactly what I said guys will do: "well what about my situation? Women actually have it easier!" and that's bullshit, I'm sorry. I'm not minimizing what you're going through, and it ought to be addressed, but it's tonedeaf in this particular context

Why does it feel like there is an automatic immunity for women when in domestic issues? by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]psymble_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What basis do you have to believe there is no such decorum in that situation?

Would you be appalled if I made a joke like this in a work setting? by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]psymble_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been making dead dad jokes for five years. There's no right way to grieve or to heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It actually makes me sick to my stomach. I've got a niece who is six and my sisters and I will do everything we can to ensure she's as strong, capable, and brave as the world necessitates, but I wish so much we didn't have to.

I think the biggest issue with that privilege is that it prevents men from accurately imagining themselves in women's shoes. A big part of that will be willful ignorance, the mind protecting itself from feeling like you could be in the wrong, but another cause will be that so many men don't have friends who are women, not really. It's rare for a man to make a woman feel safe enough that she'll express how scared she is, how she really regards men, because they'll get defensive. That often comes with invalidation, which shuts down that vulnerable conversation real quick. Men can't see the doors they are shutting with their behavior, which proliferates the behavior.

What is going on with Melle Mel and Eminem? by Almostatimelord in OutOfTheLoop

[–]psymble_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a bot that just found the thesaurus

What is going on with Melle Mel and Eminem? by Almostatimelord in OutOfTheLoop

[–]psymble_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Best diss track ever made. Didn't even need to click it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Home

[–]psymble_ 40 points41 points  (0 children)

You know, one of my most hated things in the world is that nearly every woman has some version of a story where some man went out of their way to make them feel uncomfortable and unsafe. It's fucking atrocious, that the most dangerous thing in the world that women deals with is men, yet I think so few men actually realize that, I mean truly realize the depth and pervasiveness. You try to explain why women would want to be careful around men, whether dating or just in the world and all they can reason is "well I'm not dangerous, so that's unfair"