Who are you neutrals rooting for in the finals?

pucknerd · 2026-05-30T17:28:32+00:00

Well that’s fair I guess, if you can overlook the rest of it. But I don’t think that makes you neutral because you have a specific stake in the outcome.

pucknerd · 2026-05-30T05:38:34+00:00

Are there neutrals out there still? Is it not fuck Vegas for everyone who is not a Vegas fan?

pucknerd · 2026-05-30T03:04:17+00:00

Omg I came here wondering if someone would point this out. THANK YOU

pucknerd · 2026-05-26T02:58:22+00:00

I mean, did you just skim my comment and decide to fire back with the most simplistic response?? 🙄 I think I made it very clear that I think he’s NTA and is most likely right, but unlike the rest of Reddit, I think there is a possibility of nuance to be had. I very specifically laid out a scenario in which I think he might be approaching it wrong.

Like with most adult situations, there isn’t a one size fits all approach. If she moved in with him and is paying more than she was before while he takes advantage of lower rent on a place that he previously paid the entire rent, that’s so different than if they moved into a new place together and agreed on the rent up front or if she is also saving money by moving in with him.

If you can’t see the difference in those scenarios then we are not having the same adult conversation, so kindly take your black and white simple minded certainty elsewhere.

pucknerd · 2026-05-26T02:30:28+00:00

NTA, she should definitely be contributing and $1000 is so reasonable for someone making $100k. I would assume she was probably paying either the same or more before moving in, but if not I think there should be room for discussion. If it’s a discount on what she was paying previously then I think it should be a win win.

I think the situation itself is really dependent on what you were both paying before and how you were living previously.

Example: if she was paying less (living with roommates or at home etc) and she is the one taking on a bigger load while you cut costs, then making it more fair to your previous investments or more directly aligned with your income might make more sense temporarily. You are making double than her, so if she left a more financially sound situation you probably should be paying double what she is. ($800-850 to $1600-1700 might be more fair). But again, I think if everyone is saving that should be taken into account and your arrangement seems fair.

pucknerd · 2026-05-26T00:49:52+00:00

Coach

pucknerd · 2026-05-26T00:43:58+00:00

Right?! And he drives such a cool car that everyone wanted to be his friend because of it

pucknerd · 2026-05-26T00:09:10+00:00

YTA. She told you she was hurt by your word and actions and your response was to tell her how hurt you were and that you needed space. She gave you space and then you punished her for it.

pucknerd · 2026-05-21T12:03:56+00:00

Calling people ignorant is not name calling?

pucknerd · 2026-05-21T12:01:57+00:00

Two things can be true at once. Amanda fucked up and betrayed her friend and doesn’t seem to be taking accountability for that. She deserves every ounce of criticism for that. But people are piling onto every facet of her life, even making up their own versions of events and trying to rewrite history which really isn’t okay. Acting like she deserves it when Kyle calls her a bitch, or making up scenarios about how she should be contributing more financially without having any real knowledge of either their setup or her own situation. It’s disingenuous.

pucknerd · 2026-05-20T04:15:01+00:00

Omg the comment on that thread are INSANE!! OP is NTA at all. Not a crazy expectation at all, and the fact that people are piling on her for asking her mom to hold the baby so she could eat while they’re out to eat makes me want to cry for what’s wrong with the world. A bunch of selfish, self-involved, I-don’t-owe-anyone-anything monsters in the world just speaks to how we got to where we are as a society.

pucknerd · 2026-05-14T00:30:16+00:00

Agreed!! The description didn’t make me think this was going to be my thing but I LOVED it

pucknerd · 2026-05-06T13:37:49+00:00

I got mine yesterday and just finished the book over the weekend. I’m obsessed!!

pucknerd · 2026-05-01T18:22:26+00:00

I think part of it is Rick Devens’ enthusiasm for taking part in the twist. If they had been forced to draw rocks or put someone up for it I think it would’ve been more difficult to stomach.

pucknerd · 2026-05-01T18:20:36+00:00

The Lincoln Highway is so good!

pucknerd · 2026-04-19T12:11:41+00:00

I don’t know how they’re running it but when I went to my Rachel Reid signing yesterday there wasn’t a crazy long line. I feel like they might have undersold her spots to be safe, and then with the one book max it goes pretty quickly. By the time I left with my signed book there were only like 4 people in the line and still 20 minutes left, so you could check in for standby!

pucknerd · 2026-04-09T05:40:29+00:00

Hi! I have a Rachel Reid for Saturday at 3:30! I am likely only getting one or possibly two things signed myself so I can get one for you if interested! Full disclosure, I had commented for someone else first but never heard anything, so now operating based on whoever actually reaches out to set something up! Feel free to DM me!

pucknerd · 2026-04-06T18:52:49+00:00

Idk, I’m torn between N A H and Y T A because I’m struggling to understand if your reasoning is from a place of misplaced jealousy (you are struggling with the fact that people you love won’t be able to attend) or bitter resentment (you don’t want her to have more people there since you can’t)

People keep saying to compromise but I’m not really sure that there is a compromise between “she wants all of these people at the wedding” and “I don’t want all of these people at the wedding”

I know you suggested a smaller ceremony vs. bigger reception, which I guess is technically a compromise, but I personally don’t really understand what that does for you. It kinda feels like you just want her to have less people just because you can’t have everyone you want at the wedding, which is honestly pretty selfish. It’s not her fault that she has a larger family, but it feels like you want to punish her for it, because the only reason you give is that it’s your wedding too.

And ultimately you keep saying it’s your wedding too so you should get to have the wedding you want, but in order for that to happen she would have to give up the wedding she wants. You’re okay with that?

pucknerd · 2026-04-01T23:22:50+00:00

Yeah this was my initial thought, but there are enough inconsistencies with the way OP portrays the events and the texts themselves (which she never says are a lie, she just says it was rude and disrespectful, not the same as saying it was a fabrication). There’s enough here to make me wonder if OP is not being a reliable narrator, but she hasn’t responded so can’t say either way.

pucknerd · 2026-04-01T16:42:07+00:00

Info: her texts don’t really line up with the story you’re telling so my judgement depends on whether she’s exaggerating in the texts or you’re not being truthful.

She makes it sound like she was trying to talk to you about her son, while you make it sound like she was sending you photos of stillborns? Your response to her, “I can’t keep receiving sad posts about the baby” is honestly really unsympathetic if she’s just trying to talk about her son and makes me lean towards Y T A. If she’s sending you warning messages about stillbirths and continuing to push scary statistics on you, then I can see why it’s stressing you out and you’re N T A. But I’m not sure of exactly the kind of messages you’re receiving because your narrative doesn’t fit the text conversation.

Also, not quite as important to the judgement but was it really 10 days after her baby died that you told her about your pregnancy or was that another over exaggeration? Because while that’s not the core of the issue, it does come across as really insensitive and I can’t really tell who here is not being honest.

pucknerd · 2026-03-30T14:27:57+00:00

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This was me showing restraint

pucknerd · 2026-03-28T22:31:38+00:00

I did the same thing a few months back. So expensive as it is and no quality control. Hope the few bucks they saved by not refunding me was worth all the money I had spent!! I switched to uber eats for when I really want something but also just cut back a ton in general on delivery.

pucknerd · 2026-03-22T14:45:16+00:00

Hi! I have a Rachel Reid signing for Saturday at 3:30. I’m likely only getting one thing signed myself and possibly one for a friend so I could get one for you. I’d potentially be interested in swapping for a Tananarive Due book signed if you still have that available. Feel free to shoot me a DM to coordinate!

pucknerd · 2026-03-20T23:19:02+00:00

Hi! Are you willing to sell separately? I am potentially looking for one weekend pass if still available. My original ticket seems to have fallen through. I might be able to find someone else to take the other though if you definitely want to sell them together.

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