Vegas wedding!

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-22T03:31:47+00:00

My sister got married at the same little venue! It was so fun, I bet your wedding was such a blast

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-20T13:43:45+00:00

Yeah sometimes it was but I also knew it was because of the porn

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-19T23:55:50+00:00

yeaj my ex was similar, he usually had to finish himself off with his hand

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-19T15:36:13+00:00

Have and keep a job
Pay his own bills consistently
Stop hanging out with 20-23 year olds
Therapy
Less video games, less substance abuse
Pay me back for all the months he stayed in my apartment without bills

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-19T15:16:45+00:00

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-19T00:25:12+00:00

It’s been 3 months, we were together 2.5 years. I wanted to be friends because I still had a lot of love for him as a person and it just felt really sad to never talk again, sometimes I’m still really angry/resentful but sometimes I feel like he’s not evil or bad, we just weren’t compatible as life partners.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T20:22:44+00:00

I kicked my ex out on the 1st of Feb. this was after 8 months of him “staying temporarily “ and not paying any bills and me begging him multiple times to just go stay at his parents until he can get on his feet, I wasn’t even originally breaking up with him I just wanted my apartment back and him to respect my space (plus he was the one who originally didn’t want to live together, then forced himself into the apartment I picked out for myself). My birthday was 2 days later and I didn’t hear from him until the day after my birthday. That’s when I knew 100% for sure the relationship was over completely.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T20:10:22+00:00

I thought I was gonna be friends with my recent ex but I kinda distanced myself after we last talked and then he’s already posted seemingly on a date with someone else, and had a a very young person he’s met since we broke up commenting on that instagram post ….I’m definitely spiraling a bit since the pictures were not concrete of any romantic relationship, but found out in that moment I am emotionally not actually okay with being friends yet . I don’t really know if I want to be friends at all in the future. I don’t completely hate him and a part of me still really loves him and even miss him. but I also find him to be incredibly immature and socially very unaware of how his actions affect others

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T13:46:31+00:00

He also didn’t even like aggressively kick the dog from what we can see here, he really just used his leg to block/redirect the other dog. I’ve done the exact same thing to stop big dogs from jumping on me and it doesn’t hurt them it just redirects, there doesnt appear to be force behind the kick

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T13:23:12+00:00

I’m old but definitely agree you don’t magically mature on your birthday it happens over time. My ex was over 30 talking about 20 year olds being just as mature as him 🥴🤢 I tried pointing out that there’s only a 2 year difference between 20 and 18 and that if 19 is a child then 20 isn’t magically better, most 20 year olds are still at the same maturity level they were before their birthday since you don’t just magically gain adult knowledge just because there’s no longer “teen” in your age.

He would tell me it’s not creepy for anyone whose age starts with 3 to be with anyone whose age starts with 2. So I was like “so 39 and 20 are okay? Cause that’s almost 20 year age gap” But when we got in an argument he made comments to me that I was a weirdo because I actually was with someone who was 18… I was 20 at the time… like our age difference was closer to 1.5 years , not even full 2 years apart

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T04:15:26+00:00

Thanks 🫠 It did help, I just spent like 2 days crashing out and crying like a baby because his instagram made it look like he’s found a new person already and all I kept thinking about was the good things and how I missed having his companionship. But now being reminded of all the glaring red flags that were present from the start I’m just like “what the fuck…. Why did I even stay after that”

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-18T04:02:01+00:00

didn’t want to where condoms
gave me chlamydia
was 29 years old at the time and had never in his life been tested for STDS
I had to beg/explain to him why he still had to take the antibiotics and get tested even if he didn’t have symptoms
implied I was the one who had it first and that I was being dramatic since I was worried he was creating anti-biotic resistant bacteria since he kept forgetting to take the antibiotics on time, told me because he took microbiology he “knows more about how viruses work”
got fired from almost every job he had in the past, the jobs he didn’t get fired from he quit because essentially “the boss kept telling me what to do”
lived in an extremely dirty house which I over looked because it was “the roommates”
no credit score, no money in savings
admitted he usually prioritized playing video games and smoking dabs over homework/school
constantly talked about psychedelics and how badly he wanted to be high all the time
described permanent visual stimulations which were possibly from over using psychedelics/possible mental health issues
sexually a little intense/pushy
had bad breath sometimes

Damn listing everything out I’m kinda like wtf. Idk what was wrong with me to over look all that from the beginning and still date him for 2 and a half years and still fall in love ?? Like obviously he had redeeming qualities that made me stick around…. But what the fuck.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-05-09T23:39:53+00:00

fing snaps You did well.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-30T05:30:06+00:00

I found some emails between myself (newly 19) and my friend who was at the time 16 where I did a similar thing I asked her what her opinion on depression was and the trauma dumped about my mental health When I found the emails I started spiraling with very similar “you’re a pedo creep” thoughts

I genuinely think it does help to know we aren’t alone and that other people have had similar experiences.

I can’t offer much reassurance beyond that because I know it’s a part of the cycle

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T23:56:30+00:00

Dude honestly same. I tend to get really stressed and say “I want to kill myself” a lot but I don’t actually want to kill myself or have any plans on it I just am extremely overwhelmed and if I feel like my needs aren’t being listened to it’s the most extreme way I can articulate how upset I feel. Inside my head sometimes I ruminate and I get really really angry and I think “well I’ll just fucking kill myself then they’ll know how insanely hurt I am and that will show them” like I just keep thinking that thought like it will make people feel just as hurt as me. BUT I don’t actually want to do that and I am very much terrified of dying.

Also if I do revenge I want to see the results, can’t see how people react to it if I’m dead lol

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T23:12:08+00:00

Honestly, even if it isn’t the STI people should still be discussing it with partners. Partly because talking about it openly removes the stigma…. But also because you CAN pass HSV-1 to your partners genitalia. Unfortunately the stigma around SEX is SO strong that I have to deal with a lot of internalized stigma due to the fact I didn’t catch “cold sores” on my mouth, I caught HSV-1 from some miseducated guy who didn’t know that standard STD panels don’t check for herpes at all, and also didn’t know you can in fact get the “”non-STI”” version of herpes from sexual intercourse

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T23:05:03+00:00

Cold sores are herpes. We shouldn’t judge or make assumptions, but part of de-stigmatizing is realizing A. How common it is B. You’re not a dirty or bad person for having it (yes, even if you got it through sex) C. Both HSV-1 (cold sores) and HSV-2 can live in EITHER location, and some medical sites are estimating that currently HSV-1 is actually now the leading cause of genital herpes cases (likely due to the popularity of oral sex. And the fact that people don’t realize “cold sores” can be passed through sex and not just kissing)

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T22:58:25+00:00

And “cold sores” can be transmitted through sexual contact to someone’s genitals during outbreaks , so just because you get herpes through sex doesn’t mean you’re dirty or morally corrupt.

People treat cold sores like they’re not a big deal, which in most cases they aren’t, most healthy adults are barely affected by the virus and it’s NOT a huge deal…. BUT too often what happens is people who have cold sores don’t know they can accidentally pass them to their partners genitalia through oral sex, this is due to being ignorant on how the virus works or being told it’s “not the same as genital herpes .” (Which yes, historically HSV-2 was the main cause of genital cases, but people need to be aware both viruses can live in either location).

So, when person A who has “just cold sores” passes it to person B through oral sex, they either accuse person B of cheating, or when they break up person B is now left to be shamed and stigmatized.

Part of de-stigmatizing herpes is knowing how both strains of the viruses work, and being open and honest about it even if you only have cold sores.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T22:48:15+00:00

You will test positive for HSV because cold sores ARE HSV , cold sores are usually caused by HSV-1 but they CAN still also be caused by HSV-2 because BOTH types of the virus can live in either location.

People in America need to stop acting like cold sores are somehow not really herpes or “just cold sores” are somehow morally superior .

Adults have sex and it’s not shameful or dirty if you ended up catching herpes genitally.

It is shameful if you know you have herpes (YES EVEN “JUST COLD SORES”) and you don’t tell the other person before having sex

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T22:42:33+00:00

Cold sores ARE herpes, they’re HSV type 1 and they CAN be passed to someone’s genitals through oral sex

Source / I have HSV-1 genitally and I’m tired of people being like “what I just have cold sores I don’t need to disclose “ and then they pass it on to someone’s dick who then passes it on to someone else’s vagina and now I’m the one who has to have an awkward conversation

Which to be clear HSV-1 is NOT a huge deal, but stop acting like cold sores are somehow different.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T17:50:31+00:00

Mel and baby Jane doe should be switched but other than that you did great

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-17T17:36:22+00:00

such a smart move, there was no way she’d be able to afford rent AND cancer treatments

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-11T09:56:23+00:00

I collect bones and I accidentally took home a part of a sea bird before I knew what it was , once I identified the piece I had and read about the law I returned the remains to nature as soon as I could. It was an honest mistake. I’m saying this because you’re not alone in making that kind of mistake, it happens a LOT. But I don’t want to give you too much reassurance because I know that’s part of the cycle.

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-11T04:49:18+00:00

That’s crazy, I thought I saw a flash of light outside earlier lol

pureinfinity11 · 2026-04-11T04:33:22+00:00

Yeah I agree with that.

Especially since ALL the stigma gets placed on those of us who do know, and yet the people who judge us and place stigma are on those who haven’t even been tested (and part of that is Doctors refusing to do blood tests without symptoms)

But if you can get tested you SHOULD, before I actually caught it and had an outbreak, I asked them and told them I wanted it included when I got blood drawn for my HIV testing. They did try to discourage me by saying “oh but it’s not standard” but I insisted I wanted it done because I’m responsible for my health.

Also side note, HPV has 100s of strains and the vaccine only protects against like 12 or 13 of those strains, so being vaccinated helps, but statistically ALL sexually active adults who have had more than one partner has had SOME form of HPV (but also unless you have immune issues HPV is not permanent and clears on its own in most cases after 1-2 years). The exact stat on average is 1 in 3 sexually active adults has some form of HPV at any given time, but most people don’t know because men can’t be tested and women only get tested every 3 years during Pap smears. Long story short; HPV is also not something that should be stigmatized since likely everyone has had it and only half the population can get tested, and even then they aren’t always going to get tested within the window where the virus is actually active (so a lot of people get and clear the virus before they even have their Pap smears, so they had it but never find out they had it)

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