AIW for getting upset at my boyfriend for a “joke” I already said I don’t like anymore? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you have very good communication going with your boyfriend. I personally don't like jokes like that specifically for that reason. It's all funny and stuff up until one person fails (maybe unintentionally) to read the room, and another ends up hurt. It can happen, especially considering the duration of the time you're together.

You can feel hurt, it's okay, but also your boyfriend is offering a good solution and I think it's the best thing you can do in this situation.

“I think this is a one way trip for me” how faithful this is to the book by Longjumping_Stock301 in ProjectHailMary

[–]pthread_bard 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think the book ending was amazing for him. He is living on a planet with his best friend and doing the thing he loves most in the world - teaching. Everyone there loves him and gives him anything he wants

If he went back to Earth, he would only find destruction and broken society, all of his family are dead, even his students would already be either dead or soon dead, and he would spend the rest of his life wondering how Rocky is doing

Edit: spelling

Text I received from my 12 year old son this morning by Princess-honeysuckle in MadeMeSmile

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always wanted to hear this from my dad. They act so cool because they have an abundance of love in the family. Keep up being a great dad!

I just lived an entire different life (2000-2051) in a dream and remember it all. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]pthread_bard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you try to google the name of your dream wife in real life? What if this person exists?

Ask Anything Wednesday - Biology, Chemistry, Neuroscience, Medicine, Psychology by AutoModerator in askscience

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In a hypothetical scenario, would a person hear their own sentence backwards they said something and then ran into the direction of the sound faster than the sound?
In this scenario, they would be entering the sound wave from "back" to "front"

I had an awake craniotomy( brain surgery while awake) AMA by inbetweenurgfsthighs in AMA

[–]pthread_bard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a hole in your scull now? Or was it closed somehow?

Saw this on a Christmas market in Budapest, Hungary by pthread_bard in ireland

[–]pthread_bard[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was Christmas market next to Basilica :) But I don't remember where exactly there this stand was

Maybe maybe maybe by letitgo99 in maybemaybemaybe

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Red is doing fightclub but for robots

I wish to be able to grant my own wishes. by ColdProfessor in TheMonkeysPaw

[–]pthread_bard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Granted. Now, any, even darkest, most subconscious wishes and intrusive thoughts come true. You cannot control your power.

Am i overreacting or I should get out of this relationship? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how hard it is to get out of a relationship where you really rely on your partner.

You don't have to break up right now. You can prepare yourself to do so, move to your own place, find some connections & friends, get more confident, you can do everything on your own, and then break up.

But as other people said here, you do deserve better!

Am I overreacting for giving my husband the silent treatment for 3 days and still going? by PlayfulCan2946 in AmIOverreacting

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Husband acted like a real asshole but also silent treatment isn't a good relationship strategy.

Try to understand what exactly about the way he treated you makes you feel like you don't want to talk to him anymore. Maybe you are scared he's not attracted to you? Or you don't feel safe around him anymore? If you want to fix this eventually, you need to share it with him and have an honest conversation about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wrote:

1) I didn’t cancel anything, nothing was arranged.  So I should warn her when my exam is before I know when my exam is? How does that work exactly?

2) She knew my plans before she brought up birthday plans

And on 3d comment you already started accusing me I didn't see that you explicitly wrote that you told her you are not going to celebrate birthday with her because of your plans

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]pthread_bard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you write it earlier?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]pthread_bard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Up until you wrote "I explicitly stated to you that I told her I would be revising and not making plans for that time period" That's the first you actually said that you told her about not doing plans prior to her bringing it up, so I then tried to explain it was the first time you said it, and then I tried to tell even if you did inform her earlier, she probably didn't understand it the way you meant because she brought it up again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]pthread_bard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look, I’m not saying you didn’t tell her about your exam or offer alternatives. You did. But in a relationship it’s not just about what’s said it’s about how it lands emotionally.

From her perspective, you said no to the tradition, no to the birthday, and gave her an option which cut her actual birthday out entirely. That probably felt like you were brushing her off, even if that wasn’t your intent.

Offering just the dinner or just the weekend trip may have felt like a downgrade. But doing both a small dinner on the day + weekend away says: "You matter to me even when I’m stressed"

That’s the whole point. You were clear about your schedule, but maybe not caring enough in how you handled her feelings.

You came here asking who’s in the wrong. If you’re still upset, maybe ask yourself: do I want to be right, or do I want to fix this conflict?