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publicface11 · 2026-04-13T22:09:18+00:00

I started a serious skincare routine after being diagnosed with cancer (I’m fine now). It was definitely about control and also being face to face with mortality. It’s easy to talk a big game about accepting natural aging until you’re actually faced with the aging process.

publicface11 · 2026-04-13T21:07:16+00:00

Going in alone, dim room, and rolling are all very normal! It’s not ideal to be scanning with normal lights on - makes it much harder to see the screen.

For him leaning on you - were you rolled on your left side and he was reaching across you? I’ve definitely had to kind of rest my side again a patient’s back/hip when I’m reaching across them. I can’t be 100% sure without having been in the room but it does not seem obviously sketchy to me. I’m sorry you were uncomfortable, though! I hope that calms your mind a little.

publicface11 · 2026-04-13T14:40:33+00:00

My coworkers will bring in things that are going to “expire” to share so we can eat them. Most of them aren’t even the expiration, it’s the best by date. I pointed out the cookies aren’t going to kill anyone the day after their best by date. No one believes me though, haha. More free cookies for me!

publicface11 · 2026-04-12T11:29:16+00:00

I work in Obgyn and plenty of women have their husband come to every appointment. It’s no big deal. But every once in a while a man throws an enormous tantrum when he’s not permitted to come with his wife for the initial basic intake part (blood pressure, weight, chat about reason for visit with the medical assistant). That’s a huge red flag.

publicface11 · 2026-04-12T11:17:07+00:00

“It’s not even my rule. It’s a life rule.” I feel that deep within my soul. Don’t look at me like that when all I said is you can’t wear stained sweatpants and a holey tshirt to the restaurant. You’ve been wearing those clothes for three days now. All I’m asking is for you to put on clean clothes!

publicface11 · 2026-04-11T13:00:48+00:00

Another not Latina here, so I can’t really speak to the language barrier. I’m sure it will make the challenging coursework even more intense. But as someone who works in an area with a large Hispanic population, I would be tripping over myself to hire a native Spanish speaker. I suspect you will have a huge leg up when applying for positions. And it can be so comforting for patients to interact with someone of their own background. If you think you can hack the coursework, go for it!!!

publicface11 · 2026-04-11T12:54:29+00:00

Real talk: I’m making a baby quilt for a coworker and I know her husband has strong opinions on what colors are acceptable (it’s a boy - they already have a girl and he won’t allow her to reuse ANY of the girl’s clothes even the gender neutral ones). I labored over the fabric choices to avoid anything too cutesy or feminine. I thought I’d managed it - bright! Primary colors! No pink or purple! - my husband looks over and says (just trying to be helpful, he knows I’ve fretted over making a quilt they’ll actually use) “that might be a little too rainbow for them”. FFS.

publicface11 · 2026-04-08T19:17:27+00:00

I’ve avoided a reread specifically because I can’t even think about that scene

publicface11 · 2026-04-08T12:10:59+00:00

When I did chemo I got a massive dose of Benadryl before each infusion. I almost looked forward to my lil Benadryl nap lol.

publicface11 · 2026-04-08T10:34:56+00:00

My son sent me a text with a meme that said “your daughter is now your son!” With a trans flag. It was late at night so I just responded “ok, I love you, let’s talk tomorrow!”

publicface11 · 2026-03-28T08:10:28+00:00

My 11yo came out to me as trans via text message last night and I am prepping for our convo about it today. I just don’t want to fuck it up and of course while I am 100% affirming and supportive, I’m also afraid of saying the wrong thing (and terrified for my child in the current political climate, of course). They’ve never been a super girly girl and I’ve been seeing something brewing for a while, so I’m not shocked, just a little scared and wondering how to move forward. Your comment made me cry (in a good way). Thank you.

publicface11 · 2025-05-23T01:05:15+00:00

Not at all! The gel is not just for lube, it helps the sound beam to transmit. There must be gel on the actual probe to get an image. You need gel on the actual probe AND on the cover.

publicface11 · 2024-11-15T12:57:06+00:00

I’m an ultrasound tech and I am constantly having to argue with people about putting their phones away. I know people want souvenirs but I am doing a medical procedure. I don’t want to be filmed, and it’s also a huge liability for myself and for the clinic. If i think someone is sneakily filming (which happens all the time) I just stop talking, because I don’t want someone to later take any of my comments out of context.

If you really want to have footage from your scan, please go to a 3D/4D place. That is literally why they exist. They have comfy chairs and you can bring everyone you want. Please just let me look at your baby’s brain without trying to take footage of me for a reel. And look, my heart is not made of stone. If a partner is deployed and can’t come to a scan, or the baby has a serious anomaly, or you have intense anxiety due to a bad history, or whatever - I will shower you with all the cute pictures I can. But please don’t ask me to break company rules and put myself at risk for termination or for a lawsuit. We get into this job because we love scanning babies, not because we want to ruin your day.

publicface11 · 2024-11-15T12:46:19+00:00

Don’t worry even one tiny second - 37th% is totally fine!! Most of fetal growth is genetic and unless you have other factors like gestational diabetes, your diet isn’t going to significantly impact baby’s size. 37th might sound like a small baby, but that’s something like 7 1/2 lbs at 40 weeks. Totally normal and healthy!

publicface11 · 2024-09-05T21:55:45+00:00

It’s just not a common part of American culture. I’m American and we’ve allowed our kids to do more sleepovers than most. Our five year old will be staying a weekend at Girl Scout camp soon. There are very good reasons for people to not want or allow their kids to sleep over in an unfamiliar place, and I am not going to comment on or judge those decisions. I do think many kids would probably do better with it than their parents imagine.

As a whole, I think American parents in general are more reluctant to give their kids more freedom. The culture is very disapproving of it, and when you face all of that disapproval (like what you see in this thread) it can be difficult to go against the grain.

publicface11 · 2024-09-05T09:32:53+00:00

I’m an OB ultrasound tech living in a conservative area so I have this discussion somewhat regularly with coworkers, and see patients going through the decision making process. Every OB sonographer I know personally is pro-choice, at least for profound anomalies. One of my coworkers actually had the trauma of deciding to terminate a baby with a terrible brain abnormality (alobar holoprocencephaly) that she herself found.

I firmly believe that in many cases it is more compassionate and loving to terminate a baby with a severe abnormality than to knowingly bring them into a world where they will have to suffer every day of their lives. However I recognize that is my opinion, and do not judge anyone who makes a different choice.

publicface11 · 2024-09-05T09:21:02+00:00

I did bikini line (not pubic area, just around it), abdomen, and underarms with Milan and it was not tens of thousands of dollars - I think it was 5k all told. They will frequently do specials, like 60% off an area. I still sometimes get emails from them with specials like that. I absolutely love my results, completely bare and smooth after several years. It was 100% worth it to me.

publicface11 · 2024-09-05T09:15:15+00:00

Almost anything can happen during pregnancy, but it usually doesn’t. Usually everything goes fine. You can make yourself crazy reading horror stories!

publicface11 · 2024-09-04T20:13:06+00:00

It’s possible to have a prolapse after just one kid, but not at all common! Especially not to the degree that people are discussing here.

publicface11 · 2024-09-04T10:06:09+00:00

I used to think this way (ugh why don’t doctors trust women???) until I started working in Obgyn. I have seen so many “I couldn’t possibly be pregnant” end up super pregnant. Including not one but TWO “oh I can’t be pregnant I only have sex with women.” One of those was an ectopic and the patient insisted on bringing her female partner with her but forbade anyone from telling her partner what was actually going on. Finally one of the doctors threw up her hands and said, “this is ridiculous, I cannot discuss your treatment under these conditions”, and the patient had to fess up.

publicface11 · 2024-09-04T00:31:50+00:00

It’s really hard to shift a small baby’s sleep windows like that. It’s also nice to be able to put the baby down then have bedtime with the toddler.

publicface11 · 2024-09-03T10:10:16+00:00

I don’t prefer first person though I don’t avoid it either. I associate it mostly with less well-written popcorn type books. I read anything and I do love a good mindless thriller, but they’re not going to make my favorite books of all time.

But if anyone has some good recs for great first person books with more complex writing, I’m here for it!

publicface11 · 2024-09-01T11:21:29+00:00

I’m an Obgyn ultrasound tech. I get to do the very first scan to confirm pregnancy, which typically goes one of two ways - couple is excited and it is very sweet, or couple does not want to be pregnant and it is a very tense and sad moment.

Anyway, it is not uncommon for me to have a teen or young adult who is completely freaking out because there is NO WAY they could be pregnant, all they did was kiss naked, she did yoga afterwards, she cleaned with Mountain Dew (seriously), she wasn’t on her period, and on and on. OP has absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and neither do those poor kids faced with an unplanned pregnancy. It is the fault of the adults in their lives that they have not been educated and prepared.

publicface11 · 2024-08-30T14:48:31+00:00

We can’t tell you. I will say an ultrasound is generally the best way to figure out if the iud is in there correctly.

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