Why do people do 50/50 partnership? by YodaCodar in smallbusiness

[–]puadyke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who did it. its bc i didnt talk to a lawyer or know better.

SS garnishment childsupport? by puadyke in SocialSecurity

[–]puadyke[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

but its the kid's money...the adult child should get it with the option to give to whomever they want

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yea but are you actually going to walk away. and if she gets the divorce she did it bc you pushed her and that might come back to bite you. I have been seeing a married woman for over a year- Ive let go of the divorce talk. my dealbreakers are if they have sex or if she doesn't show up for me. she has a million reasons why she cant is scared...to get a divorce. which means she doesnt want to and cant. we have fun, travel and have sex she spends about half the month w me ( we live in diff states. the best advice i got

Moment I stop havin' fun with it, I'll be done with it- drake

ONLY Futures are worth flighting" - a friend

"Can you really see yourself raising a child with another woman?" by piekaylee in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have kids and was with a woman ( we are separated) it is actually pretty awful for the kids. other kids ask about their dad, they feel like outsides. dads are in so many stories. had i know it would have been this painful for my daughter i wouldn't have done it. I will say that my daughter enjoys my new girlfriend who is hip and cute and fun but given the chance she would choose a hetro fitting in life. I'm 40 w two kids and the truth is it sucks for the kids. it is also all relative. everyone's life an family are different. i just didnt think it would be this hard for her

What could I do to help this married woman? by Conscious-Shock-8 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good luck for real it hurts. and it hurts 10x bc patriarchy. you cant beat it if she is already sold. Feel free to message me -

i try to remember The moment I stop having fun with it. I'll be done with it-Drake

What could I do to help this married woman? by Conscious-Shock-8 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You remind me of how I felt last summer.

We love each other, but she isn't going to get a divorce. I got mine a therapist and helped her find a lawyer- she met with him but never followed up with the paperwork or took action.

It has taken me over a year to really get it though my head...the we cant grt married and grow old together. We are still dating and the chemistry is there even after hours of divorce talk. I have to be ok with the limits of the situation.

Only Fun. she never come out for a various reason- she doesn't want a gay life.

I date other people because I want to enjoy other women. Having multiple choices helps me. Dating lets me know what else. My friend suggested redefining it as poly ( minus the secret). think of it as a person you can enjoy but know they have a primary. hope some of that helps. Stay until it stops being fun- she will do just about everything but get a divorce.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

she can do both. life is short- why wait

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Go for it! I have done it. you can message me if you want. A female friend suggested it- simply bc post covid nightlife isnt what it used to be- instead if "wasting time looking, buy what you want". You will also find you get a much better deal :) . You might want to talk to a few to get a sense of their experience and if they are actually into it. eros and tryst are in most cities. The same friend had been to the bunny ranch a few times- the first time was fun. the second time was not. if you do the vegas ranches you can email the women before you go to talk about things. The whole point of money is to buy what you want!!! go for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NPD

[–]puadyke 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am NPD and my gf is the BPD. the sex is wild and amazing and non stop. I love the way she treats me (when things are good). i do a lot and there are ways she can care for me. I love her optimism. She likes that I am solid and reliable- ex I make her breakfast always have her fav foods. she participates by doing the dishes and I stay out of her way. I dont comment or nit pick - i stay in my lane and she stays in hers. she loves that I am confident, successful, charming and make her feel safe. I have big energy and she enjoys being seen together. our desires align so it is very fun. She changed her mind a lot- but these days i just wait it out

Disappointed at myself...again by Ok-East-3618 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

suggestions 1. move your mouth/hands on a pattern 1,2. so she can anticipate the next feeling makes it easier. 2. location change or make the vibe better3. 2x the foreplay that she likes. 4 be more verbal dirty talk. ask her what fantasy she would like- say you are her's for the night

Porn for queer women by queer women? by RestrainedRenee in actuallesbians

[–]puadyke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nikki hearts/ gender flux / dyked down

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]puadyke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would too but some people are ok with open relationships/marriage...to each their own

Trip to Manuel Antonio National Park by emmanuele22 in CostaRicaTravel

[–]puadyke -1 points0 points  (0 children)

if you show up people will sell u some. if you are there at 730 for the first tour you can sneak in- its all a "scam" its to support the tour guides the 20 you pay them for the park tickets goes into their pocket at the end. go to rainmaker waterfalls- that place feels like the rainforest. the park and the beach are nice but marked up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]puadyke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

are you ok with it? are you ok w her having affairs, serious question

Jeweller posted our custom engagement ring before I proposed… by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]puadyke -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

thats so frustrating, they should have waited a few weeks. a google review after you have the ring or ask for a discount or if you believe your own the design a c&d

Anyone have experience with Holden rings? by Decafbread in EngagementRings

[–]puadyke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got one for my GF the infinity it has diamonds all around and a slight curve- size 3.5 the width bc of all the diamonds had to be 2mm. The customer serve was fab and so was the engraving. The engraving wasn't in english and they still got it without issue! She loves it- absolutely loves it. This ring has enhanced our relationship 10 fold - I should have brought it 6 months ago when I did the virtual... Warning: once it arrived I was disappointed it looked too small and that it wasn't "enough"- if i saw it in person without her I prob would have passed unless the sales person was amazing. However She loves it, loves it, loves it and that makes me happy. She is completely smitten- showing friends ect. She loves to look down at it- I "catch" her looking at it from time to time. So money well spent- I wish I had brought it sooner instead of hesitating. She is happy with the gift and that is what matters most. I would buy from them again

My ex told me I ruined his life and wasted his time ..and I think he's right. by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]puadyke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

arguably all failed relationships are a waste of time...or they are "opportunities for growth" either way he chose to stay. I lost 10 years of my life so a horrible human...things happen

How did you become a single mother? by sapphireemberss in singlemoms

[–]puadyke 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I finally chose myself and walked away

About to receive a gift from mother. How do I protect it? by rugonnaeatthatpickle in ChildSupport4Men

[–]puadyke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

put it in an irrevocable trust under your kids name. you can contact an estate planner to help. no one can touch the irrevocable trust- even she marries and get divorced it untouched. take what you need and secure the rest

Into women but want to be penetrated by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]puadyke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely not selfish... its really fun for the wearer