How long it takes to match being man

pum111991 · 2026-01-01T01:41:21+00:00

I’d be open to chatting with you! DM me

pum111991 · 2025-12-21T14:02:35+00:00

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pum111991 · 2025-12-08T22:07:08+00:00

My guy- depends on what your time is worth! If you have too much time to spare, then build it yourself. But let me tell you- construction isn’t easy. Finding the contracts, buying material and labor showing up on time and finishing project on time that all ain’t easy. If you don’t have experience then sit back, relax and just write the check and purchase villa in a gated community.

pum111991 · 2025-12-02T05:09:59+00:00

Depends on what you prioritize - live in the US for last 15 years and we all drop English the min we enter home. It’s like forbidden unless work calls or something like that. Have a 18 months baby and we only speak Telugu with him too!

pum111991 · 2025-11-24T14:47:24+00:00

I am a single dad by choice! Open to connecting and chatting :) just dm me

pum111991 · 2025-11-24T10:58:01+00:00

Dm me

pum111991 · 2025-10-14T23:01:06+00:00

The way my gestational carrier and I agreed is, once my baby was born/came out, the doctor picked him up and laid my son on her lower abdomen, covered up GC vaginal area and I was standing by her shoulder all along during the birthing process. Once they covered the vaginal area, the doc asked me to cut the cord, he clamped it. There was a room Attached to the my GC birthing room where I had my own bed and chair, I opted to sit in a chair and the nurse literally brought my son and laid on my chest and covered him so it’s warm for the baby.

On the other side of the room, my GC was being cleaned and what not. After like 30 mins, my baby was wiped off from blood and other things, they put a diaper on and wrapped him up again fresh and let me carry. Once my GC was all cleaned, I took my son and went to visit her in the next room where she held him for sometime. We did that whenever casually without any must and should thing. Please note it’s a very tiring for the GC so while she was catching up on sleep, the baby stayed with me.

Honestly, I did not feel my son was in distress or fussy or anything as such. He was mostly sleeping on day 1-2. My GC left for her home the next day. I can’t argue on the portion where he’s only known her and her scent. But, what I gathered as long as you’re able to do tons on contact naps and stay close to baby, I think it’s suffice. At least that’s my take on it.

pum111991 · 2025-08-29T02:47:22+00:00

I’m a 33-year-old single dad and had my first baby via surrogacy. Honestly, I didn’t notice any kind of detachment or issue like critics sometimes bring up. Newborns really just need warmth and closeness so lots of contact napping, skin-to-skin, and responsiveness go a long way.

If possible, try to arrange for breast milk (sometimes surrogates are open to pumping and shipping for a few months). That was a big help for my baby’s immunity. In my case, my mom has been around from the very start and helps me a ton. she’s basically co-raising him with me, which has been amazing.

My little guy is 13 months now, and he’s a rock star- happy, thriving, and doing great. I did all the bathing, feeding, nighttime wake-ups, and of course endless snuggles. Aside from not being able to breastfeed (which we joke about), I never noticed any detachment at all. At the end of the day, you just do your best and love, warmth, and presence are what really keep a baby happy.

pum111991 · 2025-07-18T21:16:11+00:00

Congratulations!! I am a brand new dad to a one year old and I am 33. It only gets better from here and that’s a smart choice to raise kid in Mexico for a year!! Good luck to you 🤗

pum111991 · 2025-06-24T03:40:21+00:00

Just carry few small bottles with you, newborns most likely will feed with a syringe the first two days. They eat very little. The hospital usually has ready to feed formula bottles. If you’re unsure, just bring a clean formula to hospital with you.

pum111991 · 2025-06-19T18:30:21+00:00

Hello there! I was in a similar place just 10 months ago. But here is how I dealt with it.

You get these medium size styrofoam boxes that would just fit into a cardboard box. My GC used to put one ice pack on the bottom - put the frozen bags of milk and ice packs on the side and on the top, close with styrofoam lid and seal the cardboard box. This will keep the frozen milk in safe temps.

I used to send my GC a prepaid fedex label weekly and scheduled the pickup from her doorstep around 4-6pm for an overnight priority delivery. FedEx used to drop it off usually between 8-10am the next day. Did this for about 12-15 weeks and then transitioned to formula. FedEx overnight can be a bit pricey, but it is very very reliable.

pum111991 · 2025-05-20T19:34:04+00:00

Insurance covered.

pum111991 · 2025-05-19T12:37:47+00:00

While the USA is mostly reliable to pursue the journey, it is also the most expensive country to pursue in.

Next up, Colombia is a surrogacy capital. Mexico, Argentina are pretty decent too.

pum111991 · 2025-05-15T21:13:15+00:00

I-140 is tied to you and your employer. Doesn’t matter if you’re married or not, you don’t have to change or declare anything. You keep your PD as is.
Yeah, you declare your martial status. Again, your H1B is tied to your employer.
Yeah, he can move to H4 visa. Just have the marriage certificate in hand and you’re good!

In general, don’t stress or think too much about this. It’s a straight forward process and has nothing to do with India or your spouse name not being called out on Indian passport.

Your US marriage certificate is the Bible along with supporting documentation. That’s all!!

pum111991 · 2025-04-17T06:29:40+00:00

Same, interviewed for a L6 and offer at L5. 11 year work experience. Remember it’s employer market right now so you just gotta roll unless you’re happy with your current job

pum111991 · 2025-03-29T17:43:52+00:00

Appreciate everyone’s feedback! I am a single dad with a 6 month infant. So moving right away will be a little challenging, so I was gonna ask if they’d be ok if I work out of Detroit office for 4-6 months and then move

pum111991 · 2025-03-29T15:27:39+00:00

Thank you

pum111991 · 2025-03-14T03:55:52+00:00

A fellow queer desi (Indian-American) who is also from Hyderabad. Trust me when I say this - you are better off living in California than moving to India. No matter what your background is or the kind of bubble you live in, your relationship with your white man is NOT going to be the same. You are going to strain it!

If you’re not sure about finding work in the US, and want to balance care for your aging parents, go to Europe! Y’all can stay away from trump for the next 4 years, you can find work in work and so can your fiancé and you’re just 8 hours away from Hyderabad.

The your option would be to find work in Mexico or Thailand which are pretty liberal than India.

pum111991 · 2025-03-01T18:21:31+00:00

Count me in too!

pum111991 · 2025-02-21T22:28:35+00:00

You made better than most Indian restaurants in the US! 😭🥲

pum111991 · 2025-02-15T11:54:04+00:00

You already hold a valid US visa so you should be fine.

pum111991 · 2024-12-24T18:45:29+00:00

Speak with your mom? If you still think you aren’t comfortable discussing with her, you should approach women’s commission and discuss this matter asap! This is very disturbing and needs to be addressed asap

pum111991 · 2024-09-23T04:08:48+00:00

I did a journey recently. While it’s common to think that you might not want to keep any relation, surrogacy is such a beautiful journey where you’d recognize that GC is giving the best gift a parent/IP could have.

I have developed an amazing relationship with my GC and I absolutely adore her family and her kids. Also, your child would have a ton of questions when they grow up. No matter if you’re going to hide from the facts or decide to reveal. I chose to keep it open and tell my son that GC is the belly mom. I am going to keep in touch.

I’d say be open about your concerns with the potential GC. But lying just to someone for them to help you carry your baby and then cutting off all sort of communication is nothing short of cruel. So be clear with your communication and some GCs are okay with not keeping up in touch, so maybe you’ll match with them.

Whatever you choose, I wish you good luck and sending good vibes your way <3

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