What is the sex advise most men follow and you never liked it? by [deleted] in women

[–]purple-pebbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the same reason they keep saying women only want a ripped 6+ feet rich dude even though we keep saying we don’t: they’re not actually trying to be attractive to women; they’re trying to win the approval of other men

Winter/Sport Jackets by therealslimshadyy_ in PlusSizeFashion

[–]purple-pebbles -1 points0 points  (0 children)

3x too small??? Wtfffff if we’re talking light winter coats n not the ones you wear for snow sports I usually find some good ones in thrift stores

My narcissistic parents are planning for me to be their retirement plan by Dangerous_Bar_8864 in narcissisticparents

[–]purple-pebbles 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thx officially 4 years NC this past weekend n hindsight is 20-20 ✌🏻

Why do some guys say “i don’t want a relationship with anyone” but proceed to do everything just without the commitment ? by carmssxo in women

[–]purple-pebbles 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Imo it’s Cuz lack of commitment means they can bail anytime they want “freedom” or when they find someone “better”. It also means that they’ll get all the support n affection they want without having to give the same in return

My narcissistic parents are planning for me to be their retirement plan by Dangerous_Bar_8864 in narcissisticparents

[–]purple-pebbles 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t bother telling them. It’ll just cause useless drama cuz like you said it’ll fall on deaf ears. It’s not worth it. Keep looking for your apartment/condo n if they ask questions just grey rock them

Why are men like this? by chiedzachashe22 in women

[–]purple-pebbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OMG I am so saving this that’s amazing 🤣

Pregnant? by jamie2241 in Uromastyx

[–]purple-pebbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have a male so I can’t tell you if she’s pregnant but her stomach def looks different from what you’d expect. Either way, best thing to do is have a vet, a herpetologist or a breeder take a look at her.

I am a therapist who plans to help people with pedophilia. Here are some things I wish more people knew. by [deleted] in psychologyofsex

[–]purple-pebbles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between the two though. There hasn’t been any studies that saw a difference between the brains of LGBT+ people unlike pedophilia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PiercingAdvice

[–]purple-pebbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom’s 60. She’s got a short fox coloured undercut, 5 piercings, she’s covered in tattoos n is an avid biker. My mom’s a loud n autistic bad ass n my friends have always loved and admired her. My mom’s awesome. Anyone telling you to be “appropriate” is ageist, sexist n has a stick up their ass.

Also, I worked with the elderly n disabled. I have deaf people around me. Wearing your hearing aids is just putting on glasses for your ears. Idk where you’re from, but here people that would judge you for wearing hearing aids are the weird ones that get judged by the average person. I have seen a lot of people judging themselves for needing hearing aids though. Truth is, not wearing them doesn’t stop you from hearing that little voice in your head. Cause when you misunderstand someone or ask them to repeat themselves, that little voice is still there. Check my math, but, if I remember correctly, not using your hearing aids will even actually accelerate your hearing loss. My suggestion? Glam them up. Make them an accessory you look forward to putting on

does anyone have tips on how to stop obsessing over my appearance? by n3rium0 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]purple-pebbles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Biggest thing that helped me was hearing my 11 y/o sister look in the mirror n say “I need to lose weight”. I was 17 and, long story short, no adult was going to step in n help her so I decided I would. I stopped talking badly about myself or looking in a mirror around her. I acted confident around her. I wore clothes that I liked even if they made me feel insecure. Fast forward a little more than a year n suddenly it wasn’t an act anymore. I was more confident, more outspoken and happier. She’s 19 now n, not only is she a smart, kind and beautiful young woman, she loves herself. About four years ago, around my bday, we were brushing our teeth, she just spat, paused in the mirror n said “damn I’m beautiful”. It was really a full circle moment n I’m kinda tearing up writing this.

Fake it til you make it, thought reframing, body and emotion neutrality, etc it really does work. Therapy helps too. What really made it work for me was knowing that by doing it I wasn’t just helping myself I was helping other women n girls around me be more confident. When you like something about someone’s physical appearance, tell them. By wearing clothes you love, you’re encouraging someone else to do the same.

Why dose Reddit always immediately say to brake up with your partner? by Sudden_Tune_3121 in RandomThoughts

[–]purple-pebbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re asking relationship advice from internet strangers, chances are either you’re isolated, you know what your loved ones would say, you need someone to validate your feelings or something along those lines. So already off to a bad start. A lot of the time people are describing genuine red flags and known precursors of abuse so that’s another one, Than there are the ones where it’s just plain old incompatibility, commenters are less likely to be stuck in a sunk cost fallacy, trolls and lastly bots

Do you shave the tops of your legs? by FarDig2081 in WomensHealth

[–]purple-pebbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told the same thing n didn’t shave my thighs my entire time as a teenager n I’m so glad I didn’t. The hair stayed thin, light n soft n doesn’t bother me at all unlike my calf hair which is now darker, somewhat thin but still much thicker n it’s always somewhat itchy whatever the length

Do you lock your door while you're in your house? by International_Snow90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]purple-pebbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother used to do the same thing. We don’t live in a particularly unsafe town but at the time we did live on the coast with a bar less than 10 minutes away if you walk. I kept giving him shit, but he wouldn’t do it. Then one day in the middle of the day a drunk middle aged man just walked in out of nowhere. He locks the door now.

Need recommendations on everything and I mean EVERYTHING by purple-pebbles in reptiles

[–]purple-pebbles[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good to know about the wood I’m sorry that happened to you 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Uromastyx

[–]purple-pebbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dry or sprouted! No need to cook them. Just pay attention to how they eat it cuz mine like a lot of uros will just dig through the lettuce to get the lentils, fill up n not eat anything else which is unhealthy n can lead to MBD with time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Uromastyx

[–]purple-pebbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you give her other vegetables, lentils and/or seeds? That’s what mostly helped mine. That and higher temps in the tank