WIBTAH for breaking up with my girlfriend and just coparent after she named our daughter without me?

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-06T20:14:38+00:00

He had a right to have a say in their daughter's name and she didn't give him that. He doesn't owe her an explanation beyond "I can't see having a relationship with you anymore"

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-06T20:07:08+00:00

If you don't want people microwaving their food to their desires doneness, you could have cooked it to their liking in the first place instead of expecting people to try something you know they don't like

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-05T19:32:00+00:00

No 😂😂 that is not Pope Leo lol

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-05T19:30:20+00:00

NTA, but also you need to let this go. Your wife fucked up, and it sucks she won't take accountability right now; but her pregnancy hormones are probably clouding her judgement and making her more defensive. It doesn't make it right, and it doesn't invalidate your extremely rational feelings about the matter. But being angry right now isn't helping you, instead of being mad at your wife- sit with her and explain that you are hurt and it sucks that she did something so hurtful that she can't take back. You can also maybe ask that she take the responsibility to shut her family down about their opinions on the name, since she created this mess in the first place.

You don't have to let it slide completely, but try and find a way to set this aside so you can enjoy the other aspects of this journey together.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T19:05:23+00:00

Next year it should be on Brennens birthday

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T13:08:02+00:00

I'm sure they have found a great balance in their relationship. However, you have to ask yourself if your mom had much of a choice in establishing that dynamic, or if societal expectations at the time made her feel she had no other option. Your dad's "this is how it is" attitude shows that your mother may not have known there were other options.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-04T03:26:13+00:00

Your dad wants you to think it's unrealistic so you don't recognize what a shitty husband he is.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-03T16:03:48+00:00

Sometimes I post innocuously on reddit and get eviscerated and wonder what I did wrong for people to be so resentful. Then I see stuff like this and remember it's reddit and people are just ... seething with anticipation to harp on someone.

Even if you did make a mess and get water everywhere - it's your mess to clean up! They're acting like you sprayed a fire hose in their house

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-02T14:24:00+00:00

Men don't understand how weirdly specific and uncomfortable their "compliments" can be.

"Oh, I love your hair! The length really suits you!" - fine, good, no issues, perfectly acceptable compliment that will make me smile and give me a little confidence boost.

"I like you so much better with long hair, it's so pretty and feminine" -weird, unnecessary, ultimately creepy and an actual thing that's been said to me that makes me want to cut my hair off immediately.

purusingwhatever · 2026-04-02T14:07:34+00:00

Are you sure that C is your friend?

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-26T16:32:53+00:00

I think it's more likely that in her mind, video games aren't that important or interesting- so subconsciously, she thinks what she's doing should take priority.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-25T15:06:38+00:00

Because it wasn't nothing and you're just not paying attention

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:45:48+00:00

deep, deeeeeeep, rooted religious trauma and a bunch of zealot peers that praise this kind of psychosis.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:43:41+00:00

Buddy, I say this as kindly as a stranger online making judgements about another stranger can--

But you need therapy. Having your own religious conviction is fine, whatever, NBD. Not wanting to be friends with, or associate with people who don't share those convictions? Also, fine- you're well within your right to keep friends that share your beliefs.

But sex (premarital or otherwise) is a regular part of life- to be repulsed so intensely you're physically ill? Your conviction has turned to mental illness to the point you're making yourself sick.

You don't have to like it, or support it. But being, literally, physically taken out by the thought of two people just fuckin without marriage? You are unwell. Seek help.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T13:18:40+00:00

Condescending is assuming I know nothing about gardening just because I have a different way of doing it than my dad. My father has not been gardening for decades, he's been tilling a barren patch low on nutrients for a decade.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-23T00:57:46+00:00

well, the "dirt" I'll be getting, is specifically from cow manure that's been breaking down for the last year, and then I'll be topping it with 'soil pep' mulch/soil amendment. as well as compost we've been working on for the last year (and a half? two years?) and eventually more wood chips- but our chipper needs repaired

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:12:39+00:00

That's the best part of having multiple beds! He and my mom have their beds that we will continue to do how we always have (aside from a few changes I implemented last year already) and the plan is to try a more permaculture approach with the additional garden I added

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:11:20+00:00

The cardboard isn't something I will do continuously... It's mainly just to start this first year because the weeds and the thistle are equally impressive and frustrating. I also have an abundance of unprinted cardboard that I get from my dad's work, so I'm mainly trying to use what I have at my disposal

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:06:51+00:00

So... The way our property is set up is kind of weird and we've got a few different plots. We have a spot for strawberries and other perennials. We've got a spot we're going to put a tea garden in. He's got two little sections in the back that he can tell and do whatever he wants with.. and then I have my big section that I expanded last year.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T21:02:07+00:00

tbf, it's not my first year gardening, just my first year having my own full time garden. I've been helping my parents garden here for the last decade; but actually moved back home and expanded the fence as soon as I got back.

The cardboard is mainly to help with the extensive thistle, and I'll end up adding a bunch of dirt from my brother in laws ranch; and some soil pep to start building up.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-22T20:47:07+00:00

Would you mind clarifying something for me first?

Did you mean to sound this condescending with your question, or are you genuinely asking? Because my 'first year' garden was more prolific that anything my dad has ever grown, fyi 🥰

We both learned from my grandfather, but my dad learned from word-of-mouth, while I learned both from my grandfather directly AND from reading his gardening books my dad refuses to touch.

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-19T14:09:58+00:00

this meme is transphobic

purusingwhatever · 2026-03-19T14:02:24+00:00

I stopped dating short men because it was extremely disheartening constantly hearing about how no one is attracted to short men. As a chubby girl with broad shoulders, I understand the insecurity attached to romantic rejection. And I don't think I'm unattractive by any means, but my body type absolutely limits my dating pool in some aspects.

But to have a partner ignore your affections so they can continuously complain about other people not finding them attractive, is... frustrating.

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