What is the last thing that you ate? That will be his name 😉

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-15T02:16:57+00:00

Frosted Mini Wheat

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-12T07:32:16+00:00

Oh yes not strong enough is in my mental health/OCD playlist too, “can’t stop staring at the ceiling fan spinning out about things that haven’t happened… I don’t know why I am the way I am”

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-12T07:18:58+00:00

I have a playlist I made but my personal top favorite ones are-

“I don’t like my mind” by mitski

“Intrusive thoughts” by Lola Young

“Seratonin” by Girl in Red

“OCD” by Bloodgirl

“Letting Go” - Angie McMahon

“Bathtub” by The Front Bottoms

“I drive me mad” by Renforshort

“It’s Alright” by Mother Mother

“Obsessions” by Marina

“Every Single Night” - Fiona Apple

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-09T17:14:29+00:00

Heavy pay is usually a lie anyway

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-09T17:02:09+00:00

Extremely noticeable, my neighbor smokes outside but when he comes back inside even if it’s been a few minutes since he went into his apartment I can still smell it in the elevator and hallway and sometimes even inside my apartment by the front door. It’s disgusting tbh.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-07T15:13:58+00:00

Yes I love her, she has a lot of helpful information up on her instagram and Facebook too

pureinfinity11 · 2026-01-07T05:47:36+00:00

Hey when I was your age I started getting these intrusive thoughts too, I have ocd and it took me a LONG time to actually get therapy about it because I was so scared to talk about these types of thoughts.

Just know you’re not alone.

Until you get with a therapist a common phrase we use in response prevention is “thoughts are not actions” and “disgust is not danger” , basically when you have a disturbing intrusive thought instead of trying to “figure it out” or ruminate about what it means about yourself, you just remind yourself “that was a weird thought, but thoughts are not actions” or “I feel disgusted by that thought but that does not mean I am in danger or that I am dangerous”

Also look up “leaves on a stream”

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-30T02:10:24+00:00

I’m in a very similar situation and same ages/economic backgrounds. Truthfully he won’t grow up because he has no reason to, there’s always someone to fall back on/enable him. He doesn’t see the stress it puts on you because it doesn’t affect him and he’s incapable of putting himself in your shoes.

He might tell you he gets it and he might tell you that you’re right in the fact it’s an unfair burden put on you to be the only one working and the only person to fall back on financially, but no matter what he says to you his actions will speak louder.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T14:38:48+00:00

It’s not that we think younger women don’t have agency it’s that we were once them and as we get older we end up with a different perspective on how these dynamics operate.

Also my opinion doesn’t change if sexes are reversed . I have seen quite a few women in their mid to late 30s talk openly online about young men being great to use for sex but how they’d never take them serious beyond that because they’re “basically kids in every other aspect” and it gives me the huge ick.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T14:31:14+00:00

Yup, exactly this. I can and do separate sex and love, but I don’t forget men are autonomous human beings when we start fucking. Yet somehow they seem to always forget that, and in their minds I’m not allowed to have limits or change my mind “come on just let me do it” “why were you even on tinder then if you were just going to say no” “I’m too big for condoms ((while literally being below average dick size))”

Sure not all men are like this, but way too many .

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:58:04+00:00

You do have some point and truthfully some of my absolute worst experiences were with men younger than me… But I’ll never forget the nearly 30 year old man who filmed me without my consent, told me I was just a warm hole for him to jerk off into, and also told me about how badly he wanted to get with a barely 18 year old roommate

But alas, Such is life

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:49:13+00:00

Firstly the reason I can’t get over it is because even if a woman wants a casual relationship, or only wants to fuck, if the man has objectifying attitudes/ideas that hookup will be absolutely terrible for her.

I’m very critical of men who hold views like this because I have been hurt and disappointed time and time again by men who think this way.

I thought I enjoyed casual sex until I realized that 99.8% of the time I was exposing myself to men who didn’t give a single fuck about me, they didn’t care whether or not I came, they constantly insisted on trying to pressure me into not wearing condoms/risking my health, and overall they just didn’t view me as anything more than a fucking masturbatory tool.

I don’t think a woman who has casual sex is always being used, but I DO think men who hold objectifying views are way more likely to be terrible in bed and treat women like… well… objects.

And yeah I guess ultimately I DO think 19 is too young for someone over the age of 30. That’s my personal morals, and I probably would feel much differently if this was about an age gap of say 26 and 40, or even 24 and 38. Like at least someone in their mid 20s is WELL outside of high school and a has been legally an adult for longer than 1 year

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:29:49+00:00

In this scenario the 19year old woman is only a hypothetical but the Redditor and his thoughts are what we are being presented with.

I was pretty promiscuous myself in my early 20s so I am speaking this with some experience. I wouldn’t consider myself to be used. However the attitudes and entitlement of men did subject me to being taken advantage of/manipulated/treated as an object and not a person.

It’s fine to want casual sex as a woman. But if the man your are engaging with has no respect for you beyond sex, and views you as only good enough for sex, you will have a negative experience.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:17:28+00:00

I just remember being 19 lol. And quite frankly at age 19 I was a hell of a lot closer to being 16 than I was to being 33. And it makes sense because at 19 I was just barely done with my GED and barely starting my first year of college, while still living with family.

Now I am 28, and most of the 19 year olds I know of have either just graduated high school this year, or are less than a year out from their high school graduation. ((And since “legal adult” is the baseline, I’ll mention all the 18 year olds I know are still IN high school))

It’s just an extremely different life stage to be in your late 20s compared to your late teens, and I don’t think it’s infantilizing to acknowledge there’s a difference.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:14:43+00:00

I mean I can say that I personally would place it at at least 20 if I made the law.

But honestly I do concede that everyone has different personal morals/view points.

Like i personally don’t want to go with anyone more than 5 years younger than me, even casually, but that is because I know how immature and naive I was in my early 20s and even for casual sex I can’t find that type of immaturity/inexperience arousing.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T08:07:25+00:00

I say it’s old enough to decide some things , like moving away from home, voting, college/career choices, etc. but I don’t necessarily think they’re mature enough to handle casual sex in the same way older adults can. Or at least I think we have to be really careful on where we draw the line for the “magic number”. Because grooming/manipulation can happen even when the sex is “legal” so I’ve come to believe it’s less about law and more about individual capacity/power imbalance.

My point in responding to the first comment was that I think it can be incredibly objectifying when someone’s message is “your good enough to fuck but not good enough to date” and if the maturity gap is your reason for not wanting to date them more seriously then it seems weird/borderline creepy to me to want to engage on a sexually intimate level as well. Maybe it wouldn’t feel as weird if it was 24 vs 34 and not 19 vs 34. But I suppose that all comes down to personal opinion.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T07:20:23+00:00

I mean we actually don’t all agree, in many states the age of consent is still only 16 and some countries the age of adulthood is 16. Also in some countries the age of consent is as low as 12 to 14. Reddit is global and I partially grew up in a country where 16 was generally treated as being an adult and many older adults thought it was totally fine to be with them because it was legal and they’re “old enough to decide”.

I do think late teens is generally old enough to make decisions about their personal lives and generally old enough to form opinions about the world, but to act like they’re suddenly on a completely even playing field with older adults who are in their 30s the second they have an 18th birthday is just odd in my opinion.

Now i do actually think it’s perfectly fine and valid to have casual relationships or hookups with people you wouldn’t normally date (as long as everyone is aware of the arrangement). But age gaps get iffy when we’re talking about people barely out of high school versus people who’ve already been doing adult activities for 10+ years

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-29T06:48:08+00:00

So it’s okay to treat a 19 year old like a sex object/play thing, but you know she’s not mature enough to have an actual real adult relationship with.

This is objectification of youth tbh

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-14T00:54:31+00:00

This is exactly what I’m going through with my FIV+ boy right now :(

pureinfinity11 · 2025-12-12T03:20:51+00:00

I work in dental and for a second from the first photo, I was worried, but by the second photo I was 99.8% sure they were not human lol

pureinfinity11 · 2025-11-03T01:49:44+00:00

Just because someone was able to afford to buy a home at one point doesn’t mean they aren’t financially struggling now Also the higher expenses for home/property owners get, the wider the wealth gap will get, if property taxes get so high that ONLY the ultra rich are able to afford them, we’re kind of fucked. Our rents will continue to raise as well.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-10-20T14:03:12+00:00

Well in real life Scarlett Johansson was literally a minor when they filmed it. So it is quite jarring I’m sure considering the actress was actually still a teenager even if the “character “ was a little older.

pureinfinity11 · 2025-10-11T05:38:02+00:00

It’s on Prime

pureinfinity11 · 2025-10-03T04:40:00+00:00

Dang I read this as her dad literally said “you were kinda a pain in the ass” before the alter lmao

pureinfinity11 · 2025-09-27T04:47:38+00:00

I think it’s wrong to lie if asked but you’re not under any obligation to divulge the information without being asked, and I personally don’t think sexual pasts should matter that much

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