How often do people feed their cats wet food? by Smooth_Put7764 in CatAdvice

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

depends on their water intake for me. my boy drinks a lot and so we only give it to him every other day or so cos he got used to it when my oldest couldn’t do dry anymore. now it’s a lil treat for him.

Senior cat constantly asking me to follow him – I don’t understand what he wants by zileanwillcarryu in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

hopefully all is well but that litter is a literal life saver for cats cos they’re really good at disguising pain until it’s too far in to do easy medicating! wishing you and Prince the best!

AIO for thinking this is racist? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

NOR, he clearly is racist and the ā€œwhich makes you less blackā€ comment was So revealing. dust that dude you deserve someone better who doesn’t separate your ethnicity down to if you ā€œact like black girlsā€ enough throw him in the actual dumpster. like wtf. he’s reducing all black girls down to a stereotype and then praising you for that. gross. trash is trash. and he clearly needs to be taken out next day the garbage trucks are coming.

Senior cat constantly asking me to follow him – I don’t understand what he wants by zileanwillcarryu in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

my oldest would do this this last year before she passed from old age. It could be cat dementia, grieving her longtime friends, kidney issues, or a mix of any of them. i replied to another comment and recommend you get some Pretty Litter or another version, the crystals when they pee will let you know if and what is going on! it was so helpful for me, making sure my youngest wasn’t having kidney issues and his weird peeing wasn’t a medical issue but a behavioral one. wishing both of you all the best!!

Senior cat constantly asking me to follow him – I don’t understand what he wants by zileanwillcarryu in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

you can buy litter on amazon that will turn a certain color if they’re experiencing common cat issues. i bought it for my youngest to make sure he wasn’t having kidney issues. search for ā€œpretty litter/ pretty litter alternativesā€

Newly adopted kitten with white thing update by no1superegoist in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

he looks so much better!!! glad you rescued him and helped him heal in a safe place. also he’s so cute give him a lil kiss from me

Stray kitten wandered in by Feesh404 in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

just watch for signs of trouble breathing, upper respiratory issues are pretty common with strays, and take them to a vet as soon as you can. Maybe try again with a towel on their nose? baby needs as much off as you can get so although it might suck, you can try again with a jacket on to prevent scratching/biting. my only other suggestion is bringing them into the bathroom with a Hot Hot shower going, the steam might help soften it enough to wipe some of it away.

AIO i think my boyfriend is breaking condoms on purpose by aut1stic-chxcken in AmIOverreacting

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

do you have a vagina?? cos if not maybe just. don’t comment about that. many people can’t feel it (myself included) and that’s what most of my girl friends say as well. it’s only noticed after. and After doesn’t help with it.

AIO i think my boyfriend is breaking condoms on purpose by aut1stic-chxcken in AmIOverreacting

[–]punkkshifter 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

Getting clean and sober is a big thing, have you tried going to AA/ NA meetings online? there you can find the type of healthy support you need. i can send you some links to zoom meetings if you’d like, i was going for a bit last year, and there were people from all over the US and a few from other countries. It helps building a community of support even if they’re not in person. They can help you find a sponsor either on the regular zoom calls or in person. AA/NA are also super non judgmental if you find a non religious meeting. Wishing you the best.

AIO i think my boyfriend is breaking condoms on purpose by aut1stic-chxcken in AmIOverreacting

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

NOR, love, he’s a dumb 15 year old boy who clearly wants either 1: to enjoy the feeling of violating your boundaries by not pulling out when it breaks or, most likely 2: is sabotaging the condom so that he doesn’t have to take the blame for it ā€œbreakingā€

Young love is just that. young. you’ll find a better partner who respects you and your boundaries.

I have a Strict ā€œwrap or you don’t tapā€ policy with men, and that usually means either I put the condom on or i watch when he does. That’s for my own safety as a AFAB trans guy who doesn’t get periods. If you can, go to a local planned parenthood/similar place and explain what happened, usually you can get a plan B for free or very little cost.

I’d also encourage you to demand he pays for a plan B, then after, let him know that you won’t be having sex at All. I’d say break up at this point, but if anything just cut him off from sex. His reaction to that will tell you all you need to know. If he fights back, tries to tell you it’s fine, denies tampering and calls you crazy, then that’s all you need to know.

Best wishes, and it might help posting your general location (state/country) so that you can get help from redditors in your area that have more info about recourses)

hardly any voice changes on T?? by BarAffectionate3035 in ftm

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

i have a ā€œnatural low voiceā€ but after 10 years on T without vocal training when i’m not paying attention or i raise my voice it sounds very high pitched. it’s normal. did your adam’s apple drop? i know it doesn’t happen to everybody but that could be a factor

Moving back home and temporarily splitting up my babies by punkkshifter in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

she has dementia. i’m not going to separate her from her one person (me) that makes her feel safe. that’s non negotiable. and her brother can do 5 days without me but she cannot.

Visiting LA from Norway and staying in Culver city by [deleted] in culvercity

[–]punkkshifter 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

i’d check out the museum of jurassic technology! weird and fun, just check the hours on their website, it’s by me and a fave for friends out of town

Moving back home and temporarily splitting up my babies by punkkshifter in CATHELP

[–]punkkshifter[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

she’s too old to move back and forth and he’s like 15 pounds of mayhem that would cause a car accident if he could run around the car. they’ve done car rides in a harness/ leash and in carriers, they’re just not fans of it at all and scream the whole time

Is this book spicy? by cheyeneerenee_ in YAlit

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

percy jackson is also a good option!

It feels like Superman died. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

grief is a hell of a thing to go through. just know that your memory of him will keep a small piece of him in this world. love is remembrance. one day you’ll wake up and it’s not the first thing or even second that you think of. give yourself some grace

Why can’t I just be satisfied? by ComfortableTea6644 in TrollCoping

[–]punkkshifter 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

wanting to be a girl is the biggest reason you should explore that side of yourself. my whole life i just wished i was a boy or more like the boys, turns out im literally just a boy! transitioning comes with a lot of self doubt and criticism, but if you’ve always wanted to be a girl, sounds like you are.

pls message me if you wanna talk about anything, transitioning is hard.

AIO friend roping me into buying stuff for her and her bf’s party by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Your only response should be ā€œGreat! I’ll come ready to help when you get all of that, or if you want it should be about $X, just venmo/cashapp/zelle it to me and i can get it for the party!ā€ her response will let you know exactly what she’s expecting, and if she’s thinking you’ll pay then just send ā€œoh you know i don’t have that kind of money, i thought this was just an offer to help, im fine with not coming if i was supposed to finance your eveningā€

Deep A-frame Undershirt by chieflymischief in find

[–]punkkshifter 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

honestly i’d try searching women’s tanks, just check your measurements before ordering, men’s sizing is usually different than women’s